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  1. oldmanofthesea

    Girl I'm seeing called me out for living with parents....

    I think you might be misunderstanding my advice or the point I was trying to make. The right thing for OP to have done when he took this girl to his house is, if there was a need to mention his "room-mate" like, "We need to leave before my room-mate comes home" or "don't drink that wine, it's...
  2. oldmanofthesea

    Girl I'm seeing called me out for living with parents....

    Then that is the beginning of the end for you. Just the way you justified yourself and explained yourself to her and felt the need to tell her how much money you make and also how much money you have saved. That's a bad way to go. You are pandering to her and trying to "talk her into" not seeing...
  3. oldmanofthesea

    Women triggered by older men dating younger women

    Why wouldn’t they? Girls are jealous of other girls for all kinds of reasons. Who they are dating, how their body looks, etc. My GF is 35 but has a solid 8 body and when we are walking around in public spaces, girls of all ages stare her up and down. And they aren’t smiling. There’s no reason a...
  4. oldmanofthesea

    Women triggered by older men dating younger women

    Fortunately no. My guy friends have all been encouraging to me about who I date. But I do know some guys who would behave as you described but I choose deliberately not to be friends with them. It’s some of my guy-friends girlfriends (who I unfortunately have to see a lot) who take issue.
  5. oldmanofthesea

    Women triggered by older men dating younger women

    I don’t... my female friends find out when they see me out with these girls or when I bring them on groups trips. The women I date can find out via careful detective work that they seem to enjoy so much (part of trying to assess my value I suppose.... who does he date, how hot are they, how old...
  6. oldmanofthesea

    Women triggered by older men dating younger women

    The problem there is that no amount of logical debate with logic and reason will sway the person who is emotionally invested in their own fantasy view that provides them with comfort and eases their anxiety. Ask me how I know..... I've tried. I could give you play by play conversations I've...
  7. oldmanofthesea

    Women triggered by older men dating younger women

    The ironic thing about this for me is that I don't necessarily prefer younger women. If I met a 40 year old who took care of herself, was single, attractive, and was interested in me, I'd definitely date her. I don't find that though. Generally it's women who are 28-35 who are looking at me, and...
  8. oldmanofthesea

    Women triggered by older men dating younger women

    I fully agree. And to your last point - hahaha actually I have said exactly that, early on in a relationship. It made her insecurity about it 100x worse. Whether that was a good thing or a bad thing is debatable....
  9. oldmanofthesea

    Women triggered by older men dating younger women

    Yeah I have brought that very point up to a couple women and they say, of course, that it's "different". These women always see the woman as a "victim". A 23yo woman is a naive, innocent, helpless victim waiting to be "taken advantage of" while a 23yo man is a fully formed adult.
  10. oldmanofthesea

    Women triggered by older men dating younger women

    Yeah I read Rollo's book a few years ago and recall reading that. It really helped me understand it and feel secure with my own choices in who I date. Especially since, when pressed, women can provide zero facts to support why it's "wrong". I know better than to argue with women, but due to how...
  11. oldmanofthesea

    Women triggered by older men dating younger women

    I wanted to see what experience you guys have had with this. It has gotten to the point of destroying friendships for me. There is no valid justification for women trying to shame a guy for this. The arguments they put up have no merit, and many of the arguments are hypocritical as they don't...
  12. oldmanofthesea

    I got "banned" from Hinge

    Sorry that happened - I know it’s not the end of the world but if there’s one thing that’s frustrating beyond belief, it’s when something unjust happens and you then get stonewalled afterwards and have no recourse. This reminded me of a group conversation I was a part of. Someone brought up...
  13. oldmanofthesea

    There's always another red pill to swallow.

    Yeah same. She is surfing that fine line. I've tried breaking up with her a couple times but it seems that is one of the few things that will finally get her to apologize and stop digging her heels into whatever bullsh*t she's on. Spinning plates also takes a lot of effort in my personal...
  14. oldmanofthesea

    There's always another red pill to swallow.

    That has certainly been my experience. I probably should have married the 24yo I dated last year. She followed me around like a lost puppy dog and would have done anything for me. But like many men, I needed at least a little more of a challenge (which I will likely come to regret). Now I have...
  15. oldmanofthesea

    28+ yo women desperate for platonic friends

    I always just assumed they were looking to surround themselves with guys to make themselves appear more valuable and desired by men, which would have a positive impact on their SMV. In addition, women are social creatures and most of them don't like being alone. Since the rise of social media...
  16. oldmanofthesea

    Do you Kiss on the first Date?

    You have to read the signals but my goal is always to get a kiss, and always escalate to sex, even on the first date. Some girls deliberately hold back even if their interest level is sky-high just because they don't want to come off as too easy. That's ok - part of societal norms. Try to kiss...
  17. oldmanofthesea

    How do you figure out what you league you are actually in?

    From my observation and experience, it all comes down to attitude. Once you have done what you can to maximize your looks, working within the body/genetics you were born with (IE you have good hair style, teeth are white and straight, good groomed facial hair or no facial hair, good skin, smell...
  18. oldmanofthesea

    Marriage and being faithful...

    I wish I could tell you the solution to this is one that can be applied to an already failing relationship but I'm afraid it usually can't... not in my experience and from what I have witnessed. The solution is that you screen your partner during the early days of dating. You ensure they are...
  19. oldmanofthesea

    LTRs with HB 8+

    I’ve been dating an 8 for about 5 months now. It has been a struggle. A lot of power struggles, insecurity, and jealousy on her side. What has helped me keep it together is to draw boundaries, not let her try to gas-light me into thinking my boundaries are wrong, and remember the fact that all...
  20. oldmanofthesea

    Its either 0 or 100

    Trying to think back to most of the women I've slept with....... I don't really think I have ever turned medium interest into high interest. However, as my game has increased, the hotness level of girls I sleep with and date now is higher than it used to be. Game can't be discounted because it...
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