Final nail in the coffin for me, I need to rebuild my life

[superstorm250]

So I’m making this post because things are officially at the lowest they can be for me. To give you guys some perspective, I’m almost 27 and I’ve never had a girlfriend, I haven’t had sex since losing my virginity 5 years ago right before I turned 22 and that’s also the only time I’ve ever been on a date and kissed a girl. I also still live at home with my parents and my best (and last) friend just recently told me that he’s moving out of state in a couple months, so I’ll officially have no friends as well once he moves away. There’s reasons behind all of these things that I just mentioned, but I’m not gonna go into detail describing why because I don’t want this post to be too long. But at face value, I know that my market value in the dating world is very low because of all this. Not many girls are going to want to date a 27 year old inexperienced guy who still lives at home and has no friends, I’m gonna come off as a loser to practically all of them if they ever found out and they probably would eventually. I need to rebuild my life not just for my dating prospects, but for my overall happiness in general because I see my life getting very boring, lonely, and depressing if I don’t.

 

[Spaz]

You're got a roof over ur head - many others don't.

You're got food on ur dinning table - many others don't even hv fresh food to eat.

You're got a family - many don't.

You're got electricity - many don't.

You're got Internet and probably a handphone - many couldn't even afford toilet paper.

Why are you complaining when you're got so much?

Be grateful, stop ur whining, take advantage of what you have and use it.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

We all gotta start from somewhere. Welcome back to the forums my dude. Do you have a battle plan for getting out of the situation you’re in? What do you want to do, and how are you gonna get there?

Also, don’t mind the dude above me, he’s just a spaz, hence his username lol

 

[Spaz]

We all gotta start from somewhere. Welcome back to the forums my dude. Do you have a battle plan for getting out of the situation you’re in? What do you want to do, and how are you gonna get there?

Also, don’t mind the dude above me, he’s just a spaz, hence his username lol

You guys should join loveshack.

They'll fawn over posts like OP's, offering a sympathetic ear with more sympathy pouring in from others so that the OP ends up in a more sympathetic situation.

And replies like mine, not only gets deleted but they also ban the poster, as they did me after 2 postings.

Seems like i'm a bad influence at loveshack...

 

[Baibars]

So I’m making this post because things are officially at the lowest they can be for me. To give you guys some perspective, I’m almost 27 and I’ve never had a girlfriend, I haven’t had sex since losing my virginity 5 years ago right before I turned 22 and that’s also the only time I’ve ever been on a date and kissed a girl. I also still live at home with my parents and my best (and last) friend just recently told me that he’s moving out of state in a couple months, so I’ll officially have no friends as well once he moves away. There’s reasons behind all of these things that I just mentioned, but I’m not gonna go into detail describing why because I don’t want this post to be too long. But at face value, I know that my market value in the dating world is very low because of all this. Not many girls are going to want to date a 27 year old inexperienced guy who still lives at home and has no friends, I’m gonna come off as a loser to practically all of them if they ever found out and they probably would eventually. I need to rebuild my life not just for my dating prospects, but for my overall happiness in general because I see my life getting very boring, lonely, and depressing if I don’t.

I'm 26 and i had a few times more sex but that means nothing man. I also live with my parents. Don't compare yourself to others. Everybody is different. Just decide to be the best version of yourself from now on. If you work towards your goals everyday for a bit, you will get results.

As you sow, so you reap. We men are born to perform and we are only as valuable as we perform and benefit others. That's a hard fact. Nobody cares about us but if we accept this truth and just do what we have to do, we won't get disappointed.

 

[SW15]

You do have low market value. Also, with a pandemic, opportunities to meet people are at an all time low. It's not an environment conducive to meet new people, either through cold approach or swipe apps.

The best thing you can do right now is to implement a few lifestyle initiatives designed to enhance your market value. You need to enhance your physical fitness. If you get totally ripped, you'll attract attention from women. You should be doing home workouts from YouTube or going to the gyms if they are open in your area. Either option can be a good way to get in shape. You should also eliminate watching porn and masturbating. This will reset your dopamine response to sexual stimuli, and also increase your masculine persona, as you will be so horny that when you're around women, they will pick up on your horniness and masculinity. You should also get your parents to serve less food with soy derivative products and processed ingredients.

If you implement the lifestyle changes I've mentioned, these will be best things you can do to offset the minimal experience that you have and the situation of living with your parents.

 

[Lookatu]

Your mind is your own worst enemy right now. Do gals know you haven't had sex in 5 years? Do they know if you live with your parents? Do they have to know these things right away or would they even care once they got to know you?

Improve yourself and don't sabotage yourself.
Examine and list out where you think you may fall short that's not artificial(money, living situation, etc) and work on the things you can (inner self, personality, physique, etc)

At the same time, examine all the positive things about yourself as well. Sometimes negative thoughts often overshadow the positive things we have. People can sense that and nobody wants to be around a negative person or energy.

 

[Kotaix]

Are you severely introverted? Do you live out in the middle of nowhere? What justifications do you make to not leave the house and be social?

You need to fly from the nest. Staying at home with your parents is the ultimate level of avoidance and comfort. Once you move out, moving back home and asking for their support will never be an option either. When you're gone, you're gone.

Moving will push you into the kind of discomfort that will force you to be more social as well as having to work hard to be able to pay rent. You'll make new friends as you start a new job and get invited to hang out with people.

Your past does not matter, if you can start improving yourself and look forward to future plans instead of dwelling on your past and moping about your failings, then you'll find that your outlook on life will change dramatically for the good. All it takes is having things that you look forward to doing during the course of your day or the next few months. Make plans and follow through on them and you'll find your life will improve almost overnight

Get out there and live the life you want to live. No one is going to do it for you.

 

[RickTheToad]

So I’m making this post because things are officially at the lowest they can be for me. To give you guys some perspective, I’m almost 27 and I’ve never had a girlfriend, I haven’t had sex since losing my virginity 5 years ago right before I turned 22 and that’s also the only time I’ve ever been on a date and kissed a girl. I also still live at home with my parents and my best (and last) friend just recently told me that he’s moving out of state in a couple months, so I’ll officially have no friends as well once he moves away. There’s reasons behind all of these things that I just mentioned, but I’m not gonna go into detail describing why because I don’t want this post to be too long. But at face value, I know that my market value in the dating world is very low because of all this. Not many girls are going to want to date a 27 year old inexperienced guy who still lives at home and has no friends, I’m gonna come off as a loser to practically all of them if they ever found out and they probably would eventually. I need to rebuild my life not just for my dating prospects, but for my overall happiness in general because I see my life getting very boring, lonely, and depressing if I don’t.

I'd say do a hobby or join a meetup, but they ain't doing much right now. You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get back to basics.

1) Get your head straight. If you need to speak to a therapist, go for it. They can do it online and it may give you some direction.
2) Get into shape if you are out of shape. Start by going for a walk, resistance training and/or hitting the weights.
3) What do you want to do with your life?

 

[SW15]

Your mind is your own worst enemy right now. Do gals know you haven't had sex in 5 years? Do they know if you live with your parents? Do they have to know these things right away or would they even care once they got to know you?

Improve yourself and don't sabotage yourself.
Examine and list out where you think you may fall short that's not artificial(money, living situation, etc) and work on the things you can (inner self, personality, physique, etc)

At the same time, examine all the positive things about yourself as well. Sometimes negative thoughts often overshadow the positive things we have. People can sense that and nobody wants to be around a negative person or energy.

This is absolutely correct. If you present yourself as an in-shape guy, women are not going to know just from looking at you that you haven't had sex in 5 years. They might assume 5 days or maybe 5 months.

 

[jaymbrs]

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get your **** together. Get a job and move out of your parents house. Find a place that is within your budget so you can live comfortably and have spending money. That should be your number 1 priority. After you've done that, start finding another set of friends. Join clubs that you're interested in. Hell even look into joining and doing things you're unsure about. Learn to grow. Focus on doing things one at a time and gradually things will start improving overall for you.

 

[Bible_Belt]

There’s reasons behind all of these things that I just mentioned, but I’m not gonna go into detail describing why because I don’t want this post to be too long

You will either say that you had bad luck, or that you made bad decisions. If it is the latter, there is hope.

 

[Stoic]

Start reading books on goals and success. Set some serious goals on your own and start getting after it.

 

[MatureDJ]

You need to enhance your physical fitness. If you get totally ripped, you'll attract attention from women. You should be doing home workouts from YouTube or going to the gyms if they are open in your area.