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Thanks for the replies, I read them all carefully. My very good friend remembers the situation well and we basically agreed that I'm only going to engage if she initiates with me (because in his words she's a waste of time with too many issues). We also agreed I'll get sucked back in if I...

I've had lots of women in my life over the years but nothing that has left an impact like this one. It didn't even last long. A six month whirlwind in early 2018. A situation where you meet someone and instantly click. But she was fiercely hot and cold. Disappeared twice without explanation...

That was my thought when she texted out of the blue in August and why I quickly invited her out after some flirty banter at that time but she IGNORED the text. I would feel like a fool to fall into the same trap again so that's why I thought this time I'd try to play it different and let her be...

Thanks for the replies- She really disarmed me early on with a story about having never dated much before and made me feel really special in that regard. The last thing she said to me face to face was that she doesn't hang out with other guys like she hangs out with me and how much she...

Last January to June I was hanging out with this girl, we really clicked but it was six months of pretty extreme hot and cold. She would make bold statements like "I've never felt like this about a guy before" while keeping me at arms length with excuses like "been single so long don't know if I...

Last January to June I was hanging out with this girl, we really clicked but it was six months of pretty extreme hot and cold. She would make bold statements like "I've never felt like this about another guy before" but kept me at arms length with excuses like "been single so long don't know if...

I thought there was a slim chance she missed me but figured attention. Told her she was very bad at communication, she apologized and had a bunch of excuses. Not gonna reply, or reply soon anyway. She's very disrespectful and needs to be put in her place.

Met this girl in January. We really clicked and had fun but she blew hot and cold much of the time. Claimed to be a late 20's virgin wanting to take things slow so I was respectful and attributed that to her reserved/conflicted behavior. We saw each other 15-20 times total. She went cold...

^^^ Great advice I sent her a text a few hours ago. A link to something historic we're both interested in, similar to what she sent me. She replied a few minutes later and her response was long enough that it came in over three different texts. I took that as a good sign. Replied with...

Appreciate the help from everyone. So what is the best way to handle these women who come and go?

This is a good analogy. I remember as we were getting to know each other, she told me she wasn't really the "reach out type" and likes the guys to "take the lead". Presented herself as very traditional. I don't know why she pulled back on me a few months ago, maybe another guy, maybe my...

Met this girl back in January. We really clicked and had fun together, plus I was super attracted to her, but she was hot and cold, mixed messages, hard to read, etc. She disappeared without explanation for a few weeks in March-April. Crawled back again and we danced around the idea of a...

Don Juan. I just met up with her for 90 minutes after she reached out wanting to talk. She doesn't lay her emotional problems on me, we don't talk too much between hanging out. So how would a Don Juan handle this weekend meeting she wants.. 1) Flake and not call. 2) Show up and tell her...

She strikes again. Texts me Wednesday saying she has been thinking and wants to meet to talk. Seems to go really well. Says she wants to open up and give things a chance. Says I'm everything she is looking for in a guy and it scares her. We talk about ways to build trust and get to know each...

Alright point taken. Moving on and if she wants to reach out and put herself on a silver platter, she knows how to reach me.

Ok interesting update. We have a few mutual friends in the social circle. Heard and saw she was asking advice about our situation. Some of her complaints were she couldn't read me and is exhausted trying to psychoanalyze everything. Thinks I tell her what she wants to hear. Wants to move super...

Probably like two weeks. Sometime around Easter she suddenly went cold after hanging out. I reached out with a call a week later and she told me I was moving too fast, she wasn't sure what she wanted, etc. I was super nonchalant about it and said "Cool, just don't want to spend time pursuing...

Man you guys are awesome. So glad I posted this. It's a horrible place to be emotionally when you like someone and have emotional investment but can't get a clear answer where you stand. So I've processed these posts and have come to this conclusion: I know last weekend she agreed about the...

Cool thanks for the replies. Yeah basically I just posted because I wanted to know if there was any chance this needing to build friendship and trust before relationship and sex could be real, or I'm just getting strung along. Normally I would never entertain "friends first" but she said all...

Do Tinder and Bumble. Maybe I downplayed the situation, but after I told her my feelings, she kind of went crazy, telling me how much it meant to her, that she loved how confident and direct I was about it, and has been blowing my phone up waaay more often almost daily. She did a complete 180...