Recent content by kookdekoo

What's hard today will be tomorrow's warmup !

My no contact is well into it's third month now. I dumped my LTR ( post facto research and analysis convinced me she was a covert narcissist and I did GREAT by dumping her before she dumped me ! My devaluation was in full swing and discard couldn't have been far away ) of five years. She texted...

Speaking from experience - The LTR I ditched recently gave me explosive sex initially. Same story as you..talking dirty, role playing , insatiable, doggie style..you get the drift. I learnt afterwards , it's called love/sex bombing - a technique used by covert narcissists to rope you in. The...

As I like to say, you're good at English when you know the difference between 'wise man' and 'wise guy' !

Good riddance. You dodged a bullet. Keep your guard up and don't get sucked in again.

Nail. Head. Bang. Just realized the 5+ year's LTR I dumped recently thinking she was escalating the betatization process to turn me into a doormat and was normal **** testing me and seemed always to behave with 'suppressed irritation' , turns out was a covert narcissist. Got out quickly without...

The reverse is also true. We think the girl's behaving crappy because she's just lost interest in us. Later, the penny drops about BPD/NPD, especially for those of us exposed for the first time.

Speaking from my own experience: Be prepared mentally that it's over. My ex spouse put me in exactly same ( no affection, duty sex , no intimacy ) place and it was over after a couple of years for me. My life's worst years. Make plans for a future without her. Set a mental deadline as to how...

Heavy leg presses, weighted squats , weighted fly squats and deadlifts. Lower body strength is boosted and free testosterone in blood rises.

As someone famously said..youth is wasted on the young ! I am almost 56, fit and horny as anything ! I look forward to satisfying sechs well into my late sixties !

It's one of the easiest thing to do to get female attention and yet... I am at my very best shape ever. Except for a slight belly fat ( which no amount of exercise seems to have any effect on ! ) , my body is hard and totally in shape. I'm 55 and yet , a lady gym trainer hit on me other day.

My $0.02 : How long are you going to keep spinning plates/plumb the dating scene ? If you are comfortable with this woman and feel her submissive nature is genuine, no harm in moving in together IF : a. You ensure you can hold your frame. What happens when the chick moves in is slow...

The man who can control his lust , will rule the world- Old Jungle Saying.

I dumped my LTR recently. Better to be a dumper than a dumpee. Gave her three chances. Didn't improve. Same combative behaviour. Same drama and argumentative BS. In hindsight, turns out she was a covert narcissist. Hence wouldn't improve... After my dumping , she tried to hoover me in by...

When I was 50, banged a 24 year old for over six months. Met her at my gym.