Letting her initiate sex

[BJP1991]

Both for plates and LTRs:

How often do you hang back and allow your woman to initiate sex with you, rather than generally being the one to initiate / begin touching that leads to 1st/2nd/3rd base and finally having sex?

Do you find yourself more commonly initiating than your woman? I assume every person/relationship dynamic has varying degrees of who initiates, and generally men DO have a slightly higher sex drive than women - but are there ever times you hang back and see just how far SHE will go, rather than the man initiating, taking the lead and making moves?

Also, being the man who always makes moves could get old/stale/routine - so this just comes out of curiosity about initiating sex on a regular basis.

Thanks!

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Most girls I’ve been with tend to be quite horny. But usually things just happen. Eye contact, touching, kissing. Leads to... It’s hard to say who really initiates. Maybe I’m just not that aware.

 

[flowtheory]

Women imitate in more covert and subtle ways.
In the beginning the man is generally the one who initiates overtly - grabbing her behind her head gently and going in for the kiss..

Think of it like this: women open the window for the man, and the man climbs in. Who initiated? Well, technically both - it’s a bit of a dance right?
I think sometimes as men we want the woman to overtly initiate, because that’s OUR language. But more often than not, it won’t be her tearing your pants off for the D, like you see in porn.
the only time this happens is when you have already revved her up beyond all her reason and rational and she’s fully in her emotions.

The type of woman, and overall relationship dynamic is a major part of this question too. And stage of the relationship. And how they’ve both acted in the relationship.
But in the end.. women NEED to be wanted. They are just professionals at putting themselves in the right place, at the right time, so they can obtain what they desire. A mans goal always is simple: know what you want, and go get it.

Another example.. say you’re in public. And all of a sudden there’s a woman in your sight or near you...And you muster up the courage to approach her.. did you initiate that interaction, or did she simply position herself in a certain spot so you could go for what you wanted?

 

[Serenity]

I agree with the above. Who initiates isn't always clear. We can both start out just kissing lightly, but neither of us want to stop. Almost by itself it just escalates, clothes start flying and we have sex. I can't tell who started it, I'm not doing 100% of the escalation. I may escalate a little, then she escalates a little and it keeps going back and forth like that.

Btw, I hate having to do all of it, I'm turned on by women who enthusiastically participate.

 

[isasda66]

This is quite an interesting topic.

In one instance the man always has to lead and also has to randomly pull back to prevent too much comfort/familiarity.

I always try to keep my plate dates as sexual as possible and then again I dont text them besides logistics. I would say 80% of my texts are for logistics. But then always escalating on a plate validates her and also gives her comfort that every time I invite her out she knows I'll **** her.

Never be to available. Either scenario.
Let natural desire take its shape. Mix it up

I tried this out. But maybe my sample was too small but basically the times I didnt initiate, my plates would not initiate half the times, the other half they would really curl up into me and that was my sign to escalate.

I guess I still have a long way to go before women start ripping off my denim.

 

[dk1990S111]

Depends on the woman for sure lol old gf from years ago would wake me up with her head under the sheets pretty regularly.

 

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[backseatjuan]

Isn't the subject of this post is same as saying 'letting her display high IL'? Because if she has high il and she initiates sex that means if you are not letting her, you stopping her. I'm confused.