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    Allowing her to “miss” you

    Thanks for the kind words - I agree that things seem to be going fine and we both enjoy one another so I feel good about it. I just don’t want to get complacent or lose touch with the good info I’ve learned over the years. Appreciate it - just trying to keep the momentum going (in terms of...
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    Allowing her to “miss” you

    I like that term - throttling the availability. How does one do that in respect to texting, however? For example a lot of the texts she initiates are random statements/things about her day, etc. Just allow an hour or two before replying and keep it short/sweet? I don’t want to fall into a trap...
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    Allowing her to “miss” you

    I agree, was thinking something along these lines. We do have plans for later this week already, and I’d prefer not to cancel without reason just for this purpose. Thoughts? I’d like to keep the date I setup already rather than flake just to try to be “more unavailable”.
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    Allowing her to “miss” you

    I try to be aware of this. How does one ensure that IL does not get lost as fast as they got it?
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    Allowing her to “miss” you

    Been seeing a lady for a month or so. Roughly 1-2 times weekly and usually lots of sex when together. Between dates she often texts me throughout the day and she initiates at least 75% of the time. I don’t text tooo much, just enough to not be cold and I make plans for next dates, etc. One...
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    Girl I’ve been dating told me she’s still married

    Thanks - I agree that I’m at least a bit entitled to know. After all, I don’t want to get invested only to get hurt because she keeps kicking the can down the road. Any advice on how to approach or ask her if she has plans for things to be finalized without being too cold? I do want to make it...
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    Girl I’ve been dating told me she’s still married

    Seeing a girl for close to a month - started out once weekly, currently about twice weekly. Lots of sex, very passionate, shared interests, etc - I dig her. Our second date she told me she was married at 20 but has been separated for a few years- not a big deal I figured. I don’t care if a girl...
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    Choosing signals

    What are some common examples/what exactly are they? How do they differ in strangers vs someone you already know?
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    Positive self talk/self confidence

    Recommendations for getting started with meditation? Like how often, locations, duration? I have done it before, but only a handful of times. Or maybe 6 attempts, only one of them ever made me feel any sense of weight lifted off me. Other times I think I was maybe too distracted during the process.
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    Positive self talk/self confidence

    What techniques or things do you practice for this? Ive found that occasionally, I lose touch with it. Specifically if things with a girl turn sour. For example, the other day I cut things off with a plate who started showing me her true side (needy, very selfish, borderline disrespectful at...
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    I failed to protect my heart yet again. Any tips?

    This is a good approach. I think we are decently similar in that aspect. I'm trying to learn to "not" be so disconnected or unavailable (but monitoring it and only being "slightly" less unavailable over time with women.
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    Girl I'm dating constantly giving me "s**t"

    Definite possibility - she's got that attitude in her.
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    Girl I'm dating constantly giving me "s**t"

    Hmm, so how does one suggest doing that exactly? My usual strategy is ignoring it entirely - especially when it's text - then it shows her I dont care to reply and it doesnt phase me.
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    I failed to protect my heart yet again. Any tips?

    Truth in this - I think it is a scaling effect. You should start unavailable, and if you're interested in them (which you seem to be) very very VERY slowly and gradually raise that, but never surpass how much she is pursuing or available to you, if that makes sense.
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    Girl I'm dating constantly giving me "s**t"

    Not in a bad way. Teasing, joking, light name calling - seemingly normal things, to me, in the early stages of a potential relationship and hooking up together. What isnt normal is that lately it is almost CONSTANT. Sometimes text, sometimes in-person. Nothing ever insulting or rejecting to me...
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    Plate went on vacation

    Been out with a girl 3 times, then she took a week long cruise vacation, so no communication during that period at all. On the last date before she left, we hooked up (3 times) after I took her to a casual dinner and out for an activity and drinks afterwards - she invited me in her condo for a...
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    “Are you up” text

    Since everyone posted all input, just an update: things are going really well with this girl. I sort of kept a little distance shortly after this all happened and she started chasing pretty hard. More frequent sex as well
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    “Are you up” text

    Can someone do something about this dude...
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    “Are you up” text

    Yeah I’ve been keeping the balance and she does initiate more texts than I do, typically. I’m always cheerful/charming when she texts me and I never do any double texting or anything like that. Is that what you mean by “monitoring”?
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    “Are you up” text

    Furthermore, just confirming that this isn’t the only girl I’ve been on dates with lately. So it isn’t like she’s the only one on my radar
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