Recent content by rbd

Well here I am with another relationship that is about to hit the skids, after around 9 or so months. Unlike my last one (a 2 year one with what I found was a borderline girl -- ended with me having to call the cops on her), this girl is about the exact opposite. She's kind, loyal to a fault...

That's the same vibe I got from it. I do like parts of what she writes and they are reasonable enough, but that, and the whole hippy-dippy vs. Machiavellian thing kind of contradicts itself IMO (unless you believe in compassionate + truthful Machiavellianism...total oxymoron :). It doesn't add...

backbreaker you do have a strong point there. And that's what was getting me about the whole situation at some level with him as I thought about it after I posted that. It seemed to be more about her being fvcked up than about him moving in like that. AND, as I think about it, he definitely...

Guys, I have found the neurotic MOTHER LODE. I will post this one in it's fvcked up entirety for your enjoyment. This girl is a PIECE OF WORK. I don't quite think she understands what she's talking about, but she sure seems to believe it. WOW:

Credos: yes that's true with HSV1 (oral herpes). I'm talking about the "other" kind (and still, 25-30% of sexually active teens and young adults have that one, so it is pretty common as well). Regarding how it went on Thursday, I did end up talking to my friend. Told him to do whatever, but to...

Ok guys, let's do a fun game. Post an online dating profile here that brought up some red flags for you. Then either state what the red flags were, or give your own translation of it. The goal here is both for fun and to help other spot red flags better. :) Obviously, no identifying details in...

I've had two fat female friends of mine (that were both total svlts when I knew them years ago) get married in the last few years. Both to nice, pretty handsome salt of the earth kind of guys. If they only knew what I know...good Lord.

I had my first stripper encounter in vegas last year. Not quite my thing, but having dollar bills picked off your face by a pair of t1ts is pretty entertaining. Puking on the plane ride back home definitely wasn't, however.

Someone else on this forum (forget who) stated awhile ago that seducing a woman requires you to cultivate two things: comfort and attraction. I've never forgotten that. I think a lot of what you're talking about here is the comfort side of the equation. If I remember correctly, the conclusion...

Of course LTRs are a goal (and eventually, marriage, if I find the right chick for me). Seeing this life for what it truly is doesn’t mean that you just have to throw up your hands and go “well oh shyt, guess I should just go hang myself and get it over with faster.” If you know that that...

Haha, no problem. People here talk about being let out of the matrix. Well, there you go. :rock: On the flip side, if you accept the nature of this life and become comfortable with it, it becomes harder for things to phase you, since you realize we're all in a fishbowl anyhow. Some folks do...

I think it depends. While I don't think anyone would say that they don't want to NOT know, I do believe that ignorance is bliss for most. That can especially be the case if they have kids together. There is also the safety issue as well (how many others has he cheated on her with, STDs, etc)...

For me, the hardest thing is coming to realize that suffering and disappointment are an ever present part of this life. When I was younger and not able to get a woman to save my life, I saw the skills for the attainment of a good girlfriend as my ticket out of my troubles. Now I have those...

Thanks guys for all the feedback. squirrels: Why do I care? I think it's just more about feeling frustrated as sh1t that I was being pulled back into a situation that I had worked so hard to get out of. It's just like what horaholic said on the BPD thread: That's just what it was like, at...

Guys, sometimes the double standards that women can have totally piss me off, even when I know that it’s totally pointless to let it anger me. I have a BPD ex. We broke up for good a bit over a month ago from a 2 year relationship (I’ve written on this once in the past). Since that time I’ve...