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  1. J

    King of the Orbiters (a PSA)

    When I first found this site years ago I was completely blind to dating. I was a chump that did all the 'movie stuff' like buying girls things, constantly complimenting, etc. I've grown quite a bit over time and increased my success rate. This weekend, however, was possibly my biggest failure...
  2. J

    She invited other people on the date..wtf

    About 6 months ago I transferred divisions at work which resulted in a promotion / moving across the country (Seattle to Boston). Before I left there was a girl that I worked with that I always thought was really attractive and had a crush on. Right before I left I started noticing that she may...
  3. J

    How should I approach this situation?

    That's fair, but there's a couple of details that I should add because this would be more obvious otherwise: She's got a stable of orbiters, not sure what she's telling those guys Not her best friend, but a friend. Not sure she knows for sure or is just speculating She's too good looking for...
  4. J

    How should I approach this situation?

    About 6 months ago I transferred divisions at work which resulted in a promotion / moving across the country (Seattle to Boston). Before I left there was a girl that I worked with that I always thought was really attractive and had a crush on. Right before I left I started noticing that she may...
  5. J

    Pissed at my brain

    I can’t figure this out and I was wondering if anyone could share any light. I met up with a friend from 4 years ago today (I haven’t seen him at all in that time) and he revealed that an old ex was in a relationship, even went so far as to show me a picture of the fat ass that she’s with. I...
  6. J

    Why online dating sucks for normal dudes (a theory)

    Let's just start with the premise that if you are really good looking, perhaps this doesn't apply to you. A few plates I've had (met them in real life, not online) and I discussed online dating and the pro's / con's. Here's what I took away: Girls don't need to go looking for the guys / put in...
  7. J

    How to help out a friend?

    I was hanging out with a buddy that I hadn't seen in awhile. He started dating this girl about a year ago that seems incredibly superficial, fake, and frankly obnoxious. He is in love with her but I saw her treat him awfully for an entire day. Should I say anything to him? I watched her do the...
  8. J

    Today I stopped being an orbiter

    I posted before about a plate I was pursuing. I detailed how she had a bunch of dude orbiters and how I thought she wanted to maintain that status quo. Today I had a "come to jesus" moment where I realized that, wtf, I was one of those guys. I was giving this girl lots of attention (answering...
  9. J

    Is this a good way to increase her interest level?

    I don't know man. But your second contact is busting her balls about another dude that she's into? Just doesn't seem like the right play. I'd consider another type of humor or go for the jugular.
  10. J

    The sad truth about the dating game

    Sadly I agree with most of this. Outside the money part. You really need F YOU money for it to make a difference. I make really good money, but not enough to turn heads.
  11. J

    Is this a good way to increase her interest level?

    Leave the other guy out of it man.Always Say Less than Necessary
  12. J

    What Brought You to SS? Why Are You Still Here?

    Legitimately interested in what our community is made up of. I'll start. What Brought You to SS? I was always the guy with the GF in college and after. High quality women and attractive. I had a few recent run ins with girls that made me question my existence. Why Are You Still Here? Now, in...
  13. J

    How to handle awkward work situation

    Nah, that is the correct response. Here is my reasoning (sorry computer programmer here!): Two possible variables: [She's into it / She's not into it] AND [She has been intentionally sending signs / She hasn't been intentionally sending signs] resulting in 4 possible scenarios: She's into it -...
  14. J

    How to handle awkward work situation

    Well she's back to trying to flirt with me. I've made myself somewhat scarce from my usual spots, but I ran into her and she asked me "If I had been cheating on her" and then just stared at me with doe eyes and didn't say anything for way too long. It was actually kind of uncomfortable. People...
  15. J

    Don't be a "Time Ho"

    I haven't seen this posted before, but this is a great description of what NOT to be to a woman. Women take our TIME not our bodies.
  16. J

    Taking stock and giving up

    Im normally not a defeatist but holy ****. The class of women available just seems so undesirable. Are there just not that many high caliber women left when you hit your thirties? Is OLD the main way to find them?
  17. J

    Girls with stables of guys

    This. These guys are all NOT hitting it.
  18. J

    Girls with stables of guys

    Ive been noticing more and more girls that like to keep “stables” of dudes. These aren’t plates, but rather well maintained packs of orbiters that all think they’ll be the one to swoop in. I’ve been part of this before, I’m sure, but I don’t think I saw it before taking the red pill. What’s the...
  19. J

    How to handle awkward work situation

    I ran into her this morning and she acted like nothing happened. She was friendly, even a little flirtatious, but I didn’t reciprocate. Looking back I don’t blame myself for misreading the signals, they were there. What I didn’t do is take stock of how she treats others. I think she likes...
  20. J

    How to handle awkward work situation

    Yeah it really was a pretty weak move. I knew better too. My rationale for doing it was that I had many indicators that she was really interested (I won't bother to list them here, because clearly I misread them) so I thought the means of asking her out didn't matter as much. My lesson here was...
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