Disagree, but the premise works both ways. Most women like bad boys for ONS', as well, but don't want to get caught up in their BS. I used to be quite the *******, and most chicks were only interested in sex... especially once they found out how crazy I was.
Ok.
Women are smarter than men think. They know who they're targeting, and what their intentions are. They just don't want everyone else to know - including the guy they're trying to have a ONS with - especially when they're just hooking up, have boyfriends already, etc. A lot of their drama and *****ing about *******s is over-exaggerated, as well. They just like to ***** and complain, seek sympathy, and claim everyone is a jerk whenever things don't go their way.
I agree with this. Women are not stupid. They know exactly what they are doing.
Truth is, most *******s and bad boys don't last very long with most women... namely because the women who are into them are just as crazy as they are. All of the BS gets to be too much eventually, and one or the other calls it quits for good. Never fails, and these relationships are rocky and chaotic throughout.
No doubt.
But I was friends with a lot of guys who dated bad girls. They always told me - amidst their non-stop complaining about their crazy, heartless ***** at the time - that some girls were just too nice... too available, too submissive, too interested, too easy, too sweet. They liked someone who kept them on their toes, could keep up with them, were aggressive, dominant, independent, unpredictable... just like themselves. Crazy attracted crazy. *******s attracted *****es. And these guys were definitely bad... they always cheated on the side, were loud, douchey, and selfish, got involved in drugs and violence, occassionally hit their women once a fight escalated... but all of this was mutual, and the theme of their entire relationship. They'd curse at each other, get into fights, break things, act rude to others, blame each other, call each other out... it's just the kind of people they were.
Of course, none of those relationships lasted for very long, either. Chaos can't sustain itself. It's just, at the time, or even when they ***** about it after the fact, it seems so intense and detailed and dramatic. And it leaves an unforgettable mark. But despite the heightened emotions they may have about it, those relationships did not last very long. 3-15 months at most. As always, looks and sexual attraction played a vital role in keeping these hellish relationships afloat. Aside from the sex, these people hated each other, but were mutually crazy and dysfunctional enough to keep it going.
I was guilty of this, as well, but definitely not to this extreme. Most people and relationships simply aren't very good, and people like to complain and play the victim. Being bad is by no means a free pass to fun and excitement and long-lasting relationships and respect from others. People just assume too much and delude themselves without any actual facts or first-hand experiences. No different than people who judge others - based on what they see, hear, or how they think things are - only to end up dead-wrong about everything.