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    Is approach at work really so peculiar?

    The easy answer is to avoid dating anyone at work. Service level hourly jobs are probably ok, and probably no one cares. Professional jobs vary. Again, the easy answer is avoid. I had one early career job where everyone was just out of college. We all exchanged numbers and friended each other...
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    Quick question for my ex military guys who have served in the private sector

    I'm not sure what the goal is here. If you want to join the military, then join the military. There is plenty of travel in the military. If you want to live abroad or travel abroad (outside the US), then live abroad or travel abroad. If you want a civilian job with the government and have...
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    Hard Truth: There is no decent alternative to OLD

    I think this is a great idea. Note that he says he works as a bartender "now and then" - no need to quit your six figure day job. As a similar example, I know a couple where the guy was a part time DJ at a bar/club. I believe he was actually from a wealthy family and I assume he was working...
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    "Classic" PUA & Suave Relevancy in a Digital World

    Nothing has changed. Girls still like confidence and social status. Plenty of girls aren't on Tinder or don't take it seriously. Living with your parents at 24 is fine as long as you are saving tons of cash and involved in outside activities.
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    Quick question for my ex military guys who have served in the private sector

    These are not particularly useful languages compared to, say, Arabic or Chinese, but you could certainly look at State Department or Intelligence jobs. The government is happy to hire ex military, the private sector may not really know what to do with you, though you could consider going back to...
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    Should I book a hotel instead?

    Book a room at the Boston Hostel https://www.hiusa.org/find-hostels/massachusetts/boston-19-stuart-street It's better to have your own space.
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    Textbook example

    I came across this blog post and I wanted to add some commentary from the sosuave perspective: Happy 40th Birthday Dana! https://scottaaronson.blog/?p=6946 I found this comment from his wife, Dana, particularly interesting: https://scottaaronson.blog/?p=6946#comment-1945559 They are now...
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    How do you pick up girls at a club

    I think you're right. Clubs are great. From both personal experience, and from talking to girls recently, I think there are a lot of girls out there who love to make out (tongue kiss) with random guys in a club. Full body contact grinding (close dancing) is also fun. No need to exchange names...
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    28 year old

    Have you asked her out yet? You've already been pre-vetted with the cousin matchmaker connection, and you'll have plenty of time to get to know each other in person when you meet up. She saw your message. She might be busy, but I'd go ahead and suggest a specific date and time and activity -...
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    Girls that follow you in the gym a thing or just my imagination

    Yes, this is what interested girls do. "Hi, I've seen you around here, and I wanted to say hi. Do you live/work/go to school around here? Ok great, I was thinking about getting a smoothie after this workout, care to join me?" "Let's keep in touch, what's your phone number and instagram?" This...
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    Public Speaking: You either got it or you don't?

    Toastmasters is great if you're specifically looking at public speaking. They probably already do this, but be sure to ask them to take a video of you - at least for prepared formal speeches. A few indirect but also good options: community theater - prepare and try out for a speaking role take...
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    Immersion: Learning a Foreign Language by Yourself

    Modern internet dictionaries and phrasebooks are amazing. They will usually have audio as well where you can hear the word or phrase pronounced by a native speaker. Books (ebook or physical) have their place, but I think they are more useful for unfamiliar character sets (Hebrew, Arabic...
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    Will it backfire if I approach women in a coffee shop I work in?

    I'd go with a low key approach here. This is a fairly common scenario. You should definitely try to talk to her. "Hey, I've seen you around, and I wanted to say 'hello'." Let her unplug her earphones or whatever. "Hi, I'm Deep State. I wanted to say 'hi'. Are you in school?" etc. etc. 1-2...
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    Going For it

    If even that is too much to start with, you can "pretend" to pick some piece of clothing fuzz off of her hair or her upper arm. Nothing has to actually be there, just pretend that you got it. I've had good success with this. It sends a clear message that you want to be in her personal space. She...
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    Kiss her before asking/giving a phone number

    It worked for andreihaha just a few months ago. Going straight for a kiss is a real revelation if you've never heard of it before, or thought it doesn't exist in real life. Your presence, body language, and eye contact speak volumes. Your touch, smell, and tone of voice help complete her...
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    If I don't make my intentions clear, I'm a friend. If I do, I'm a creep. What the hell is going on?

    Exactly. This is why guys need to learn cold approach. 1) if you do it right, you may have more successes and fewer rejections than you might think 2) more importantly, you'll gain experience and confidence so that everything will feel and be natural when you talk to that girl in your yoga class...
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    Need help gaming 21 to 24 demographic.

    If you're thinking marriage / babies at some point, and are already decent with women, I'd recommend playing the long game on this. Keep in casual touch through social media, enough so that she can see that you're awesome, though short of direct contact (this is for girls that you've already...
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    How women make it easy when they like you

    Small steps are good. Holding her hand is good. You're walking side by side in the park or down the street. Take her hand and keep walking. Look at her a moment with a confident and reassuring smile. Stop and sit on the ground with your back against a tree. Have her sit against your body in...
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    Kiss her before asking/giving a phone number

    Pimpologist has some nice writeups on the Kiss Close: Pimpology 101: The Kiss Close https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/pimpology-101-the-kiss-close.17006/ Pimpology 101: The Kiss Close – Part II https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/pimpology-101-the-kiss-close-%E2%80%93-part-ii.17003/ I'll...
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    the real reason for 3 second rule

    Three second rule works well for random, 1-off impersonal situations, busy street, crowded subway. Great for building up some game from nothing. "Hi, I just wanted to meet you." "Nice shoes. Let's get together sometime, what's your number?" A bias for action. Works better than wondering if she...
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