Guru started a well needed thread on boundaries here.....and dasein brought up a good point on Exclusivity. Before we go further, let's start with a key concept. Women have the power to fvk whatever man they want. Men have to work to fvk the women they want. This is a given so strong that even all of society is forced to agree with it. So let's keep that in the back of our mind for the moment and move on. In the linked thread above, dasein mentioned his tactical response when a prospect asks him to go exclusive, he responds by asking her, "what does exclusivity mean to you?". This is a very, very important question. The more time spent pondering such a concept, the more it becomes clear that exclusivity has different meanings for each gender. Or at least, will take on different meanings to create "wiggle room" for the party who seeks to push the boundaries or has the most to gain by defining exclusivity to meet their needs. When you ask a girl what she means by "exclusive", her first response will almost certainly be "no sex with someone else" and it ends there. Ok, fair enough. But wait a minute.....who exactly wins here? The girl implements her sexual imperative by securing the best man she can attract, while the man loses his sexual imperative by being only able to plant his seed in one woman. One could argue that he has a steady supply of sex but that is debatable since we have so conditioned men to say they don't even deserve sex when in a secured exclusive relationship. Even so, a steady supply of sex still subverts his sexual imperative of spreading his seed. Ultimately for men with options, sexual exclusivity will always benefit the female. This is WHY the woman asks for exclusivity with high value men. She wants to slam the door shut on the ability of other women to take the higher value man from her, but NOT if it means keeping away her ability to easily seek out and measure the value of other potential suitors. This begs the question. Why shouldn't the man set his own terms and conditions of exclusivity? And in doing so, should he not recognize the value and price of his exclusivity? So before you say yes to being exclusive, recognize what you are giving up, and what value your exclusivity brings to her. Consider these questions and then be sure to demand your fair value of the exclusivity contract.