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Overly flirtatious 54 yo Cougar. She lives 30 mins away? Am I suppose to follow up her vague counter offers?

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She is 54 yrs old, unless you're a male nurse or you sell assistance to elderly people, you have no reason to follow up any counter offer wheter vague or not.
so my gut instinct was right? about not following up those vague offers..
 
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I had a similar situation with an Attention Hoe at work.. However this one gave me a few BJs & did reach out, to come to my house once for sex, but I couldn't make it.

After that she became vague with meeting up, always had an issue in getting a baby sitter or too busy.. So I simply NEXTED her for good.

These AW will try every trick in the book to keep you hooked in, at the same time she could be banging other dudes.

I would simply next any girl who is making it too difficult.
 

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talking about women in 50s here
Yes. Amazing that we are discussing a 54 year old woman. Shows how much things have changed with the increase in grey divorces.

It's not uncommon to see women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s pulling the same stunts as teens and 20 somethings. It's especially annoying when a 50 year old woman behaves similarly to a 25 year old.

The 50+ dating market has changed substantially in the last 20 years. While the 50+ market has yet to really get into swipe apps, they are still big users of the traditional website dating platforms such as Match and OurTime. The things that were common in the 20s/30s market in 2005-2010 with women getting their inboxes flooded are now permeating the 50+ market. It's common now to see a 55 year old woman on Match or OurTime getting pursued by more men than when she was in college during the 1980s in the pre-internet era. That changes her psyche and her approach to dating, especially if she's coming off of a 20 or 30 year long relationship. That's a situation where you would be more likely to see the same behaviors as women who are 18-34.
 

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I had a similar situation with an Attention Hoe at work.. However this one gave me a few BJs & did reach out, to come to my house once for sex, but I couldn't make it.

After that she became vague with meeting up, always had an issue in getting a baby sitter or too busy.. So I simply NEXTED her for good.

These AW will try every trick in the book to keep you hooked in, at the same time she could be banging other dudes.

I would simply next any girl who is making it too difficult.
L:ucky you! I'm jealous. She was pretty much the one who made all the moves if i had to guess. I am a firm believer, they have to make a counter offer or its a NEXT. Care to share how it led to the ******* part? and how old is this chick?
 
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Yes. Amazing that we are discussing a 54 year old woman. Shows how much things have changed with the increase in grey divorces.

It's not uncommon to see women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s pulling the same stunts as teens and 20 somethings. It's especially annoying when a 50 year old woman behaves similarly to a 25 year old.

The 50+ dating market has changed substantially in the last 20 years. While the 50+ market has yet to really get into swipe apps, they are still big users of the traditional website dating platforms such as Match and OurTime. The things that were common in the 20s/30s market in 2005-2010 with women getting their inboxes flooded are now permeating the 50+ market. It's common now to see a 55 year old woman on Match or OurTime getting pursued by more men than when she was in college during the 1980s in the pre-internet era. That changes her psyche and her approach to dating, especially if she's coming off of a 20 or 30 year long relationship. That's a situation where you would be more likely to see the same behaviors as women who are 18-34.
yeah man, i was in disbelief she was being AW to me that this 54 YEAR OLD THINKS SHE'S hot hot **** comparable to a 20 to 30yo females. She's about 5'1, 140 latina blonde hair.
You know what sucks though, i have to see her twice a week still and seeing her reminds me of my failure twice a week lol. Man o man.. just need to get leaner and jacked af like you guys.
 

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yeah man, i was in disbelief she was being AW to me that this 54 YEAR OLD THINKS SHE'S hot hot **** comparable to a 20 to 30yo females. She's about 5'1, 140 latina blonde hair.
You know what sucks though, i have to see her twice a week still and seeing her reminds me of my failure twice a week lol. Man o man.. just need to get leaner and jacked af like you guys.
Always be jacked. I wouldn't recommend taking steroids to be jacked but I'm a big proponent of lifting.

Ideal situation is to be tall and muscular.

5'1" and 140 is heavy. Latinas tend to carry more weight in their backsides. Latina with blonde hair isn't that common.
 

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Always be jacked. I wouldn't recommend taking steroids to be jacked but I'm a big proponent of lifting.

Ideal situation is to be tall and muscular.

5'1" and 140 is heavy. Latinas tend to carry more weight in their backsides. Latina with blonde hair isn't that common.
yeah i know, she just happen to by my type. otherwise no no. But yeah man, be jacked.. looks looks.. i got the attitude, just the body needs some work. thanks man. I mean, how much steroids is bad before it starts working its way damaging your system ex: Erectyle Dys
 

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I would think it would be easier to have sex with a 54 year old woman if you are a 20s/early 30s guy than a man closer to her own age.
 

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im late 30s. But she told me long ago that she's been with a 38 yo. So, that says alot.
 

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yeah i know, she just happen to by my type. otherwise no no. But yeah man, be jacked.. looks looks.. i got the attitude, just the body needs some work. thanks man. I mean, how much steroids is bad before it starts working its way damaging your system ex: Erectyle Dys
Dude. C'mon. Steroids is not going to help you magically transform into Adonis. You need to be jacked and in shape and lifting for at least 2 to 3 years AND read up and understand everything about them before you even think about doing that. Steroids are to help people who are already in great shape get to a level they can't get to naturally. Not to take someone who doesn't workout and get them into shape.
 

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Do you know what a milf and a turd have in common?
The older they get, the easier they are to pick up.
 

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Hi guys

From what i heard, cougars don't play games.

Anyway to make this short

I've asked her out i'd say 3 times over the course of 2 years at work. We flirt heavy.. we talk we joke we tease super smoothly.
Example: She'd ask me to reach down her pocket to get clean gloves because the gloves she has on are dirty and didn't want to take them off.


I've asked her out in person and via text id say 4 times now total over 2 year span. She would NEVER COUNTER OFFER on the spot. BUT the next time i see her should would make a SUBLIMINIAL/Vague COUNTER OFFER. She makes me feel like i have to follow up her vague counter offers but i don't go for it

Example 1:
(2 years ago)
Me: Hey, i got suite room at this casino you should check it out (no we haven't had sex) via text
Cougar: You aren't wasting time are you, I am with my friends at the casino near my house bla bla.


Example: 2
Day 1
Me. Hey, how about you cook I come over and bring wine?
Cougar: Aren't you afraid of corona?
Me: Just spray it with disinfectant and we good.
Cougar: haha
Me: (I wait.. for her to say something back...but nothing so I just left it)

Day2 (next day)
Cougar: you can come over but you can't spend the night
Me: Who said I was going to spend the night? (waiting for her to say something back with her counter then..convo just drifted)

Example 3
She invited me to a social wine tasting event 2 weeks before the event and she knew I'm not down with mass social gatherings due to the pandemic. So i didn't go to that....but i countered her with (hey, if you're in my area that night, lets meet up)

Note that I didn't want to drive up there

Example 4

Day 1
Me "Come join me play poker maybe you might learn new hobby, if you aren't doing anything tomorrow
Cougar: "Oh, what time? im afraid i might get addicted. (she spends 20 seconds checking something on her phone) Btw I have work, look, see, i want you to know i'm not lying. Look at my phone my schedule says i have work tomorrow"

Day B (next day)
Cougar: "bla bla bla, so are we going to wear mask when we go out?"

Again, it feels like she's trying to make me counter her "VAGUE COUNTER OFFERS with no date or time" It really feels like she's dangling the carrot butI don't go for them

Question is:
1. Am I just trying to play it TOOO COOOL like a p00syor something?
2. Is she just not interested?

tnx
You've spent 2 years talking to a 54 year old and you still haven't met?

I think it's safe to say that if she's been stringing you along for 2 years then she's not particularly interested. Probably she just enjoys the validation she gets from knowing that a younger guy wants her.
 

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I'd basically treat a cougar like that as a pr0stitute that is giving away free samples. Does a man have to run "game" on a pro? :rolleyes:
 

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You've spent 2 years talking to a 54 year old and you still haven't met?

I think it's safe to say that if she's been stringing you along for 2 years then she's not particularly interested. Probably she just enjoys the validation she gets from knowing that a younger guy wants her.
When a man is a Beta orbitor of a cougar north of half a century, IT'S OVER! :rolleyes:
 

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back to this bs, i have ignored her for many months now, this biatch 2 weeks ago said in person
"Oh did you want me to call your number" and i just laughed it off.

2 days ago she said as quoted out of random in person
"Saturday... i'll take care of you, I won't charge anything"

I said
"Saturday? ohh... but you are too busy"

and it discontinued from there.

Good reply?
 

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It's over for the Cougarcels.
Cougars are a way for a lot of younger men to get laid. A lot of 18-24 men have sex with 33-50 year old women because it's not as difficult as attracting and retaining an 18-24 year old woman. Additionally, while a 35 year old woman will make a similarly aged man work more for her pusssy, she won't make a 22 year old work that hard for it if he has a strong sexual frame.
 
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