Recent content by coyote_astro

I have definitely misinterpreted things in many occasions here. Though I am not sure she never had any interest whatsoever. I might never know for sure, but this is based on the feel I've got from our interactions. At this point it doesn't matter much. As to what I am upset about, that night at...

I think so too brother. Originally I didn't consider making a move as she was from work etc, but it was later when we started vibing that i got interested. By which time all these things happened. Avoiding contact with her for a while has definitely helped me see things more clearly. At this...

I had to google the meaning of this word, but you are not wrong, I partly was... Obviously I don't enjoy any of this, and this is not the case any more.

No way man, not in the mood for catching anything!

Thanks bro, you are right, I usually try to avoid getting into these types of situations, but this time I fell for it. Maybe because I was new to this city so didn't have much abundance when I met her. Or maybe I just got carried away. Anyway, lesson learned for next time.

Two months ago I moved to a new city to start a new job. I started going out with a group of co-workers of similar age, including this girl that I'm writing about. She is cute but not particularly hot (~7-7.5/10) but is clearly my type and we come from similar cultural backgrounds, so it was...

Update: After a week of complete radio silence from both sides, I texted her again today. Did not really expect her to respond tbh, but she did and seems open again. I might have another shot after all

I feel you man, I've had cases of oneitis multiple times over the years, especially when I was younger. One of them was pretty bad. Luckily these taught me to be careful. Hope you are over it now!

This is actually exactly the reason! Jake, don't worry man, I'm not catching feelings for this girl. We only interacted for 12 hours (that might have been enough when I was 20, but not now). But I do admit that failing to close hurt my ego a bit, and I want another chance. Plus I want to break...

No, I was thinking along the lines of what Billtx49 wrote above, that 2 days would be too early/too eager. But who really knows..? And yes, you are right, I am trying not to beat myself down too much over this. Thanks!

Ain't that the million dollar question...? I think we all wish we could answer it in every one of these situations. What would be funny is if she's having the exact same discussion in some girl forum right now..

That's pretty much the way I was thinking of going about it. When I first started this thread, I was thinking of texting her roughly a week after our last encounter. I like the idea of letting her wonder what I'm up to over the weekend. So I'll wait till Monday or so. Thanks for the actionable...

I get exactly what you mean, but don't worry, I'm not catching feelings. Just wanted to see what people here think wrt how to go about the contact. And I also agree about the anticipation component, texting too early would kill that.

Nope, it's been 2 days since I left her place, and I have not heard anything from her.

Very well said, thanks brother!