Good course of action

[corrector]

If she's willing to meet up with you and it looks like a sure thing, then it might be worth going. 2 hours by plane or by car? I wouldn't want to go that far just for a coffee and a peck on the cheek, though.

Why not? You are not as hard up as he is? Are you saying you are better than him?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Going to see a woman is not going to turn her off unless you come across as desperate.

This is what guys don't understand. How a woman views certain things is largely is determined by your actions leading up to that.

If you act desperate, needy and are texting her all the time she will see you visiting her as being unattractive as if you have no options. If you come across as being cool, fun and completely not needy or desperate than she will view you coming there with excitement and look forward to it.

Context of this in a greater sense is important to understand...people look at these actions in a vacuum and try to say it is good or bad but it is the broader context that actually matters in terms of how she will view it.

 

[corrector]

If you act desperate, needy and are texting her all the time

But as you and others have said, you don't have to act anyway, she can pick these things up in the air. Especially if you going out of your way to see her.

she will see you visiting her as being unattractive as if you have no options.

Which she'll probably figure out just by looking at that big sign on your forehead that says "no options". Its sub-communicated all over the place. These women can sniff this a mile away.

If you come across as being cool, fun and completely not needy or desperate than she will view you coming there with excitement and look forward to it.

Which is impossible to do unless you actually really do have options. In which case you'd probably go with someone closer rather than 2 hours away. Have you driven 2 hours away yourself?

 

[_sideways_]

Dang....that's like saying the number 7 seed doesn't have a chance to win against the number 1 seed.

That's why you play the game.
Fvck it...go...score...come back MVP

 

[fastlife]

You’re wayyy overthinking this. Just go, get the lay, and lay the pipe down good enough for her to come to you next time. She’s on OLD—not like she’s gonna wait around ‘missing’ you, thinking, gee, he’s sooo high value not coming to me lol.

Just show up, be cool, and if she’s not down, she comes to you next time or it doesn’t happen. But at least give these girls the chance to reject the real you—and not an avatar behind a screen.