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When I first found this site years ago I was completely blind to dating. I was a chump that did all the 'movie stuff' like buying girls things, constantly complimenting, etc. I've grown quite a bit over time and increased my success rate. This weekend, however, was possibly my biggest failure...

About 6 months ago I transferred divisions at work which resulted in a promotion / moving across the country (Seattle to Boston). Before I left there was a girl that I worked with that I always thought was really attractive and had a crush on. Right before I left I started noticing that she may...

About 6 months ago I transferred divisions at work which resulted in a promotion / moving across the country (Seattle to Boston). Before I left there was a girl that I worked with that I always thought was really attractive and had a crush on. Right before I left I started noticing that she may...

I can’t figure this out and I was wondering if anyone could share any light. I met up with a friend from 4 years ago today (I haven’t seen him at all in that time) and he revealed that an old ex was in a relationship, even went so far as to show me a picture of the fat ass that she’s with. I...

Let's just start with the premise that if you are really good looking, perhaps this doesn't apply to you. A few plates I've had (met them in real life, not online) and I discussed online dating and the pro's / con's. Here's what I took away: Girls don't need to go looking for the guys / put in...

I was hanging out with a buddy that I hadn't seen in awhile. He started dating this girl about a year ago that seems incredibly superficial, fake, and frankly obnoxious. He is in love with her but I saw her treat him awfully for an entire day. Should I say anything to him? I watched her do the...

I posted before about a plate I was pursuing. I detailed how she had a bunch of dude orbiters and how I thought she wanted to maintain that status quo. Today I had a "come to jesus" moment where I realized that, wtf, I was one of those guys. I was giving this girl lots of attention (answering...

Legitimately interested in what our community is made up of. I'll start. What Brought You to SS? I was always the guy with the GF in college and after. High quality women and attractive. I had a few recent run ins with girls that made me question my existence. Why Are You Still Here? Now, in...

I haven't seen this posted before, but this is a great description of what NOT to be to a woman. Women take our TIME not our bodies.

Im normally not a defeatist but holy ****. The class of women available just seems so undesirable. Are there just not that many high caliber women left when you hit your thirties? Is OLD the main way to find them?

Ive been noticing more and more girls that like to keep “stables” of dudes. These aren’t plates, but rather well maintained packs of orbiters that all think they’ll be the one to swoop in. I’ve been part of this before, I’m sure, but I don’t think I saw it before taking the red pill. What’s the...

Before I get into it: I have several plates going, am not emotionally connected to this women, but need to know how to handle an awkward situation because it involves work. I met this girl at work through her roommate (a mutual friend) a few months ago. We started chopping it up and I had many...

I used to think this whole thing was getting better at attracting women, but after leaving 3 months of monk mode I realize that real success is in getting better at rejecting women. After a painful breakup I spent a ton of time on myself mentally, physically and emotionally. Eventually this...

I currently have 2 plates spinning (thanks SS!) and the one I am most into has been giving me some serious IOIs lately. I decided this week that I was going to hang out with her and escalate, but before I could offer the plan, she asked me to spend the weekend with her and her some friends. Cool...

About two months ago I left SS and just went into Monk Mode. I had joined this site after what, at the time, felt like a tough breakup. I'm now completely over that person and have done the following: Read a ton about dating Worked out / meditated on a daily basis Changed my eating / drinking...

Since my breakup 7 weeks ago I've been doing little else other than lifting, meditating, working my ass off, and reading. My reading has consisted of this forum and a slew of red pill books. Now that the sting of the breakup is gone, I just feel depressed. The stuff is tough to read at times...

Gents, I was thinking about the tertiary benefits of NC with an ex. Obviously the primary benefit is personal, you heal this way and grow faster. The secondary benefit seems to be that you gain more self respect (especially if you were with a second class woman like I was). The tertiary...

Does anyone else feel burned out with women? There's a bunch of work and I feel like now that I know red flags, I tend to disqualify most women pretty early on. I'm spending a lot of effort and thought on 'The Game' and while I know a ton more than I did before (and I think I'm doing better with...

My last "relationship" was with a girl that many others have diagnosed on here as BPD. I won't get into all the reasons they made that determination, but I don't think I'm in any position to diagnose her or label her as such. What I can say with confidence is that she was a rotten person and...

Hey gents. Looking for some feedback from an OLD meeting I just had. Unlike my other OLD experiences this girl was WAY hotter in person, no red flags (that I picked up on), and conversation was actually great...not forced like an interview. Here's how it went down: - met her at a bar I...