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The only way I win is by not playing the game but it's so difficult.

The same people in her family have all come from dysfunctional relationships, her Mother has been married and divorced three times. She is in no position to give any advice. The behaviour i have seen from them in regards to our relationship shows just how damaged they are. From what I know, they...

We have been discussing things openly and taking blame and responsibility. We have opened up about what went wrong and how we felt and things are making more sense. I can see why she felt unloved and unappreciated and it pieces everything together. We didnt allow each other time and space to...

Just on the highlighted sentence, mine is texting and is apologetic and talking about how much she loves and how we went so wrong. There's no anger aimed towards me, I'm not sure if this is her way of putting things at peace and moving on or if she is opening up about solving our issues.

I've broke NC, we text yesterday and today. She has told me how she felt unattractive and undesired and that I didn't love her and it knocked her confidence and she is right because I felt exactly the same and we both pulled away. The intimacy slacked off lately and none of us did anything to...

Alcohol has been a problem and it shouldn't be. It should be something enjoyed responsibly and with good intentions. Fortunately, mine isn't a big drinker, it affects her for days afterwards so she rarely drinks and it's maybe once/twice monthly but I know not to listen to anything she has...

I find it odd when women feel they have to hide the fact they have had a drink, I had to deal with that a few times and it happened when I was out for the day, she had people round and had drinks and tried to deny the whole thing, there were wine glasses in the sink when I come home and the...

She reached out to me today via text. She said she is sorry for what has happened and the way she made me feel. She said she will regret this for the rest of her life. She told me how she felt that I didn't love her anymore and lost interest in her and her walls went up as a result. I responded...

I have just spoken to my Dad on the phone. It took me a couple of days to pluck up the courage but I cried throughout the whole call. My Dad is in his 70's and my ex has a great relationship with him. They have a special bond and he adores her so much and vice versa. She helps him with his food...

Can I ask you why she would shut me down in an argument/discussion and not allow me to get my point across? It was so frustrating and I found it difficult to communicate which would result in me losing my head and she thrived on that.

Doesn't it just mask over the pain though? I'm not ready for that yet, everything is a major blur. If she reaches out, I would suggest relationship counselling, there shouldn't be a taboo around it and may be helpful. If she doesn't reach out then I'll just continue taking it day by day.

What is the reason for girls changing their profile picture after a break up? Is there a psychological reason behind it?

She will have not had time to digest anything yet. If I know her, it takes her a few days to process everything sometimes up to a week. We've been here before but we have never gone longer than a day without talking. I'm willing to wait a bit longer before saying something. I feel I have to tell...

I'm struggling today. I have been thinking about reaching out, although I'm blocked on everything I think I can get through via e-mail or to her work phone but I'm holding strong and I'm not doing it. I want to tell her that I have been so wrong so many times and I am so sorry for what I have...

Day 2 I woke up this morning disgusted with myself. I wasn't a nice person to be around at times and I have put myself in her shoes to see how it made her feel. The aggression, the negative behaviour was not good and it must have been awful for her. I may not have put hands on her but I did get...

Thank you. I'm just sat here thinking how did it all go wrong. I mean, I know when it went wrong, it was when i scrolled through her phone and broke trust and found something that really hurt me and since that moment things never really fully recovered. I was looking at a photograph of when we...

Friends in the gym said tonight that she will reach out at some point just to keep you hanging on and play the game. I feel if she did reach out I would want her to know how belittled she made me feel and that she basically shunned me like I was nothing. They've told me that I can't message her...

It's only been a day and I'm back and forth between the good things and the bad things. One minute I'm hating her for her behaviour and then the next minute I'm thinking about all the good things she done and the qualities she did have.

And I also f'ed her over. I was disgusting at times and when we would argue it got nasty to the point we almost got physical. We had panic attacks and were just at an all time low. The good times were there and we had some amazing times, probably 50/50 which is not good. Her mood dictated what...

Yep and I lived there for two years and paid my share. I just wanted more respect than that. I would have left and the way she went about it was disgusting.