I've been reading this board for a few months, now. I also ordered Doc Loves' "System" a few weeks ago. Until I found the advice offered by Doc Love and the great guys (and girls) on this board, I was clueless. I've learned a lot. 1. You need to have the right attitude! -This is made up mostly of confidence. You can gain so much confidence just by reading this board. With the knowledge gained, you'll have more confidence that you'll do the right things in your relationships, and your approach to women. -For you shy guys (I'm a recovering shy guy myself) You have to find the motivation to stop yourself from being shy. I've found JamesBonds' posts a big help in this area. Nobody has to be shy. You choose to be shy. Don't let fear stop you anymore! You have to realize that you WILL make mistakes. You WILL fail more than you succeed. You WILL get rejected a lot, at first. This WILL hurt, and it won't happen overnight. But, in the end you'll find the pain of getting over your shyness is sweeter than some of the relationships you'll be having. You have to work hard to get over shyness. No one can do it for you. But, you can do it! The work you do will build character and confidence. It will make you a better man, and give you a better life. 2.You need to have patience and self-control if you're looking for a LTR. -If you come on too strong or too fast you'll scare her off. Or, worse, you'll be seen as weak and desperate. -Don't rush things. She sets the pace in the relationship. Let her initiate touching. Don't rush for a kiss or commitment too soon. Wait at least a few days to call her early on. (preferably 5 to 9) - Don't fall for her too much, too soon. If you do, at least don't let her know it. Always make her wonder where she stands with you. Remember: Be a Challenge. If she really likes you, she wants to chase you. She likes mystery. She likes to feel that she has to work to beat the com- petition to win you over. Why spoil her fun? -Remember: You're the prize she has to win. List all of the good things about yourself. Keep adding to the list everyday. Watch you confidence grow as the list grows. You'll soon see why you're a good catch for any woman. 3. Don't be a wimp. -Don't be afraid to stand up to her and say no from time to time. Don't say it all the time, just let her know you will stand up to her. Let her know if she does something you don't like. If you're going to keep her, you're going to have to keep her respect. 4. Don't ignore red flags and signs that she's really not interested in you. -In case you haven't noticed, she's often testing you. How many guys test women? We often overlook serious character flaws and lack of integrity in a woman, because we can't get past physical beauty and lust for sex. That's fine if all you want is a one night stand. But, if you want a LTR, you better pay close attention to her every word and deed. This will save you a lot of time, and heartache. -It also helps to learn the signs of her having a low interest level in you. (I know this from plenty of recent experience.) It'll keep you from wasting more time and money, than you should. And, it'll keep you from looking and feeling like an idiot. Keep reading this board and working on improving yourself. Then, when you finally find your Mrs. Don Juan, you'll both be glad you did. Most of all, have fun with all of this. Life is short, enjoy every day of it.