1. You have to be willing to give up identifying as victim. 2. Find the gift/blessing/learning in whatever occurred. 3. Identify & Appreciate how the experience/s made you; stronger/wiser/more compassionate/more driven to succeed/more clear about who you are and who you want to be and what you want in this life/etc. 4. Understand that clarity is priceless! 5. Understand that clarity while so young is a huge gift.