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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    That's your fear talking AND your ego. Both have no rightful place. People who allow their fears and ego to drive their ship don't get very far before that ship will SINK. Strive to become better yourself, have more confidence, and you won't have such fears let alone allow those fears to...
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    Robert, I have to run, but in closing, I am not the be-all-and-end all about this stuff, I just post based on my own observations and experience, as a woman. But the bottom line is, every woman is different and will have their own reasons, but generally speaking, I do think it's a game, a shyt...
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    @Robert28, I post on another forum that caters to women and there are lots of women there who preach if a man does not ask to be exclusive within some arbitrary time period according to her expectations, immediate dump. She will claim they are "not on the same page," or they want "different...
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    Oh no, I do not suggest you pull the "what are we" talk, heavens NO!! If you feel you are not ready to be exclusive, then don't react to her manipulative games and don't ask to be exclusive, or otherwise ask "what are we?" or "where do you envision this going?" or the like. Simply stay true to...
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    I just want to add that many women will tell you that because YOU didn't ask for exclusivity first, she felt you were not all that into her, thus justifying her manipulation. Don't fall for it. I am telling you as a woman, when a woman is truly into a man, and has extremely high interest...
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    Bolded, you didn't ask HER for exclusivity first. Many women feel uncomfortable asking for exclusivity, I used to feel uncomfortable myself. Not even sure why except that I had been conditioned by society to believe the man should ask. So when he doesn't ask, she resorts to manipulation to...
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    To add to this, if you succumb to her manipulative tactics, and go exclusive, she WILL eventually lose respect for you, that's the irony.
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    Bolded, BINGO. It's a manipulative game, and sadly a very popular one. Do you really want a woman who resorts to playing such manipulative games to get what she wants and needs? I edited my last post, maybe you missed it. "We teach people (our partners) how to treat us via our own reactions...
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    I agree with this. If you are not exclusive, she is within her rights to go off with whomever she wants (including an ex or a new man or whomever she wants). The issue is her telling you about it. THAT's the red flag. There is no need to be telling you about it, unless she wants to, again...
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    LOL, I am a woman and calling 100% BS on that! This is why you need more women on this forum, to give it to you straight from the "horse's mouth." :D As a woman who has played games in the past, employed various shyt tests, I will tell you honestly that you do not want a woman like this. A...
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    Fair enough and perhaps true (assuming it's not a shyt test), however you should still ignore it and NOT react. If she leaves, let her leave, hopefully you have other options?
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    Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

    Ignore it, it was most likely some sort of "shyt test" to gauge your reaction. Not proud to admit but I have played games like that myself in the past (20ish). They are silly and childish and reflect insecurity. Honestly let it go one ear and out the other, as well as any other attempt to...
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    Do you Pay for First Dates?

    Oops, deleted. Replied to the wrong poster.
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    Do you Pay for First Dates?

    And for the record, I lean towards what @LoboSolitario is preaching. Getting away from this "dating paradigm" society promotes. It's all such contrived BS, but that's another thread I suppose.
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    Do you Pay for First Dates?

    Nope, incorrect. I know how she feels about it and she would not have maintained her attraction like I did. It would have been a dealbreaker. For me it wasn't even back THEN, I posted that. And it definitely would NOT be now. I posted that as well. But think what you like mate, it honestly...
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    Do you Pay for First Dates?

    Exactly, we are both female, NOT robots programmed to think or behave exactly alike. In fact if you had read the little "debate" we had going on a couple of days ago, you would have seen how totally different, in fact, we are. Your world is so black and white, it might behoove you think...
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    Do you Pay for First Dates?

    Don't put words in my mouth, I NEVER said it would leave me with negative feelings. I said it might bother me (back then) because of how I was raised and conditioned by society to expect, but nevertheless, it would NOT have affected my attraction towards him. And please don't relate how the...
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    Do you Pay for First Dates?

    Define "it would bother her"? I already told you, for me at least, it wouldn't have mattered, I would have continued dating him. It might have bothered me BACK THEN because women have been conditioned since the beginning of time to believe (even expect) that men pay BUT if she's self-aware...
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    Do you Pay for First Dates?

    Okay that's fair. Same with men dumping women for not offering to pay (as per the OP). Goes both ways, however this is a men's site so y'all continue patting each other on the back and I will politely leave. I only planned on visiting anyway, I've said my piece. Ciao.
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    Do you Pay for First Dates?

    Well as I said on a different thread (perhaps you missed?), both genders give shyt tests, sometimes they are intentionally given, sometimes not. I have had many shyt tests given to me by men, believe me. In the case with my ex, when I offered to pay, I wasn't intentionally shyt testing, I...
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