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How to set the tone that I wanna f*ck?

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so I got feedback from my female friends that I dont have a sex vibe and that I have a relationship vibe. I know how to approach and get the number in the bars and stuff.. the convos go good and we getting to know each other but wen I try to bring up sex or be freaky or invite them over my house they say they wanna take it slow,.. during the dates we always end up kissing and touching a lot but wen I try to get them to f*ck they resist and wanna get to know me more. what can I do ?? thanks
 

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Put their hand on your cvck and then as they are rubbing it gently tug their hair and whisper in their ear "You like rubbing that big c0ck?" Or "I can't wait to stretch you out with this big c0ck" Or "I would rock your world in ways you didn't even know were possible"...or all three as she is doing it.

It will drive them crazy...but you have to be confident enough for it to work...otherwise it will be weird because it won't be congruent with who you are...
 

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so I got feedback from my female friends that I dont have a sex vibe and that I have a relationship vibe. I know how to approach and get the number in the bars and stuff.. the convos go good and we getting to know each other but wen I try to bring up sex or be freaky or invite them over my house they say they wanna take it slow,.. during the dates we always end up kissing and touching a lot but wen I try to get them to f*ck they resist and wanna get to know me more. what can I do ?? thanks
That’s what your females friends would say since they friend zoned you.

What is the first thing that you notice when you notice a women that attracts you?

How often are you fapping to porn?

In general, women follow men’s lead so you are looking in the right place to make a difference.
 

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These kind of questions are hard to answer over the internet because this is very subjective and there can be a number of reasons. Something that is obvious to some, may not be to others.

How often are you fapping to porn?

In general, women follow men’s lead so you are looking in the right place to make a difference.
This was the reason for me, I wasn't getting sexually excited enough by women so, they weren't getting excited so, the sex-vibe wasn't there. When I stopped watching porn and cut down on fapping drastically. This became a non-issue.
 

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These kind of questions are hard to answer over the internet because this is very subjective and there can be a number of reasons. Something that is obvious to some, may not be to others.



This was the reason for me, I wasn't getting sexually excited enough by women so, they weren't getting excited so, the sex-vibe wasn't there. When I stopped watching porn and cut down on fapping drastically. This became a non-issue.
This will prime the pump, the mind processes information in three broad sensory modalities in an order, the order can be unique per individual per memory.

For me it’s visual, kinesthetic then auditory. So when I walk into a room, my eyes catch a glimpse of something, I focus my gaze, then I feel something like my butterflies in my belly or goosebumps on my skin or a pulling/expansive feeling in my solar plexus, etc. then I hear an inner dialogue.

So you have a sequence too and you have access to it right now by recollecting your last approaches that went into comfort before arousal.

As for no fapping that’s good, the next step is to do a couple of exercises to awaken your sensing body.

But before that you’d have to do the exercise above.
 

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so I got feedback from my female friends that I dont have a sex vibe and that I have a relationship vibe. I know how to approach and get the number in the bars and stuff.. the convos go good and we getting to know each other but wen I try to bring up sex or be freaky or invite them over my house they say they wanna take it slow,.. during the dates we always end up kissing and touching a lot but wen I try to get them to f*ck they resist and wanna get to know me more. what can I do ?? thanks

Your not going to "fool" or "steer" them into anything. First of all, too many female friends... Second it's cool for them to know you are fvcking other women and having an easy time of it. When you do it right, you won't spend much time or attention on these "friends", and they will know you are fvcking. If they want to get with it they will copy cat off what the other womens are doing.
 

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I just always make playful and inappropriate sex jokes constantly, it works for me. I joke with them like I do with one of the guys. Next time you get a dirty thought, just say it out loud. If she says "omg, you're such a perv" then you say "I'm sorry.. you're just so sexy, I can't help myself". Just be unapologetically sexual.. most guys try to hide their sexuality because it's taboo, you need to make a girl feel comfortable about having sexual conversations with you. That would be my advice.
 

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I just always make playful and inappropriate sex jokes constantly, it works for me. I joke with them like I do with one of the guys. Next time you get a dirty thought, just say it out loud. If she says "omg, you're such a perv" then you say "I'm sorry.. you're just so sexy, I can't help myself". Just be unapologetically sexual.. most guys try to hide their sexuality because it's taboo, you need to make a girl feel comfortable about having sexual conversations with you. That would be my advice.
Yea but they can get tired of those jokes if they not trying to see you like that.
 

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It could be your environment.

Maybe your lights are too bright, maybe there's no music playing, maybe you have no alcohol, maybe you have a dirty room, maybe your bathroom is a bacteria festival, maybe your sheets are stinky.
These chicks are probably getting turned off when they come to your place.

Your place has to be setup for f*cking, that's all I gotta say!
 

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It could be your environment.

Maybe your lights are too bright, maybe there's no music playing, maybe you have no alcohol, maybe you have a dirty room, maybe your bathroom is a bacteria festival, maybe your sheets are stinky.
These chicks are probably getting turned off when they come to your place.

Your place has to be setup for f*cking, that's all I gotta say!
so what have a round bed, dim lights, soft music in the background and a mini-bar?
 

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When you kiss her, push her bodily against a wall or door frame, and pin her arms above her head. She needs to feel helpless. Nearly all girls fantasize about being taken by a strong guy.

You can kiss her from behind as well. Lock her arms behind her back and push her against a mirror as you lick her ear and exhale a lot. Nobody, woman or man, fails to get aroused when somebody is tonguefücking their earhole. The mirror gets all misted up which adds to her arousal.

Bite her gently on the neck, then a little less gently.

All the while, tell her she's gonna get fücked, you're gonna fück her senseless, etc. Use your imagination.

Yank down on her hair and hold it as you tell her you're gonna destroy her fückhole.

How are you kissing these chicks? A good kiss starts off playful, with you withdrawing your tongue often after barely letting her taste the tip, then progressively letting her suck your tongue longer and deeper. Make sure you bite her lip when you pull away.
 

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so what have a round bed, dim lights, soft music in the background and a mini-bar?
Nah
That's a bit too cliche for my style.
I'm sure that works for other guys, especially Austin Powers or Snoop Dogg.
 

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^ Yeah Baby! Shagadelic!

OP if your crib is lame, or if like me you don't have a crib of your own (I need to fix that) then take her to a hotel. If you can get her to pay for half that's a lot better, if not, take it out on her pu$$y.

Go for something with floor to ceiling glass windows. Girls love to get plowed against those windows whilst everyone below can admire her. It makes her feel like a whöre and gives her a thrill, same as the hotel setting itself. A nice big hot tub as well. If you can't seduce her in that environment, she seriously isn't in to you.

Order up some nice pizzas from room service after.
 

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so I got feedback from my female friends that I dont have a sex vibe and that I have a relationship vibe. I know how to approach and get the number in the bars and stuff.. the convos go good and we getting to know each other but wen I try to bring up sex or be freaky or invite them over my house they say they wanna take it slow,.. during the dates we always end up kissing and touching a lot but wen I try to get them to f*ck they resist and wanna get to know me more. what can I do ?? thanks
Might be the way you look. Some people have a very sexual look. Others don’t. I’m not sure that can be changed.
 

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I was called sexy by various girls I got with when I was in shape. I was nowhere near ripped or anything.

I always thought to myself "this chick is off her head, I ain't sexy" but I kept those thoughts to myself lol.

Once you start actually feeling sexy yourself you're on the right track.
 

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I think it’s my convos snd voice . I realize I ask questions like I’m trying to get to know them for a relationship... like what are your goals , what are u passionate about , wen was your last relationship, etc . Girls frm the past told me they wanna know me enough to fck but Idk how else to make them comfortable without asking these questions

Maybe I should get more bold and sexually bold but how do I make them comfy while being sexual .. like wat to ask them?
 
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