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Online Sext Text Or Keep It Clean?

soulforge

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Whats your thoughts on Sexting online girls?

I was thinking back about the vast majority of lays I have gotten off online girls & most of them have developed from me openly texting dirty with them & getting them horny & excited.. Then eventually arranging a meet & quite often straight to my house.

On the other hand.. I have started sex chat with some online girls & they will not play ball at all.

Sometimes I get the feeling that females want you to escalate to sex talk & because I am being cautious about scaring them off, they kinda get bored & lose interest.

I mean normal text conversation can be so fukin repetitive & dire.

So... Is it worth losing a few online girls in the process, worth the risk of getting one or two who are definitely up for sex chat & then a meet up?
 

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I only do this after I meet and they are clearly interested and usually not til after we already have fvcked. You will talk yourself out of a lot of lays more than talk yourself into them.
 

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Whichever method you choose to employ will have takers and leavers. So if you like sexting and it has produced solid results for you, then you continue to use that approach. You can even thus use it as a method of screening for compatibility and interest to minimise time wasted on cars with square wheels
 

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Im cautious about bringing up sex as well but I have found that if im patient at some point 80% of the chicks im talking to will say something sexual i can use to escalate sexually in text. I think its a great tool to get them DTF on the first date. The ones that dont go for it are usually a waste of time and its a good way to weed them out. I have found many of them will come to my house on the first date cause they are horny and know what they need.
 

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Im cautious about bringing up sex as well but I have found that if im patient at some point 80% of the chicks im talking to will say something sexual i can use to escalate sexually in text. I think its a great tool to get them DTF on the first date. The ones that dont go for it are usually a waste of time and its a good way to weed them out. I have found many of them will come to my house on the first date cause they are horny and know what they need.
Yes...exactly this! I do the same thing...they will say something that can be sexualized and then I laugh at it and tell them if they leave the door open I am walking through it and most of them say something like "Well I am glad you walked through it...it is no fun otherwise!"
 

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I generally will not sext but will give sexual innuendos instead. This keeps it classy and safe.

If they joke around and go along with the sexual innuendos and escalates it, I will step it up a bit but not go full hardcore. This gives them just enough mystery to get excited about meeting you and have fantasies running through their heads. If you spell everything out word for word, the mystery and intrigue is lost and they have nothing too look forward to.

For the guys that do it this way, it provides a litmus test of sorts to see if she's a prude or how sexually open she can be based on her response without offending her in any way.

Generally for me sexting and pics don't do it for me if it's never going to come to fruition. I'd rather keep quiet then pounce when I see them in real life.

As it pertains to OLD, girls have several guys that are always trying to sext them so it's nothing new for them. At that point, you just fall in the sea with the rest of them. What sets a guy apart is someone that can convey sexuality through hints and innuendos in a calibrated way while still remaining classy and tasteful for the girl. This kind of refinement takes more skill and isn't something anyone can do.
 

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Whats your thoughts on Sexting online girls?

I was thinking back about the vast majority of lays I have gotten off online girls & most of them have developed from me openly texting dirty with them & getting them horny & excited.. Then eventually arranging a meet & quite often straight to my house.

On the other hand.. I have started sex chat with some online girls & they will not play ball at all.

Sometimes I get the feeling that females want you to escalate to sex talk & because I am being cautious about scaring them off, they kinda get bored & lose interest.

I mean normal text conversation can be so fukin repetitive & dire.

So... Is it worth losing a few online girls in the process, worth the risk of getting one or two who are definitely up for sex chat & then a meet up?
Yo,

What's going on?

Someone else asked/posted a similar question, so we will pretty much share what we responded with there:

Sexts that will Get Her Excited

"We usually suggest avoiding sexting. That's usually reserved for youngsters or men that lack the confidence to escalate in person. But we have done in the past so we can't really judge, and it's not the worse if you do it casually and have your boundaries (no d**k pics, that's a big no-no for many, many, many reasons).

But we do think that bantering, playful teasing, and properly sexualizing a conversation can be a good tool to set up the context and vibe for the next time you do meet up in person.

The keyword here is: Imagination.

Women are big into imagination. So any texts that can arouse and stimulate her imagination is what you are looking for. We like word associations games as you can escalate that pretty easily. You just have to be very aware of her responses and "vibe". So constantly gauging how engaged and receptive she is. So if she does not seem receptive, then try a different angle or simply wait until you meet in person to sexualize a conversation.

At the end of the day, texting is only used to quickly touch base and set up dates. That is it."

We also replied later to his question about how to play that game. Scroll down to the latest comments to read our response.

Anyways, hope this sheds some humble wisdom.


Stay safe brother,
Modern Man Advice
 

KindredSpiritzz

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Why chase first date sex?
i do NOT understand your dating philosophy one bit. I suppose in your 30s you're still looking for a "quality" woman and vetting to that end? At my age i quality women don't exist and im just looking for some action putting forth the least amount of effort possible.
 

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i do NOT understand your dating philosophy one bit. I suppose in your 30s you're still looking for a "quality" woman and vetting to that end? At my age i quality women don't exist and im just looking for some action putting forth the least amount of effort possible.
Hire an escort. It saves time and money.
 

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Lol ^ Simple yet a Slasher. A glass of water with a Purple pill.
 

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Again quoting Alexander Grace today, women want men who don't need anything from them, sex included.
 

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Again quoting Alexander Grace today, women want men who don't need anything from them, sex included.
Or another way of stating, "hungry mouths don't get fed."

That being said, if they leave the door open, always walk through it with some sexual comment.

There is an art to that learning where the line is and to just cross over it a little.

I tend to live very close to either side of the line in my interactions and will freely admit to them my mind is usually in the gutter if they say something...

Most of them say that's good because they don't feel bad that theirs is too.
 

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I don't really sext.. but quite often exchange sexual pics since I get sent quite a few. Girls will be like look at my new lingerie/panties/ im hoping you come peel these off of me and snap some pics and send me and i'll often send something back or just respond with some choice statements

I think little dashes of this stuff is cool, i wouldnt go on and have a full back and forth though.

As far as sexual flirting to get a girl aroused and excited initially, thats a must unless you know a girl is looking for long term stuff in which case it might signal some differences in what you're expecting/looking for
 

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My two cents on texting / sexting:
Use text/chat mainly for logistics - for long distance intimacy call / video call.
Never sext with a woman until after you've had sex. And even then, keep it suggestive.
Don't express sexual desire to any woman you only met through chat.
Never send sexual / **** pictures to any woman. Women provide sex. Sending nudes is their department, not the man's. No matter how much she appreciates your naked body in person, don't give her pictures to drool over. Don't believe her if she says it needs to be quid pro quo - she has to keep you interested in wanting sex with her.
 
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