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I volunteer with a recently released sex offender. We were hanging out on the street the other day and I noticed him staring at all kinds of attractive women. I joked with him that if I were his partner, I would slap him. But seriously, I said, my sister has moved out of neighborhoods just based...

Is your question about location or condoms? Seems like the condoms should be fine if they're in their packaging. Maybe wash them. Or just get new condoms for free.

After reading your comment, I was wondering if you're projecting your fear of women onto me.

We agree about women contacting you if they want to. You're welcome to think the stuff about women being in charge is nonsense. I would like to give the OP as many possible avenues and ways of thinking as possible. If we disagree, so much the better for the OP. I'm not trying to convert you -...

I thought I had when I said "I've found my women friends mention rescheduling if they actually intend to." But please let me know if there's something I missed. Thank you!

I think despite what our culture says that women should actually be picking up men. We men intuitively understand that we have no clue how to attract women to us. And our panicked attempts to get women disgust them. This leads to terror of being alone forever and a lot of strange, desperate...

Sounds like this one has correctly identified you as a chump. Fortunately, women are extremely forgiving of chumps and maybe it's not too late. I've found my women friends mention rescheduling if they actually intend to. Or they'll bring it up later. If you're in touch with her just wish her a...

I've had women do this out of a desire to be fully upfront with me about the men in their life. I am frequently shocked on this website how often men take honest & decent behavior and portray it as a female scheme to steal all your money. Listen, being hit on with a giant sexual agenda annoys...

People lie when it doesn't feel safe to tell the truth. So you might want to ask yourself if the way you've been relating to her makes truth safe. I'm ok with people lying to me about most things. Lies are everywhere - if you're this shocked, you really need to work on your intuition. It's just...

Exactly, I can't tell you what your gut says. I'm not in your body. But I think it will tell you either one or the other :) To me, your question sounded like "I want to do this but am I trying to hard? It's against SoSuave's rules." I think if you have checked in carefully with yourself, you...

As usual, many terror-based responses. 1 married lady kissed me. I said hold it. I was ridiculously attracted to her but also friends with her husband. I was like, this is great, but I don't like secrets. She said he wouldn't care. And I said, then surely you won't mind telling him. She said...

No. I like open relationships (no Ketamine). When I talk about my girlfriends, right now, I am (mostly) single, I'm referring to over the past four years as I've been doing a life experiment with open relationships that I've very much enjoyed. That is one hypothesis. And also, there are many...

^^ lol! He made a choice, she didn't force him to do anything. As evidence, my girlfriends sleep with other guys and I am with them and love them deeply. Be that a choice you agree or disagree with, it's a choice and you can't blame anybody but yourself for making it. Dignity? I don't see a lot...

The worst thing you can do with women is anything but what truly feels right to you. Lots of guys worry and contact too much, other guys worry and contact too little. Sounds to me like you are trying to control other people through your techniques and rules. I hate manipulative people and the...

I believe only you can decide if you're overreacting. What is your motivation for breaking up with her? Does it feel right to you? I will say this sounds controlling on your part. I believe that what she does at a party with her friends is none of your business. And caressing a guy's face and...

Well, glad you're having fun. I have an zero-effort philosophy. When something is coming naturally I can work without it feeling like effort. I think this dovetails with what you're saying. I do no effort not because it "works" but because it feels right. When I'm interacting with someone and...

I'm sad to hear you think of expressing interest as humbling yourself or lowering yourself! I think that's a strange way of looking at attraction. It's not like I consciously choose to be attracted to someone, it just happens. I view expressing my attraction like any other form of expression...

I'm going to suggest something radical, namely that if you build a genuine connection with a lady, she might even just tell the truth. Anyway, what you did sounds fine. Omg, "keep the mystery" you're trying too hard. Sounds like you're focused on results rather than making your dreams come...

My women friends don't respond for a wide variety of reasons. They receive a crapload of messages on that site, so they don't even read them all. Then if they get busy or in a relationship they're not going to respond. There are so many reasons why they might not respond. You'd have to be...