The real deal on confidence towards women!

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  1. Adonis

    Adonis Master Don Juan

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    Alright, let's make this short and straight to the point(this is probably a wake up call to most of you people)...

    Success with women has little to do with how you act and feel about them, but have a lot to do with how you feel about yourself. What I’m talking about is SELF-RESPECT.

    Some of the guys who wouldn't take crap from another guy turn into down-right wimps when it comes to women. They are probably reliving old dramas with their mommies they couldn't please as children, or are scared for some other reason, they put the woman first. Other guys have a different problem. They may not take any crap from the woman, but getting laid is too damn important to them that they lose sight of other priorities. In a sense it loses all the fun aspects, and gets to be a damn obligation.

    Guys like this may win the battles, but they are definitely losing the war. Women are nice additions to your life, and if you find the right one then kudos, you might even chose to make her the center of yours. BUT A LIFE SPENT DOING NOTHING BUT TRYING TO GET WOMEN IS A DAMN POINTLESS ONE.

    This is problem that people often overlook, ask yourself if you might be missing some of the other pleasures life has to offer. You might be shocked to learn that other things can be more stimulating than a boring date with a huge breasted bimbo that can’t even spell her own name.

    Here is an important aspect to raising your confidence with women: STOP NEEDING THEM SO MUCH! Find yourself an exciting hobby(not jerking off), go out and have fun without the constraints and presence of women – women are not and should not be the center of your universe. Do something that gets you AWAY from women.

    This will increase your confidence as you are on the lookout for them, it also provides a great escape for when that special woman strains your brain, which by the way, they often will.





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  2. Dee-Zy

    Dee-Zy Master Don Juan

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    Good post, very good,
    but I guess that's too "Futur" for meh
    I guess it's easy for you to say, you already had tons of girls, I never did...
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  3. Robert Jordon

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    Thats a good point Adonis. I've noticed that most of the guys who are most unsuccesful with women. Are the guys who live to please them. They are the guys who devote there entire lives to meeting and having sex with women! Kind'a pathetic. I find that if I have other things in my life going for me, that the women tend to come my way with alot less effort! Yes I certaily do agree that Self-respect is your #1 Priority!
     
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    Man you hit the nail on the head when you said that you shouldn't make getting women your entire life. See that is what my ultimate desire is, and tahts why I think about women more than anything else and have no success with them. That is my dream, I vision myself being irresitable to women, being the ultimate mack, like James Bond ya know? Bond can seduce any girl. I wish I was like that, and thats all I think about. I always compare myself to other guys who are so successful with girls and ****. It pisses me off cause they are jerks, and I am always nice to chicks, and I don't get any. Yesterday I totally blew up at this one chick and said I was going to be a jerk. Maybe thats what i need to be. I know all this **** is said about the jerk who is a nice guy too, well let me tell you something, girls get more hung up on the absolute *******s than these wannabe guys.
     
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    You shoulda been bobbing and weavin, ain't no kidney shots there boy!
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  12. Juando

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    The premise here is 100% sound.

    I have been moving happily in this direction since my LTR breakup.

    However, there is an element of cognitive dissonance here also:
    I occasionally fast for a few days, no food just liquids. Great purifier for the body and clears up allergies. I also got trekking to places where there is no civilization to clear my mind and spirit.
    But ultimately I come back to eating and civilization because I need and want those things. So the breaks end up being very revitalizing but relatively short in the scheme of things.

    I believe that we are sexual beings and even though we can spend our whole lives (like monks) without and be fine, I don't want to be a monk, I want vitamin F. I don't need it all the time but I mostly want it on a regular basis, and I've been fortunate to have it that way. Except for now. So I'm working to create a new lifestyle that's healthy and balanced as most of us here are, but I wish there was a way to bridge the puzzy gap at times of scarcity without drastic measures like lowering your standards, seeking out escorts, etc.

    Perhaps I'm just suffering the aftermath affects of coming out of a LTR and I'm impatient, want my cake and eat it, spoiled, etc, but that's me.
     

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