Besides the fact that a disturbingly large number of guys are actually as scared as little girls of cold approaching beautiful women, the other secret I have recently discovered is: You can basically suck as a DJ and still get digits from women.
Anybody else notice this?
Almost 100% of the time I do or have approaches “happen” I am by myself. And since I have been pretty successful at keeping a steady flow of digits in the pipeline I assumed I was one suave DJ.
I was wrong.
Last week I had an old buddy visit and it was a good chance to get critiqued on my “ability” by a wingman.
His assessment was rather brutal. Lets see, I talk too high, like a girl, I use my hands way too much (he joked that this one girl’s head was going in circles watching my hands), I look awkward and uncomfortable, and my accent makes me sound stupid. I don’t dress that well, I make too many funny faces, and I don’t listen very well. And, of course, I’m OLD. Other than that I’m just great!
But somehow, someway, I managed to connect, make them laugh and walk away with digits.
My point is, we focus so much on being “perfect” in our approach that we forget the basics: that if you just put yourself there with her, do anything remotely interesting, and just go for the digit, you will more than likely get it.
I think we forget that for all practical purposes, if you have learned 2% of what’s on this site, you have no serious competition.
I write this as just yesterday I was visiting a Wal-Mart (usually a terrible place to meet women, well, with teeth, anyway) and I really did feel like sh*t. I had 0 interest in chatting with any woman. I was in line behind a hb7+ buying luggage. I had just barely enough energy to ask one question “Where ya goin?” and that’s all it took.
I’m curious to hear other’s success stories in which you had absolutely no reason to expect success.
Anybody else notice this?
Almost 100% of the time I do or have approaches “happen” I am by myself. And since I have been pretty successful at keeping a steady flow of digits in the pipeline I assumed I was one suave DJ.
I was wrong.
Last week I had an old buddy visit and it was a good chance to get critiqued on my “ability” by a wingman.
His assessment was rather brutal. Lets see, I talk too high, like a girl, I use my hands way too much (he joked that this one girl’s head was going in circles watching my hands), I look awkward and uncomfortable, and my accent makes me sound stupid. I don’t dress that well, I make too many funny faces, and I don’t listen very well. And, of course, I’m OLD. Other than that I’m just great!
But somehow, someway, I managed to connect, make them laugh and walk away with digits.
My point is, we focus so much on being “perfect” in our approach that we forget the basics: that if you just put yourself there with her, do anything remotely interesting, and just go for the digit, you will more than likely get it.
I think we forget that for all practical purposes, if you have learned 2% of what’s on this site, you have no serious competition.
I write this as just yesterday I was visiting a Wal-Mart (usually a terrible place to meet women, well, with teeth, anyway) and I really did feel like sh*t. I had 0 interest in chatting with any woman. I was in line behind a hb7+ buying luggage. I had just barely enough energy to ask one question “Where ya goin?” and that’s all it took.
I’m curious to hear other’s success stories in which you had absolutely no reason to expect success.
