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    No interest in being ‘Just a friend’, how would you word this?

    I say girlfriend for ease of sake, we’ve been out a few times & it’s casual but she’s moving pretty fast for my liking. I don’t know what it is? We’ve agreed we’re not with anyone else though. I’d talked about something else a few days earlier with this other girl, we talk occasionally. And I...
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    No interest in being ‘Just a friend’, how would you word this?

    @stringpuller & @manfrombelow exactly! I don’t ‘just’ want sex, but I ‘do’ want to have sex with her (or at least I would if we were single!), I’d rather state my intentions and be honest than get stuck in the friend zone. So what if she ‘puts me on blast’! Nothing wrong with respectfully...
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    No interest in being ‘Just a friend’, how would you word this?

    To be honest it was more how was the best way to react is all? I wanted to get across ‘ we’re both with someone so I’m not interested now anyway, but yeahin general I don’t see you that way’ in case we were single again in future. And wasn’t sure if I should a) Say “yeah but friends don’t want...
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    No interest in being ‘Just a friend’, how would you word this?

    Of course I don’t know enough about women, that’s why I’m here, to learn :lol: I thought that was obvious mate! I’m not sure what help saying I was a pvssy is though, I mean I know that I’m trying to make sure it doesn’t happen in the future! @CAPSLOCK BANDIT we DM each other occasionally, it’s...
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    No interest in being ‘Just a friend’, how would you word this?

    Haha! Not at all, this is another reason why I wasn’t sure how to word it (as I say I have Asperger’s, so I struggle to express myself clearly sometimes) I don’t want to do anything with her at all now, because I’m with someone and so is she. I respect that. It’s just if we both became single...
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    No interest in being ‘Just a friend’, how would you word this?

    @manfrombelow hey it wasn’t for lack of trying! She said she was really uncomfortable going any further than me going down on her / her giving me a BJ, which is what we did, because it was a first date and from what I could tell, she had a few hang-ups. I mean, we both came, she had an issue...
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    No interest in being ‘Just a friend’, how would you word this?

    Got it! Cheers guys, this is gold. I couldn’t have done anything different at the time, with all the family things I had going on I’m glad things were all handled as well as they were. I’ll just ignore her message completely. @oldmanofthesea it was never about ‘calling her out’ so to speak...
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    No interest in being ‘Just a friend’, how would you word this?

    Guys, this is perfect thanks! It got weird as we slept together the first time (well we went to bed, got naked & did everything ‘but’ sex), then she went cold for a while. I assumed it was me (I had a lot of family issues, my brother had recently tried to commit suicide so I had a lot going...
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    No interest in being ‘Just a friend’, how would you word this?

    I went out with a girl a few times the other year, it all got a bit weird and we didn’t go out for a while. Flash forward to now, she’s with someone and so am I. I made a comment on something teasing her on IG DM’s earlier about how I was avoiding women (including her) for a while & she said...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    I totally see where you’re coming from Max, & in most normal situations I’d totally agree with you. My thing is we didn’t end on bad terms (at least I don’t think so!), but I had a lot going on outside my relationship at the time (my oldest sister got sick, my brother got AIDS, really heavy...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Not sure if this is the right place to put this, but split up with my GF (well, she split up with me :lol:) a year ago. We hadn’t been going out long, but I was in a bad place at the time due to family problems (my brother had attempted suicide, but I couldn’t tell anyone as he made me promise...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Thanks SO much for this, these are all great reminders and just what I needed to hear. The fact I’m in lockdown and can’t see the rest of my family is making it even harder, but it’s genuinely a help to remind me to grieve for her. And I’m so relieved you said that about my ex as well! I was...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Thanks for the advice guys, kinda what I thought but deep down you always want to hear what you want to be told, you know. It’s rather ironic as one of the women I’ve dated since used to date one of the biggest pop stars in the UK (& a former England football captain, till she found out he was...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Hey, you’re right I suppose it could be that. I mean I never got that impression when we went out, in fact she seemed pretty keen but she had just started a new job as well and was working away, she genuinely seemed pretty busy. And even when we weren’t going out in December/Jan she was still...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    So I’ve been doing this myself (I decided to give myself 6 months before I even saw this thread) as a choice since my last girlfriend split up with me. Bit of background... We’d been going out several months, got on great & the sex was amazing. Looking back now, I can see the problems were: A)...
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