How Do You "Cope?"

[Soldier King]

how do you cope?

you get back up soldier.

Finish the mission, don't let wrong distract you.
If you have kindness in your heart you won't give up when things get hard because you weren't meant to receive, but to give.

 

[Soldier King]

and hopefully you can give these guys 2nd chances who fall down mod, because we all fall down at some point. We have to lift each other up somehow.

 

[biggoal]

Metoo, fat chicks galore, chads monopolizing the limited selection of hot girls, divorce rape, it seems like nothing but black pills abound.

Guys are turning to various forms of addiction to cope: marijuana, alcohol, opioids, video games, porn, sex dolls, internet addiction, tv, junk food via home delivery, religion, blackpill/mgtow obsession and so on.

Is there anyone who can cope with reality any longer? Can anyone stand up to the real world without an addiction or two or three or four or five or more?

How do you do it?

Someone suggested finding the local singles group and linked to their FB on here as well for me to checkout. I went on it and the website and it was mostly older folks, mostly older, nerdy looking balding men, many slobs or looked like they had mental issues and the couple women were very fat and older. Not the type of crowd I'd want to be seen with in public and the few women certainly not dateable. You'd be better going in public alone cold approaching than being seen with these misfits.

Not sure about meetup. I did look at the users and events in the region and the members looked like retirement aged women. Again, not age appropriate.

 

[Black Widow Void]

How the hell did Jerry get banned and biggoal still here, the mods are something else boy I tell you.

I was curious too.
I checked his posting behavior and nothing (at least to me) seemed out of the ordinary.
My guess is that this could be a result of e-mail behavior or maybe he was a former banned member that created a new account.
Far as I could tell, Jerry seemed okay in my book.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Metoo, fat chicks galore, chads monopolizing the limited selection of hot girls, divorce rape, it seems like nothing but black pills abound.

Guys are turning to various forms of addiction to cope: marijuana, alcohol, opioids, video games, porn, sex dolls, internet addiction, tv, junk food via home delivery, religion, blackpill/mgtow obsession and so on.

Is there anyone who can cope with reality any longer? Can anyone stand up to the real world without an addiction or two or three or four or five or more?

How do you do it?

Reality is what you make it. Why do YOU deserve a hot chick? What do YOU bring to the table?

Too many guys think they deserve a hot chick just because they do. If you don't have anything of value to offer then you probably need to work on that.

The people constantly complaining about how they can't find women fall into this cateogry.

 

[biggoal]

Here is the local single group someone posted on here once if you guys don't believe me.

Looks like a hip group, eh? I do better going on 60 dollar OLD dinner dates and the women are a lot better looking.

SWFl Mingling Singles

SWFl Mingling Singles. 733 likes. SWFL Mingling Singles offers a opportunities for singles to meet in a fun and easy going environment at some of swfl hot spots!

www.facebook.com

 

[wifehunter]

 

[Soldier King]

Big goal, you act like you should receive a medal for going out in public. You know why it's harder to succeed when you stay in your house all day, because you are competing with a ton of other guys who are too afraid to take a chance in real life and play without your biggest advantage which is courage.

Online and computers can be useful for making money like mark z or Bill gates but to find a high quality woman without having everything takes a lot of luck.

If you got 200 messages from people a day as a woman with a pretty picture might, would you really be able to tell who is a worthwhile candidate?
Even if you do manage to stand out, how many chances with quality women will you get?

Also there is so much more value in meeting face to face, for some people who spend time online all day it might be a year before you met any girl in person if you didn't actually go out and start a convo yourself. Like myself.

You don't get an award for showing courage. And you don't get anything for complaining about what you dont have. You either do something about it or forever alone.

The Big Goal is love right? So make an effort and start taking some chances.

Let me give you some tips to make approaches easier for you.
1.ask a question or 2 about a quality or goal inside that is important to you.
2. Do something where you have to talk to women but you have a good reason to in your own mind.

This is just my style but it might be helpful to you. I don't stay too long if the girl hasn't shown me anything positive within herself. I know it's easier to win if you stay and give people time, but it's hard for me to be vulnerable so long so I just try and let people hear my voice and hear some of their thoughts then I go and it gives me strength to keep going.
I do try and get contact info, that way you can build for the future.

 

[biggoal]

Big goal, you act like you should receive a medal for going out in public. You know why it's harder to succeed when you stay in your house all day, because you are competing with a ton of other guys who are too afraid to take a chance in real life and play without your biggest advantage which is courage.

Online and computers can be useful for making money like mark z or Bill gates but to find a high quality woman without having everything takes a lot of luck.

If you got 200 messages from people a day as a woman with a pretty picture might, would you really be able to tell who is a worthwhile candidate?
Even if you do manage to stand out, how many chances with quality women will you get?

Also there is so much more value in meeting face to face, for some people who spend time online all day it might be a year before you met any girl in person if you didn't actually go out and start a convo yourself. Like myself.

You don't get an award for showing courage. And you don't get anything for complaining about what you dont have. You either do something about it or forever alone.

The Big Goal is love right? So make an effort and start taking some chances.

Let me give you some tips to make approaches easier for you.
1.ask a question or 2 about a quality or goal inside that is important to you.
2. Do something where you have to talk to women but you have a good reason to in your own mind.

This is just my style but it might be helpful to you. I don't stay too long if the girl hasn't shown me anything positive within herself. I know it's easier to win if you stay and give people time, but it's hard for me to be vulnerable so long so I just try and let people hear my voice and hear some of their thoughts then I go and it gives me strength to keep going.
I do try and get contact info, that way you can build for the future.

It's tough, but a couple of times I did get dates with a couple of the hottest women on Match within 60 miles LOL at the time. Since then the quality of OLD has gone WAY downhill. Most are even more damaged and even lower HB. Tinder is a joke with fat women, tats, etc, Match still okay but not that much as well.

Women do get bombarded from what they've showed me. It's even worse with smart phones now with even more people on there and a smaller pool of women.

Despite that I've got my reply rate back up after taking some advice, keeping my messages a bit shorter, etc and above the average PUA state rates again.

 

[Soldier King]

Congrats on your reply rate going up, and yet you are here complaining about the quality, so that rate obviously is not high enough.

You can keep waiting for the opportunity or you can create an opportunity.

All those hours/probably adds up to days online just to get a face to face, or walk up to that girl you think is beautiful and say hello, which is the easier path?

 

[biggoal]

Congrats on your reply rate going up, and yet you are here complaining about the quality, so that rate obviously is not high enough.

You can keep waiting for the opportunity or you can create an opportunity.

All those hours/probably adds up to days online just to get a face to face, or walk up to that girl you think is beautiful and say hello, which is the easier path?

On OLD my issues is there is not a lot of pre wall, age appropriate women. Very few unless they're fat or covered in tats and trashy. Once in awhile you will find a decent one but not many. So I end up messaging and going on dates with post wall women because the post walls on better looking and such. A 40 year old post wall who's in shape, no kids is hotter than a 27 year old who is fat.

I was just talking to a cute young 27 year old teacher 45 miles away on Match. Flirty and she'd reply back and forth but apparently I came on too strong I guess because I offered to exchange numbers quickly and wanted to hurry and meet up for a date. She gave an excuse she'd text me when she's not busy because of teaching and such with spring break coming up. So Of course I sent yet another reply back again and she blocked me after that. I think my messages were too long and she was trying to be a bit flirty saying she could hands on teach me how to play golf better but I was asking questions about her job and such and tyring to be too much of a SIMP nice guy I think. One of the only decent pre walls online lol.

 

[Soldier King]

Being nice is not a bad thing. If you genuinely had interest and were not manipulating, then why should you not ask.

Writing long messages is not a bad thing, you put thought into it, so why would that be bad? You want someone who gives almost nothing?

Asking for a date too fast I don't think was a mistake either, especially if it was a cool fun date that you think she would like.


The problem is that you have too much competition and you couldn't stand out enough.

 

[biggoal]

Being nice is not a bad thing. If you genuinely had interest and were not manipulating, then why should you not ask.

Writing long messages is not a bad thing, you put thought into it, so why would that be bad? You want someone who gives almost nothing?

Asking for a date too fast I don't think was a mistake either, especially if it was a cool fun date that you think she would like.


The problem is that you have too much competition and you couldn't stand out enough.

Agree and almost 50 miles away. Sometimes women ask me when they're 50 miles or more away why I message them becauss I'm so far away and I explain because no one in my county is on that site. Dead serious. If there were people on old in my area daily do you think I'd be looking up to 60 Miles away. No. Even if they were hb6 in my county I'd mesaage them because realistic wise a relationship 50 miles apart wont work anyway. That's why I look up to 60 miles away because no one in my county on there much.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Metoo, fat chicks galore, chads monopolizing the limited selection of hot girls, divorce rape, it seems like nothing but black pills abound.

Guys are turning to various forms of addiction to cope: marijuana, alcohol, opioids, video games, porn, sex dolls, internet addiction, tv, junk food via home delivery, religion, blackpill/mgtow obsession and so on.

Is there anyone who can cope with reality any longer? Can anyone stand up to the real world without an addiction or two or three or four or five or more?

How do you do it?

Notice, many game gurus are switching to the God pill.

There's a conservative resurgence. It's gone full retard for too long. It's degenerate.

After eons, I cut out porn. It is cuck.

I am mucking intermittent fasting. I date often. I approach. I am ballsy. It's a superb time to be a bachelor. Alternatively, the quality is way low IMHO.

Pickup gurus are switching out. Social freedom to approach is fine. Obsession isn't. I wasted absurd years of my life on it. I can do it. I can assure quality of what is in the market is mad low but you get gems from time to time. It's not a big deal once you acquire a skill set.

I lift. I meditate. I fast internment. I do jits. I meal prep. I read. I enjoy yoga. I date mostly casual. I enjoy coffee. I run.

Life is what you make of it.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

First of all, he was banned under a previous account and had reports coming in on this new account for the same behavior that got him banned to begin with. New members don't just show up and jump straight into calling people fags (banned members apparently don't seem to think or realize we can track IPs that can often reveal multiple accounts too).

Even then, mods will on some rare occasions give banned members a little slack (particularly those who provide good content) to return and participate under new accounts (even though technically we aren't supposed to) IF they reign in the type of behavior that got them canned to begin with and IF they continue to provide good content.

Second, no one mod bans a member unilaterally. It is always by consensus. For that reason, some members are very easy to reach a consensus on and will get banned faster, only because they clearly violate some rules (like the OP). Other members, like BG, tend to hang around longer only because while they are suspected of being a troll (were not stupid), they aren't actually breaking any ban worthy rules, and we don't want to ban anyone simply because they are autistic or ignorant. In these cases they are often warned several times, which may eventually lead to temporary bans which will eventually lead to a permanent ban if nothing changes. That process has already begun.

Third, be thankful this consensus policy is in place and that we do practice a lot of patience, because you would have already been banned otherwise for saying the mods are just like BG and ridiculing what we do on more than one occasion now.

I think some weirdo is in boxing request for digits and emails.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I've often thought of the pleasure of giving up entire media. I haven't voluntarily watched any new TV programming since 1988.

Unfortunately, social media has basically sucked nearly everyone in. Not that I'm a fan of consumerism, but even that media aspect (ordering on line) has kept people more home-contained. If you go out to a social type area, there's a good chance that you'll be cold approaching someone looking at their phone or laptop.

In other words, even if we attempt to live media free, we are faced with nearly everyone else that isn't.

Ever thought of starting your own meetup? Back when I had more time, I did this. It's not a bad gig.
Look at the most interesting women on meetup. Find a common interest among these particular women and start a group that combines their varied interests or one that is just alluring, but slightly different from the others.

As to using drugs and other things as an escape. I mostly agree.
We do the same thing when we log on to this site. It's a way to take our mind off of things.. no different than listening to music.

Some drugs, however aren't necessarily an "escape." For instance; although LSD can be used as a recreational drug, this can also be a tool to work on oneself and improve (broadening self-awareness that we may not otherwise notice). If you've never tried it, I wouldn't expect you to defend it. I haven't "tripped" in over thirty years, but I'm more cognizant of things as a result. And for those reading, I'm not advocating drug use. It's not for everybody.

I cannot stress enough that valuable elements of psychedelics which I think will be legal eventually. Likely in our life. A sharks tank guy is buying stocks. Likely insider info.

I found psychedelicd give you what you need. Not what you want. I get my ass kicked often. It's a by product of a hyper active mind and ego.

 

[Visionist]

Yeah, don't really seek escape with anything, except for what what I would call "immersive-TV" set-ups. Since 2017 I've modernized from a 4:3 computer screen to an HD 16:9 58 inch screen (which is outdated today) and have a HD-projector, as well as Tablets/smartphones, and view video and written reviews of movies and TV-shows and watch tonnes of documentaries, movies, and TV-programming of sorts programming and have subscriptions all over the place.

Since 1988, I loved the 16mm projector, loved taking a reel of 16 mm film, loading it in the projector, and watch one reel full of film move slowly while the empty reel at the back of the projector moved faster and see one reel empty and the back reel fill up while a nice 4:3 image (better than 4 K quality today) would be projected on a screen/wall. I borrowed lots of 16 mm film from the library back then when I was a kid. This thing ended in around 1992. 2017 is seen as the spiritual continuation of this in the modern era of streaming and Blu-rays, but like all phases, eventually this too will come to an end. I don't know how, but all phases normally do. Modern movie-quality the way I've set it up is simply very immersive and brings you right into it. I've lost interest in visiting real cinemas (unless there is a must-see movie like Avengers's End Game).

I'm into my home theater in a big way too. I sit around five feet from a 65' Panasonic VT-65 Plasma, uncalibrated but with the picture mode set to THX, and raise the volume on my Onkyo receiver to THX REF pumping through my Sonus Faber/Jamo 7.1 setup.

The whole thing is so loud and thunderous it can make the neighbours jump next door - I limit my viewing hours to before their bedtime, although that causes problems with excessive daylight seeping into the room when I wanna watch a long 3+ hour film in spring/autumn. In summer the rig is unusable due to the heat and light.

I have over 500 Blurays, most of them limited editions from around the world, including many Steelbooks, and no streaming service. I have many films I've never watched, not even in the cinema. My Oppo player is region free.

Many weeks might pass between me watching anything though.

 

[corrector]

Many weeks might pass between me watching anything though.

That is because you have no incentive to watch, and you have the paralysis of choice on 500 Blu-rays!. I find that my approach, which is to borrow from a public library system or stream from sites like Crave/Netflix which are constantly changing their content, guarantees that I'll watch something before it is removed from a streaming service, or that it is due back to the library. If I own all of the material then I probably would not watch anything either except if the mood really strikes, or there is allot of time that's available, and the movie-hobby would just collapse because many times, "anytime" means "never", or "once in a blue moon".

Your approach, however, has no stress since you don't feel pressured to watch any of the movies you have.