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    Sometimes it's about chemistry

    We all know women are picky, fickle, attraction is different for each of them. One thing I can't help but always notice...attractive Asian women are often with the weakest most beta looking Asian men... Then there are Asian women who don't date Asian men and prefer masculine non-asian men...My...
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    To vasectomy or not?

    I'm in my early 40's. Even as a teenager I knew I never wanted kids, in fact my high school sweetheart and I broke up over it. As a guy with some money, I'm thankful none of the girls I've banged without a condom got pregnant. Most have been on BC. I've had some that would get mad if I wanted to...
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    Why did my ex take the picture of us from my house?

    I ask because I have a feeling I'll be hearing from her again...We've broken up a few times before, and although each breakup had become longer, we have always ended up together again. She was staying at my place while I was out of town visiting family, and we had a fight while I was gone. She...
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    My experiments with different versions of no contact

    Yes, no contact is also to get over someone. But most people use it to get people back. The general rule is 60 days no contact. I've done this and shorter periods as well as longer periods. Without making a super long post of each experiment, I've found that Dan Bacon's version of no contact of...
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    To keep employing silence and distance here or respond?

    My ex and I have been trying to reconcile. We started seeing each other again, and she has agreed to go back to the way things were, but....she is borderline so when she gets me almost back, pushed me away by wanting me to prove my love to her (I think she is fishing for a ring). When she did...
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    Is it a bad idea to post social proof (pics of you with hot exes) for dating profiles?

    Maybe blot out their faces. They say there is no greater tool than pre-selection...so showing you've had hot gf's could do wonders. Right now my ex is periodically stalking my profile with a fake one she had created and told me about (it has no pictures but is the same username she showed me...
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    The delusions and attempts at hypergamy of middle aged women

    In OLD, on an elite dating site where most members are not elite but you can be verified as such (I did), it's amazing to see that I see the same chics on there every time I get back on there after a breakup. Not just inactive profiles, but I see them on there for years holding out. I'm an 8...
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    Tips on spotting the female narcissist...

    I'm an empath so I attract narcissistic women. Here are some tips I've noticed from my last few gf's in the last 2 years: 1) Does the think of herself as a Queen or Princess? This should tell you a lot, especially if she calls herself one and demands you treat her like one. 2) Does she have...
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    Is cheating "OK" considering most relationships end anyways?

    I've cheated on damn near every gf at one point or another. Felt a little guilty at the time, but the relationships ended anyways and in hindsight, I was like at least I didn't miss out. Now mind you it's not something where I went and slept with a different girl every week or anything while in...
  10. J

    Hanging out with my gf and her girl friends: bad idea?

    I saw a thread that DOES NOT apply to me since we are already a couple, sleeping together and have exchanged I love you with each other (https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/rule-dont-hang-out-with-her-friends.176654/). Her gf had invited my girl to a house party (they're all Asian, my gf is...
  11. J

    Ever date a widow?

    I've done some research on this online from threads in other forums I've found but I'm curious what people here say. It's been two years since he died, of a drug overdose. The man was a violent felon, philanderer and abusive to her (physically and emotionally). They lived in a rental house and...
  12. J

    What are some passionate sex themes in romance novels?

    I'm talking stuff like, when she's out of the shower and wrapped in a towel, walking up to her and passionately kissing her then taking off the towel, you get the drift. What are some similar things?
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    Moving in with new GF? How to broach the subject

    I started dating a girl in a neighboring state recently. I had been preparing to move to this state, so as I was dating locally I thought about maybe finding someone where I want to move anyways. Well I did find a girl there, and we really hit it off. When I see her she doesn't want me to...
  14. J

    New GF likes to text a lot

    At first when we were dating neither one of us texted much. It wasn't until a couple weeks in that we started texting daily. Prior to that we'd both go 2-4 days without texting. That was when we were getting to know each other. In the weeks leading up to becoming a couple and now, we text...
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    How do I fix? My response to her friend during no contact was taken as a blow off

    Question is how to fix, not looking for comments to move on, etc. Please stay on topic. So my ex and I had an on/off again relationship. Intense (she is likely BPD and NPD, has all the signs). She usually broke no contact before, but things ended badly this time, worse than others, although...
  16. J

    Where to meet younger women?

    I've dated a few 19 year old girls and a few in their mid twenties in online dating, but the other night I noticed the VAST majority of the women that show up in search results in dating sites are 35-40+. Many of them still look good, but the attitude with some of these women is something...
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    What is the equivalent of "make-up" and glam for men?

    Women spend years perfecting their makeup, hair, clothes, etc. They spend hours putting it on, shopping for clothes, etc. even once they've perfected their stuff. So I got to thinking, what are the things WE as men can do to glam up and improve our LOOKS. Here is my list, add to it: -Get a...
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    No contact, is it OK to respond if her female friend texts me on her behalf?

    We had a really bad breakup, she messed up big, so she's unlikely to reach out directly for fear of rejection. After 2 weeks of no contact, she tried to do something in an app we shared that she knew would send me a notification and might trigger me to reach out. It indicated she still had the...
  19. J

    Dating in your 40's...the women are bat s crazy

    My now ex, 42 (Asian, looked 31, bat s crazy it turned out). Hard core Borderline and Narcissist, had the majority of the signs based on my past experiences. Her replacement...35 year old "virgin" (vaginal). Bat s crazy, no wonder this hot Ukranian chic had never been proposed to and all her...
  20. J

    Most relationships don't work, so what is one to do?

    When I was in my late teens and early twenties I got dates no problem but didn't know what to do with them so they never went anywhere. Eventually through some books I learned about what works in dating and what doesn't. Finding women to bed and date isn't the issue now and hasn't been for...
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