It seems like over the past couple of years women have started dealing with me on a different level.
Maybe it's because I give off the vibe from the very beginning that I'm not desperately searching for my future wife, but lately it's almost as if even if a woman is very much interested in me, she will tend to keep her distance.
I know this is counter to what we all generally accept as the rule when it comes to attraction. Up until recently I would have said "If a woman is attracted to you enough, it won't matter. She will pursue you despite knowing that you are basically unattainable".
But the last few women I have dated have caused me to reevaluate my theories on this.
The thing that really made me rethink this issue was a comment made the other day by a girl i met last year. This chick lived 2.5 hrs away, is 14 years younger than I am, still in school, etc. I knew she liked me and all, but it wasn't until the other day that I found out how MUCH she liked me.
Talking to her the other day, she basically told me that one of the reasons she moved out of state was because of ME. She said she really cared about me, and that she eventually realized that I wasn't going to be committing to anyone anytime soon. And she didn't want to be that girl who was practically begging for my affection.
Another chick I dated last year liked me quite a bit from what other people (mainly her best friend) have told me. Yet, the next thing you know i turn around and she's seeing someone else, which was fine, but i think it had a lot to do with the fact that she was looking for a commitment, and she pretty much knew without even asking that she wasn't going to get one from me.
The strange thing about all of this is the fact that I never discussed commitment with any of these women. They automatically assumed (rightfully so) that i have no interest in settling down.
So what are your thoughts on this?
Do you think women have the capacity to keep their emotions in check when they realize that the guy they are interested in has no desire for a commitment?
Maybe it's because I give off the vibe from the very beginning that I'm not desperately searching for my future wife, but lately it's almost as if even if a woman is very much interested in me, she will tend to keep her distance.
I know this is counter to what we all generally accept as the rule when it comes to attraction. Up until recently I would have said "If a woman is attracted to you enough, it won't matter. She will pursue you despite knowing that you are basically unattainable".
But the last few women I have dated have caused me to reevaluate my theories on this.
The thing that really made me rethink this issue was a comment made the other day by a girl i met last year. This chick lived 2.5 hrs away, is 14 years younger than I am, still in school, etc. I knew she liked me and all, but it wasn't until the other day that I found out how MUCH she liked me.
Talking to her the other day, she basically told me that one of the reasons she moved out of state was because of ME. She said she really cared about me, and that she eventually realized that I wasn't going to be committing to anyone anytime soon. And she didn't want to be that girl who was practically begging for my affection.
Another chick I dated last year liked me quite a bit from what other people (mainly her best friend) have told me. Yet, the next thing you know i turn around and she's seeing someone else, which was fine, but i think it had a lot to do with the fact that she was looking for a commitment, and she pretty much knew without even asking that she wasn't going to get one from me.
The strange thing about all of this is the fact that I never discussed commitment with any of these women. They automatically assumed (rightfully so) that i have no interest in settling down.
So what are your thoughts on this?
Do you think women have the capacity to keep their emotions in check when they realize that the guy they are interested in has no desire for a commitment?
