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Would you rather be sexy or likable?

Urbanyst

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Would you rather have strong sex appeal to HOT women, while being disliked by most men, fatties and women over 30?

Or would you rather be liked by most people in general, but most women friendzone you?

And why?

Just want to see how most of you guys think.
 

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If a woman finds me sexy and wants me sexually, she will like me.

She could easily like me and not find me sexy and want me sexually.

Easy choice. It's a factor in why escalation with a woman is important.

And we all know that once you stick your d!ck in a woman, the rules change and the man should be the majority stock holder.
 

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This is a stupid question, thats like asking would you rather be able to inhale or exhale only. like wtf.
 

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I think that the OP’s point is being missed here.

There are some guys that attract a lot of good looking women, but they annoy or put off other men and less attractive women. Sexy yes, but only likeable to attractive women. Not overall likeable.

Then there are guys that do well at both. They are sexy to women and just all around cool people to everybody. True Chads usually fall in this category because they have no reason to be a dyck.

Then there are guys that are overall likeable to most people, but don’t have the looks so the sexy part is out.

I think the OP was asking, “Would you rather be a dyck with a high notch count with attractive women, or a likeable non-Chad who is everybody’s friend, but doesn’t score?”
 

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Sexy is better. In my years of being on this forum, I've never heard of a guy who likes to be friendzoned, or come in second place.

Second place is first loser. Beta traits like likeability come in the relationship phase. Sex phase is first. Then the guy has power to pursue a relationship.

Case closed.
 

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Essentially you are saying "would you rather prefer to get your needs met or not?"

Of course I would pick the first option! The second doesn't get laid...

In my opinion fulfilling your needs should be more valuable than appearing likable to everyone.

And btw being sexy to women and creating hate from jealous guys is part of parcel of life. It's only natural and has no reflection on how good of a person you are, just a reflection of how immature and bitter other men are.

Therefore the hate in the first scenario is petty and should be ignored as insignificant because it doesn't really mean much.
 

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I disagree.

I would smash a lot of women who I don't actually like as people and I'm sure you would too.
If you are smashing them... there is SOMETHING you like about them. Unless you are some-kind of self-loathing masochist.
 

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If you are smashing them... there is SOMETHING you like about them. Unless you are some-kind of self-loathing masochist.
We smash because we like how they look. So partly you're right, we like something about them.

But the OP was referring more to character traits than physical traits when he said "likable".

Therefore in a sense you can like to bang someone yet not find them "likable", because you like their physical traits but not their character traits.
 

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We smash because we like how they look. So partly you're right, we like something about them.

But the OP was referring more to character traits than physical traits when he said "likable".

Therefore in a sense you can like to bang someone yet not find them "likable", because you like their physical traits but not their character traits.
There are plenty of women I know who have a nice personality and I wouldn't bang them in 100 years. No attraction whatsoever. However if given the opportunity to bang an ex plate who I now can't stand, I'd probably consider it because of her body.

Being likeable alone won't get you laid.
 

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If you are smashing them... there is SOMETHING you like about them. Unless you are some-kind of self-loathing masochist.
Nah, disagree again.

When you look at PORN do you need to like all the women as people to get off? How about magazines?

You might be in the minority dude lol.
 

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I'd rather be feared.
 

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Would you rather have strong sex appeal to HOT women, while being disliked by most men, fatties and women over 30?

Or would you rather be liked by most people in general, but most women friendzone you?

And why?

Just want to see how most of you guys think.
I think you need to be careful of this way of thinking. It sets up a false dichotomy [begs the question] between sex appeal and the dreaded phenomena of friend-zoning.

You should always aim first and foremost at being likeable [with people in general] in my opinion, whilst also looking to maximize your sexiness with the ladies. To sacrifice your likability [never conformity] in order to maximize a perceived model of sexiness, would be a false economy in my opinion. You are also going to attract an all round better person if you are yourself an 'all-rounder'.
 

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I think you need to be careful of this way of thinking. It sets up a false dichotomy [begs the question] between sex appeal and the dreaded phenomena of friend-zoning.

You should always aim first and foremost at being likeable [with people in general] in my opinion, whilst also looking to maximize your sexiness with the ladies. To sacrifice your likability [never conformity] in order to maximize a perceived model of sexiness, would be a false economy in my opinion. You are also going to attract an all round better person if you are yourself an 'all-rounder'.
Men should always aim to conform?

That's what aiming to be "likable" means lol.
 

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Nah, disagree again.

When you look at PORN do you need to like all the women as people to get off? How about magazines?

You might be in the minority dude lol.
If you LIKE the way she looks you LIKE her. Why are you having such a hard time with this?

Most men, obviously you are the exception, are primarily concerned with looks. I have never in my life had sex with a chick that I was not physically attracted to. If you want to smash land whales because you 'like' (whatever that means to you) them, then have at it... fat girls need love too.
 

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Don't be too "likeable," at least initially, with a hot woman.

Perfect case in point:

Was at a wine tasting meetup last night. Lots of HB7-9's. I worked the room pretty good and closed on a couple numbers. Towards the end of the night there's an HB8 standing by herself. I approached and introduced myself. I started talking with her and when I saw my openings, hit with some C&F and some dry wit negs, always smiling in the process. So, I wouldn't call this is "likable." Quite the opposite. But, considering how dry, boring, milquetoast, and predictable most men are, I could see it piqued her interest. The party closed down and I asked her if she wanted to go upstairs to the bar. She said sure, even telling the girl she came with to go ahead without her. At the bar, I bantered with her and teased her a bit more. At one point saying the reason I came over to her was because she kept checking me out (she wasn't) to which she responded "Bull sh*it!!" I laughed out loud as her response was hilarious. During this time she also told me about a recent date she had with a guy who was "super, super nice" by her definition, but she said there was no attraction or chemistry. We had one drink and I said I had to go. I easily got her number. I walked her to her car and gave her a kind of a one-armed but tight hug. Ironically we parked right next to each other in this huge parking structure. She called me out on the one-armed hug. I said I'm not sure you're worthy of a two-armed full hug yet, maybe next time. I drove off. Read: IDGAF.

So, moral of the story, and we all know this: Women are attracted to guys initially who are kind of a, but not a total, d*ick. Many, many reasons for this. Personally, I like to shock and awe when meeting a woman, especially a hot one. So they go away saying, "Who the f*uck was THAT guy???"

The nice, sweet, and likeable guy will always get friendzoned, blown off, or ghosted in the early going. And dumped later on.

This is true.

Be a quasi-d*ick whenever possible in the early going to boost your success rate.

Best,

Dash
 

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Respectfully disagree.

I can try as hard as I like: in my opinion I will never be liked by all. No matter what I say or do, 50% of the time I'll incur disapproval/disliking.

In my mind it's best to first and foremost aim at saying and doing what I want, regardless if liked or approved.
OK, I see what you mean. That 'being likeable' is in need of some qualification as you certainly aren't looking for approval from 'everyone in general'.

Perhaps you need to have an ideal person in mind... that would find yourself likeable... if that makes any sense [your higher self?... this would be the opposite of egoism and narcissism]. Now with human nature being what it is, many if not most people will find that positively unlikeable... and you may find yourself 'unliked' by the great over-washed [and so much for facebook!]].

The important thing is to have your own integrity, and that should attract the better 'quality' people to you... those capable of appreciating the finer things in life.:rolleyes:

I find integrity an interesting word.. the idea of wholeness.. of not being divided against your self.. in its real and ideal, rational and passionate, components.
 
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