How do you come across as sexual to a woman? What are the ways you can display your sexuality and start getting her to think of you in that way?
First off, there's two things that must be internallized for your perspective to shift.
You must acknowledge your sexuality. You must acknowledge your sexual desires. Undersatnd that your sexual desires, and sex itself is healthy and natural. You are not an abomination or mutant just becaue you're sexually attracted to women, and women will not hate you for expressing your sexual desires to them.
The women you meet, and are attracted to are not your mother or sister. Do not look at them in that manner.
Women want to be desired and looked upon as sexually desireable. Not
purely as sex objects, but as whole, desireable women.
The "rape fantasy" women have is merely the subconscuious desire to be overwhelmingly
lusted after. It is her perception of herself, to be
sexually desireable that women value so highly. Other things like marriage, being a wife and mother, also add to her vision of her self, and add her self esteem because she has reacehed that lebvel of STATUS in the world, and in the female social circle she has.
Healthy women want your
respect. So they will often not be forward in expressing sexual interest in you right off the bat. The more guarded they are, the more slowly they will move into that perspective and action with you. If you have hangups with your sexuality, and the way you perceive women, they will notice it and be turned off.
If you are comfortable with your sexuality, and and acknowledge that women do desire sex as well, the will be more receptive. In other words, they will give you a chance.
When women sayt that want a "real Man" who has "confidence", it boils down to sexual confidence, and the balls to make things happen. Women want men who are leaders. They want men they can look up to.
With the mindset that women are the prize and thousands of men are competitng against each other for the mere attention of women, they gain an over inflated sense of worth. They build their confidence and their very strong frame by thinking of themselves as "having got the goods", And YOU, the man, must work hard to "impress her", to be "worthy" of HER.
Hence, the difficulties of men approaching women, since they feel that women have all this "power'.
It's a woman's FRAME. She feels that she is above many men, perhaps ALL Men.
And what happens to men who don't have the confidence to look upon these Godesses whom you must bow down to?
They can't look them in the eye.
When you can't make eye contact with her you only reinforce her perception that you are submissive and weak, and therefore not worth her time.
Here's the thing.
Women need security.
All that confidence is build on a house of cards.
Women need
security. They need sex and intimacy. They are desperately looking for the Man who will "sweep her off her feet."
If you can't look at a woman for who she is, and accept that she has vulnerabilities, and that you can't take a lot of things she says or does seriously, and still appreciate her femeninity...and realize that she wants you to TAKE HER....
...then you can look upon women as not Godesses, but women who need love, compassion, and understanding. They need a man to lead her to happiness.
With so many guys who
don't "know what they want." Women get frustrated screening the multitudes of guys hitting on her. She needs to weed out the poseurs with fake confidence.
They look to a man for confidence and leadership.
Confident leaders, who are sincere, can look at
everyone in the eye.
If you are truly a masculine Man, then you acknowledge
your sexual desires, and the
sexuality of women.
You have a right to talk a woman you are attracted to.
There is NOTHING WRONG with approaching a woman you don't know and just saying "Hi!".
Women sometimes are actually surprised if men do this, because they are used to a Bull sh*t social "norm" that we "DON'T TALK TO STRANGERS."
But........
That advice was used for little children, especially for little girls to help protect them from pedophiles.
And many "adults" STILL follow this "advice"
even in their adulthood.
Fvked up , isn't it?
You see how we went wrong? You see how people were conditioned this way? We were going against our own nature, and we didn't even know why and how.
As men, we have to have the confidence to break through those barriers, and let women know that they are
not the Be All End All. Which ironically, is what they want.As countetintuitive as it sounds, helathy women do want to "be put in their place." You have tio understand women deeply to realize this. And it's oiften not what you think superficially.
Eye contact shows conidence, and dominance. Eye contact with a woman is a sexual indicator. Women are visual, sensual, sexual creatures,. Since they cannot size you up sexually, I mean physically, on initial meeting, they rely on your body language, and eye contact. What you say is not as important, unless she is really interested in you as a
Partner, and then she determines what values you have, and she has to now gauge what it is you want in a woman. Women will act coy sometimes when you believe they are coy. Women will act brash and sexual, when you believe they are brash and sexual. Women, whom are born
actresses, will often conform to your vision of the woman
you want. Not all women, but many will. What do you think women mean when they complain that they don't like men who "don't know what they want?"
"Are you interested in a ONS?!! Or an LTR??!!!"
This is when they start to sh*t test you. To find out whatyou're about, what you want,. and who you are.
Let her know. Don't be disingenous. Demonstrate your intentions.
Be the confident, sexual, masculine man. And you won't have to turn on or off your Sexual "Swittch'. Your "switch" will
ALWAYS be ON. Women WILL KNOW. Believe me, they are looking for you. They will recognize it.
Don't be discouraged.
Eye contact is the connection to her sexuality.
Often suppressed, women look to a man to bring that out in her. To make her feel comfortable being sexual, and not judge her because she is a sexual creature.
Women don't want to be your mama, because the SEXUALITY is removed frm the relationship. It is unnatural. Therefore, women who are "courted" with flowers, poems,cards etc, look at these symbols strangely sometimes. When a man does these things too EARLY in the interaction, she realizes that you are an
AFC. No sexuality, and you don't look at her sexually. Big turn off.
When you do these things AFTER the initial stages, then, she will see that
YOU RESPECT HER.
Very important point.
This is why women want men to be confident, because they feel you will know "FINALLY" what to do with a woman!
At least, healthy women do. Many women do not want a doormat of a Man. They
don't want to lead a Man.
They want to be Lead.
the eyes are the "
Windows to the SOUL" If your soul is masculine, and healthy, then let that come through to the woman you desire. She will want it. She will appreciate. And even if she "rejects" yoiu, she will still acknowledge that you were Man enough to approach and look her in the eye. She will still look at you as a man, a real man, and be flattered anyway.
There is no such thing as Lose/Lose here. It realy is Win/Win. It
is counterintuitive, but it is the correct mindset.
You know who you are.You know what you Want.
You know that women don't have any power over you.
You know that women want Men. Real men.
(In fact, women, with their somewhat mercenary nature, even in a relationship will still be "looking". Some will look only for attention and validation,both are signs of
INSECURITY. Ironic, huh? Cosidering their strong "frame". Others, are "looking" , because they want the best deal possible. It's how women are. It's their nature. This you must accept. This is WHY Women want men who will take them, dominate them , and lead them. Because
WOmen know WHO THEY ARE. And look to A REAL MAN to PREVENT their destruction.
This is why they don't take seriously a Male who DOES NOT "KNOW" Women. They also have initial mistrust becaus ethey don;t know if you're putteing them on, or you're real. And most importantly...YOU WILL KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING TO ATTRACT HER AND KEEP HER IN THE RELATIONSHIP.)
Once you look women in the eye and demonstrate BOTH...then you are on to a whole new dimension of feeling, thinking, and acting.
