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Ok, quick situation report simply cos its p*ssed me off today. I work in a pretty small firm, theres about 40 staff total, and its finance so its pretty much at least 80% guys.. To top it off of the few of us that are under 30 all the others are in LTRs/married/have kids.. so essentially...

Went on a date with a chick from the internet yesterday, first date I've been on with someone from online actually, and was interesting, really hammered home how key body language and non-verbal signals really are. well, it started a couple of weeks ago when she saw my profile and sent me a...

aahhhrgghh... Even when I'm getting repeated eye contact and signs of interest I usually can't bring myself to actually walk over and say hello, I'm fine if I "accidentally" happen to end up at the bar next to the chick that's been paying me attention but going up to a girl on the dance floor...

Thats the question... I have low confidence when it comes to women, but I know what it feels like to be able to have complete confidence and security in yourself, just in another area.. jobs.. I'm lucky in that I'm pretty intelligent and I came from a good family, I did well in school and my...

ok, what approach do I take with this? Last week hosted a houseparty and got chatting to a chick there who was a friend of one of my flatmates friends, we had a fair amount in common, especially the music we liked although her initial friendliness may be due to, illicit.. ahem.. substances, not...

Right, I've been wondering about myself lately.. I'm still (after about 2 years) a RAFC, now though, I've hooked up with the odd chick or 2 (literally) and had a ton more missed opportunities I know the reason I'm not getting more is I still don't have the balls or confidence that I should...

Ok, the main reason I'm posting this is for advice on this first chick I just met, but wouldn't mind opinions on the other 2 anyway.. First one has highest chance of success and is the one I’m most concerned about.. Last Saturday night my flatmates and I hosted a belated flatwarming party. At...

I've been getting alot of that lately from various different people.. but I can't accept it.. I spent many years not looking for it because I was an AFC and I thought, "it'll happen" it never did. The only grain of truth in that advice I thin,k is if you reword it as, don't seem too...

I just wrote a massive far too long post on this, basically I hooked up with this girl I knew, we went back to mine then she starts saying how she won't have sex with me tonight, I say ok, we make out for a bit then go to sleep together in bed. Wake up in the morning she's not affectionate...

Well, I basically hooked up with that girl who I've posted about before. We knew each other vaguely at uni when I was a major AFC, a few months ago I met her again for the first time in a couple of years, we started hanging out alot and since I'm not such a big AFC anymore we became pretty...

Ok, there's about a million threads on this because its so true and I feel like I'm stating the obvious, but I felt like posting since I've just experienced proof of the one most important thing every AFC should know. It all comes down to CONFIDENCE Basically back at uni I was a major...

Very quick summary for lazy people who can't be bothered to read the details, girl I've been friends with for a while, getting on very well recently but I don't really think she's interested, then out of the blue I get a slow deliberate "I love you" followed by an awkward pause where I say...

Ok, this is wierd, For me its very hard to actually go up to a girl and make a proper effor t to chat her up, the best line in the world ("Hi whats your name") seems to be the hardest for me to execute at the moment, even though I know both from experience and others telling me it has a...

I just realised something today.. I don't trust women one bit.. Ok I just realised part of the reason is my self esteem not being high enough.. but partly I just don't trust them at all.. I'm conivced theres always some sort of ulteria motive.. Part of it also comes from some of the advice here...

Ok, this may be a long post.. last time I visited this forum was many months ago.. now I'm worried I may be about to fall into the same problems I had when I first started visiting here... Essentially I need to work out one way or another where I am with this chick I know, details (mostly...

I'm annoyed, I'm letting self doubt, emotional paranoia and negative thinking screw up my chances with women and general peace of mind.. I'm starting to understand why I've been single for so long. there's a long sitrrep here, but you don't really need to read it all to get my point it just...

wow, ok it's wednesday now, but monday night was a really really weird one, some women truly are crazy. Ok, monday, me, and a couple of friends of mine were going out for a few drinks one of them brought one of her friends along who I'd met once before. anyway, out drinking in the pub, I...

I'm a bit pissed off, although at the same time I'm a little pleased.. basically was at a club/party and a gril (friend of a friend) who I've been flirting with a bit recently was there too. At one point I was just stood, basically leering at the women on the dancefloor, and she was on my...

geez.. some of my friends have absoloutely crazy mates.. got chatting to one of them last night.. and well, once she'd started she wouldn't stop.. it was so bad it put me off her after about 5 minutes.. I even contemplated kissing her to keep her quiet.. I guess the fact she was off her...

fire.. also helps when chatting to chicks.. I don't smoke usually but occasionally I will have a smoke when I'm drinking, anyway I nearly always carry matches or a lighter with me.. its obvious, but its handy, you can offer a light to girl that looks like she needs one, and if they ask you...