The power of observation

Discussion in 'Don Juan Tips' started by bondjamesbond, Aug 29, 2001.

  1. bondjamesbond

    bondjamesbond Don Juan

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    Hello everyone......I haven't been here for awhile......figured I would check in and read some posts.....

    Looks like more than just a few guys are getting pretty frustrated with their efforts....very understandable, we've all been there at some time....

    Here's a couple things that I thought some of you might find interesting; some observations I made over the years during my "wolf" days......

    There is a big difference between being "desperate" and "impatient".....a desperate guy gives gifts, flowers, always offering to do favors, showering women with compliments, etc.,.....an impatient guy gets tired of the games, doesn't obsess, and always remembers that women are literally everywhere.....

    It's good to learn some patience with women, most of them operate at a more relaxed pace than we do. It's this fact that tends to frustrate alot of you guys because you're ready to nail her right now.......She, on the other hand, is wanting to take things much slower, if for no other reason than to test your true desires. They want to bang you just as bad as you want to bang them, they just want to get to know you a little better before they take the plunge.

    But some chicks like fast action, and knowing who they are and where you can find them can sometimes get you banging them alot quicker.

    Slow, patient chicks: Bookstores,Churches, coffeeshops,libraries, clothes stores, museums, parks (if they're sitting alot) Nightclubs (if they're not dancing to fast music)......Girls that frequent these places alot usually like to take things slow, they don't like to be rushed, and in general will be turned off by a guy that comes on strong.......they really enjoy long conversations and appreciate patience.

    Fast, action chicks: Hockey games, drag races, stock car races, boxing matches, workout gyms and aerobics classes.....women that are into this stuff are more energetic and like to see a quick resolution to things, in general, they don't like waiting and will be put-off by a guy who screws around waiting for the perfect moment to approach them.

    During my younger days I spent many nights going to local stock-car races looking for hot girls. Many, many times, I'd meet one, watch a few races with her, and then end up in the back seat of my car with her later that same night. The kind of chick I'd marry? No way! But it sure was good, quick fun!

    Try doing some observing of your own. It can be really interesting. If you go to a laundromat and see a looker there, watch for how she spends her time waiting for the cycles to finish. Does she sit for long periods reading a book or mag? If so, she's probably the slower type. Does she get up and pace, looking out the windows, going out for a smoke, or drum her fingers on the machine? This is a woman that likes faster action and resolution.

    You can do the same thing at a grocery store.....does she look at every item carefully; checking prices and bargain shopping? Then she's slower and more deliberate. Does she walk fast, grabbing things quickly and just tossing stuff in her cart? This is a lady that doesn't like to wait.

    Start observing, then act accordingly.....it always worked for me!

    Go get 'em guys!!!>>>BJB
     
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  2. Don the Legend

    Don the Legend Master Don Juan

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    Hey Bond,

    I gotta tell you, your tips are well thought out and practical. I overlooked many of your points between fast and slow women. I never really paid attention to the details that you stated. Thanks for pointing it out to us.

    Good Luck,

    Legend

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    "You are what you are, You are where you are, by what goes into your mind, you can change what you are, you can change where you are by changing what goes into your mind" ....Zig Ziglar
     
  3. bondjamesbond

    bondjamesbond Don Juan

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    Thanks DtL, I'm flattered by your remarks.......I know what it's like to be a young guy trying to stay a step ahead of the c**ckblocking competition.....every little piece of knowledge can help....

    I might add.....You can also tell alot about a girl by where she works....Librarians, pre-school teachers and chicks who work at bookstores tend to be VERY slow and quiet....as for waitresses, it depends a great deal on what kind of restaurant where they work......If it's an expensive, couples oriented, quiet kind of place, then she most likely will be a slower girl. If it's a noisy, quick breakfast or lunch place, then she is probably the kind of chick that thrives on faster approaching guys.

    Of course, a girl may just be working somewhere because that happens to be where she could find a job. But people tend to gravitate towards the things they feel the most comfortable doing.

    As the old saying goes: "Water seeks it's own level".....

    Best Wishes>>>>BJB
     
  4. FretMaster

    FretMaster New Member

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    Damn...how could i overlook those!..I agree with everyone else about your posts..Thanks Dude!

    Rock on...FM
     
  5. PortugueseMeatball

    PortugueseMeatball Senior Don Juan

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    bondjamesbond, your tips deserve to be in the DJ Bible. Very good post, man! This is a very valuable tip!!!
     
  6. Neophyte

    Neophyte Master Don Juan

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    PortugueseMeatball, indeed they will appear in the DJB soon - only have to find time to make an update.

    Cya,
    Neo
     
  7. syncmaster

    syncmaster Master Don Juan

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    Excellent post, now you can modify your approach and be EVEN MORE succesfull.
    Good work.

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  8. BigBill

    BigBill Master Don Juan

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    You're the man BJB!

    I'm one of those impatient guys you talked about. I used to be more relaxed but after a few experiences of getting stepped on and such I guess I went totally the other way.

    I'm going to try to 'call off the hounds' just a little with some of these girls I'm dating and see what happens.

    Oh, that and take up an interest in hockey and stock-car racing.
     
  9. vadrill

    vadrill Don Juan

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    BJB, It's no secret by now - your advice is quite sage and insightful. Your wisdom and experience shines through.

    You're a welcome addition to this board!

    Keep 'em coming my friend.
     
  10. PortugueseMeatball

    PortugueseMeatball Senior Don Juan

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    Yupi! Good to know. Hey Neo, have you consider talking to the Moderators so they include a page with the list of articles in the DJB, something in the main page?
     
  11. Squy

    Squy Master Don Juan

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    I'm reading the DJ bible now, this post is far better than your 2 previous posts imo!

    I have a question, when a chick do ballet (very good too), she is the slow or quick type?

    And what about those chicks that attend the karate classes??
     
  12. B-Lemond

    B-Lemond Master Don Juan

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    Summary of the orgininal post:


    Observe accordingly...
     
  13. bbestar

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    Interesting... hmm, Does her outfit also indicate if she's a slow one or fast one?

    Maybe conservative clothing is a cover up for a really fast one. Or Revealing clothing is used for attention whorism aka super slowism.. lol
     
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    MightyMate Master Don Juan

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    Well. Im also looking for LTR with a woman which looks for fast, but isnt fast at all.
     
  15. Skyline

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    Bump.

    This post is incredible. Good insight on the type of girl she is, thus learning when to apply game at a certain pace that she is comfortable with.
     
  16. Maximummax

    Maximummax Senior Don Juan

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    Good post jamesbond
    One question for you: when you met those girls in the game venue's or if you went for slower one's were you able to tell whether they are dtf for you?
    not dtf right away i mean in the near future
     
  17. Chris80pitt

    Chris80pitt Don Juan

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    Great post man:)...
     
  18. 3agle 3yes

    3agle 3yes Senior Don Juan

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    It was a great post, however I think it is possible to move quickly with all women.

    Notice how OP (who's long gone now) mentions how most women are patient...and I agree.

    Most women's sex drives work in a completely different way to men (this is vital to understand).

    Sex, REAL sex is much more than the just physical act (at least it is, for women).

    Sex is a "dance"...move to a rhythm and women will follow.
     
  19. sph21

    sph21 Don Juan

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    Oldies but goodies. What a great post.
     

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