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Because I still live at home with my parents, I don’t have a career and only do DoorDash for work at the moment, and I don’t really have any friends. If I was in my early 20’s still, those first two probably wouldn’t be so bad but I feel like they really look bad at 30 and that would become...

That’s exactly how I feel now and I’m kicking myself for not doing anything in my 20’s. I mean yeah I lost my virginity during that time and fooled around a little bit with one other girl one time, but that’s the extent of what I experienced in my 20’s. And I don’t want my 30’s to be the same...

Basically the same way you look at losing money at the casino. I’ve gotten plenty of monetary disappointments from casinos over the years and I’m sure the monetary loss from a failed date would be less than what I lose at the casino.

Honestly I don’t think I’ve ever done that. I got into this situation in the first place because I had my confidence with women destroyed and then continually bruised as I was growing up. This whole concern over inexperience didn’t start until I was 20 and I’m an idiot for not doing anything to...

1. I will admit that I feel it isn’t right to give up without even trying. I’ve never even asked anyone out, I just feel discouraged since I’m so far behind for my age. 2. I agree, it is a lot more common than it used to be compared to previous generations and it doesn’t seem to be a trend...

So you’re saying confident inexperienced men are less likely to get rejected?

Well I’m never around women so I don’t ever get to do that. But if I’m at the store and there’s a girl my age as a cashier, I have no problem exchanging pleasantries with her. I also had a job at a horse racetrack last summer, which let me approach women every workday and they would also...

It seems that women have a different perspective and think that it is important though. Don’t get me wrong, I agree with what you said about it, but it just seems women have a different opinion on its importance and do value dating experience. I wouldn’t necessarily say that I’m using it as a...

What about if it isn’t on a first date? Is it still a bad idea to say it that way even if the past relationships topic gets brought up on a subsequent date? I guess that would be better than just adamantly saying you’re not gonna talk about that right now because if you get defensive, it will...

Y Yeah if you keep getting repeatedly rejected because of it, that would get to me for sure.

And if they do ask, would saying that you don’t want to talk about that at this point in time work?

Doing that would prevent follow up questions about my past and she wouldn’t persist until she gets an answer out of me? I’m not too opposed to stretching the truth because I do want to relocate to a new area, but don’t want to leave my hometown without ever experiencing dating in the area where...

I lost mine at 21 too. I would agree that isn’t really considered late by today’s standards. I actually told the girl that I lost my virginity to that I was a kissless virgin at 21 out of pure nervousness and she wasn’t deterred. But I do think the lack of experience is looked at differently in...

Yes and no all of what you describe would be awful and wouldn’t make me feel any better than I do now, but going through that would teach me more about relationships I’m sure. Appreciate you sympathizing with me on that. And it appears that most women agree with the point about heartbreak you...

Yeah and that’s exactly why I feel that a lot of them think why hassle with an inexperienced guy when there’s an abundance of other guys who are probably more experienced to choose from and they’re only a swipe away.

Unlikely since the overwhelming majority of women have basic relationship experience by the time they reach my age group. I’m also not talking to any women and haven’t in over 6 years. I would agree, but unfortunately women seem to think it is very useful and important. I think the chances of...

There is so much truth to this. I feel like my mental health is in pretty bad shape from having never been in love or dated anyone by age 30. I wouldn’t ever resort to violence because of this, but I can definitely feel the negative effects on my mental health.

I don’t think it would be an all-in-one solution, but being alone all the time does weigh on me and I do think I would feel better than I do right now. Everyone else I know has had a relationship and I’m the only one who’s been alone their whole life, so it isn’t even something that they could...

Wow I didn’t even know there was someone else like me on the forum. I feel your pain man, are you concerned about women being turned off by your lack of experience as well?

This is 100% me. 30 years old, never had a girlfriend and no dating experience. Turned to drugs and alcohol because I first got depressed by it back when I was 16 and wanted to be numbed, been doing that frequently ever since. Also feel like I’m now stuck in a catch-22 inescapable situation...