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    Guys, am I right to get pissed off?

    Bit of background; my girlfriend of 14 months has this need to tell me everything, otherwise she feels guilty about it... it generally revolves around guys she's been with in the past, but really dumb stuff, like making out in a club or something - she's only ever slept with one guy prior to me...
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    Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

    I've come to realise that alot of women don't seem to understand 'optics'. It's a case of yes, there's nothing technically wrong with doing/saying/acting like that, but it doesn't look good. Men get it, so they go the extra mile to be careful, whereas women only see that there is nothing...
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    Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

    I'm lucky with this point. She has this need to tell me anything and everything, no matter how bad, offensive, or anything else it is. There's no way she'd be able to subdue the urge to tell me had she been unfaithful. There are things she's told me which would have been better for her had she...
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    Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

    I also see alot of my guy friend's mature up when they get into a relationship. They realise that you have to sacrifice, they get that you can't act the same way you would if you were single. Women never seem to get this, they want the relationship, but also everything that comes with being single.
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    Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

    Thanks for the advice, I'll do that. The thing I've realised most since starting dating is that the whole 'women are more thoughtful/understanding' thing is total bull ****. I swear to god, all my guy friends are completely understanding when I spend time away with my girlfriend. The moment one...
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    Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

    I think I'll just raise the issue with her, it's a simple one; I sacrifice alot, and don't get much in return. We're serious, I spend alot of time with her family too, as she does with mine, so I do not want this to be a make or break thing. but it's not just this one thing; - Never being...
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    Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

    Actually, now that I think about it, do you know what? Last year I went skiing just for a week. On the way home I was flying into an airport near her parent's house, and she just happened to be there at the time. I had a connecting train to catch home, and instead stayed overnight to see her...
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    Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

    My issue is this; If I express any decent amount of problem with it, she won't go. And I don't want her to do that. She loves her job and the whole working with kids thing is very important to her. Thing is, like you say... I sacrifice left, right and centre.
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    Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

    No need to sugar coat it for me, lol
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    Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

    So here's the thing; My girlfriend of 1 year is heading away for 5 weeks this summer. She's in nursing school and is going on a 3 week international placement to work in a hospital with other healthcare professionals. She asked me if i was happy with it before confirming she would go, and I said...
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    Here's the thing, it's the place. If you've ever been to Amsterdam then you'll understand. Imagine a version of Vegas where there are no laws on drugs or prostitution/sex, then imagine that the entire culture of the city is centred around that fact, then imagine that most who go there are going...
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    Not sure if i'm better off arguing this with her or slamming my head in a door... women eh?
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    Yeah I definitely see that point. Thing is, I know for a fact that if I had gone ahead and just said 'oh yeah cool, good decision', It would come up again in 2 months; 'oh they're asking me about it again', 'oh we've been looking at hotels'. I'd rather just answer what I know she's really...
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    Yeah well this is the issue, because if she can't see the logic in that point of view then what? because that's going to lead to worse things down the road. More disagreements, worse situations. This girl is 99% perfect, and we're deep into this relationship now. Hell, I hang out with her dad...
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    Good point. I'll put it like that to her tomorrow. She accepted that I wouldn't be happy with her going and agreed not to go, But I was trying to explain why. I didn't want the situation to be left on a kind of 'I say no and that's that'. I wanted her to understand that while i do trust that she...
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    Yeah, exactly correct. The funny thing is that if I wanted to go, she would say ok. I would love to go party with my friends in Amsterdam (obviously not cheating though), but I won't simply because I feel it would be inappropriate for me to do so, even though I know I would never be unfaithful...
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    To me, It seems to be the case that she's not really interested in going anyway; but isn't happy that if she did want to go that I would be unhappy with it.
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    In other words, she just anticipated that I would be unhappy with it, so said no. Then when she confirmed that I would've been unhappy with it, wasn't happy with that.
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    I would say maybe, But I really do not think at all she is the type to throw **** tests at me deliberately (unless women sometimes do it unconsciously?). It literally seems to be the case that she said no to her friends, but got genuinely annoyed because I agreed with her reasons for saying no...
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    Girlfriend wanted to go to Amsterdam.

    I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now. we're incredibly close, have met and spent alot of time with each other's families etc (we're both 21). Today when we were talking, she brought up the fact that some of her friends had asked her to go to Amsterdam with them. She then said "but I...
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