Recent content by Abcd

Yeah my take on the whole date scheduling issue is that it doesn't really matter how you do it. I find the rules about waiting x days to call childish - as long as you come off as reasonably confident, you're only going to seem more confident by calling a girl the day after you got her number...

Dude forget this psychobabble. You're not describing any mental reaction that every guy in the world doesn't have. Again, you are perfectly normal, you sound like an intelligent guy who is just over-analyzing basic human instinct. The way to get around the fear of rejection is to go in...

Zanbato, First of all, you're not alone in feeling extremely nervous about approaching women. That just makes you normal. I would consider myself extremely successful with women, and extremely confident, ie. I will approach women more easily than 98% of men. Everybody thinks I'm Mr...

Well you were all correct. She actually texted me the day before the date to invite me to the beach, which I declined, and then she did indeed come out with me today. Great girl, was a good date. Just had me confused with the "text me" business.

I think you're just freaking her out by being too dramatic. Just be a little less dramatic and more matter of fact when you make your move. Don't do so, so much cuddling beforehand, just a little cuddling is OK, then a quick, confident kiss before she really has time to think about it. You're...

You acted like a self-centered child if you ask me. Real responsible adults have jobs and work should usually come before play. You go out and have fun when you're not at work. Especiallly with an hourly gig where she "needs the hours." If her friend had called and invited her out to...

Iceberg: I was expecting the 22 year olds to respond saying that but wow that's the last thing I'd expect to hear from a fellow not-so-young guy. To me texting (at least the first time) just seems so lacking in confidence. Anyway, I thought I DID ask her out on a date (see above) but maybe...

Me: 28 year old professional. Her: 22 year old high school English teacher four days on the job, now on strike in Chicago with all the other public school teachers this week. Got her number in a coffee shop after some nice banter and smiles. Did not give her my number. Called her around...

I posted this in the main forum but realized it's probably better here. I am in Paris for just a few days - tonight Friday is my only night alone. Where is an American guy (27) most likely to pick up a girl in Paris? I've had a couple french gfs before but they spoke English and we met in...

I am in Paris for just a few days - tonight Friday is my only night alone. Where is an American guy (27) most likely to pick up a girl in Paris? I've had a couple french gfs before but they spoke English and we met in other countries. I have no idea how to go about picking up a French girl on...

I agree getting married ain't hard, it's staying happily married that's hard... I think a lot of people are "relatively happy" in their marriages, but I am not the kind of person that is happy being "relatively happy" - I would much rather be having a great time. Regarding finding "the one" -...

To answer your question: I'd much rather get married to a woman that I really love even it it takes until I'm 40. But my problem is, knowing the couple of LTRs I've had that on paper were great, and knowing my lack of enthusiasm after a year, I really am doubting whether I'll ever find that...

I'm 27, i've benefited from this website in years gone by for the purpose it seems to be intended for... answering the question of How to pick up women. But truly, I think I am like most men (if not necessarily most men on this site) in that I really have no interest in picking up multiple...

****.. Her text: Hey abcd! Based on our plans for tonight I don't think I'm going to be good company tom. morning :O But you're more than welcome to join us at <club> tonight! What would you do?

Some people are simply against premarital sex, either for religious or philosophical reasons - does she present these reasons too? If not (ie, if she just says the time is not right) then it's getting to be quite a long time. I have been in this situation before, although I think it only took...