yes YES YES!!
the original post was spot on!
"Let your masculinity guide you but keep it controlled. Here is the difference between your proverbial jerk and good man:
Jerk - let's his emotions run him. He can't control his temper and usually takes risks that are just dumb, potentially doing more harm then good. The jerk often has no goals.
Good Man - Always in control of his emotions, yet lets his masculinity cast an err of dominance by his calm demeanor and state of mind. He is sure of himself and always working to achieve his goals."
also spot on!
it all goes hand in hand! a calm, confident, collected, strong man is successful in many aspects of life. and to this successful man, which came first... his "manliness" inner strength, or "techniques" he uses in dealing with others in life? women included...
do you think he sat at a computer all day, memorizing pickup scripts and how to walk like youre confident? and after reading and reading, all the sudden he was a "man"?
doesnt work like that! its the other way around!
a man becomes successful and builds himself through EXPERIENCE! the challenges of life are what develop us into strong men. through, victory, defeat, gain, loss, happiness, pain, finding solutions to solve the problems are life are what make us strong! that is what builds our inner selves! with inner strength, you will NATURALLY carry yourself with confidence. you will NATURALLY exude control over your surroundings. everything will fall into place!
a lot of clueless men are dissatisfied with life - and looking for the solution. that is GOOD.
WHAT DOES NOT HELP is misdirection. the solution doesnt like in knowing what kino means, what a set is or what peacocking means. unless you have aspirations to compete in some league of picking up chicks tv show this is a WASTE OF TIME AND ENERGY.
THE SOLUTION lies in action! IN DOING!
get in touch with your inner man! but please realize its not always about being "macho" !
some men are the "warrior" or "guardian" type and may fit the typical male macho stereo type. some of us, are more of a poet or artist mentally - and thats ok! some of us are visionaries! problem solvers!
but the point is to get in touch with that inner you, and find your passion and pursue it relentlessly! and while you dont have to get drafted into UFC or NFL to be a man, get physical! get in touch with the natural, physical, adventurous, even competitive side of you. go hiking! go play basketball! lift some weights! build a cabin! work on your truck! whatever!
being a good man is SIMPLE, but HARD.
it is NATURAL, but requires DETERMINATION.
it is a JOURNEY we make, from boyhood to MANHOOD!
i know many others have sworn by it, but ill use myself as an example also. the best thing i ever did was step away from the computer, away from sites like this, and DO SOMETHING IN THE REAL WORLD! yes, there is a lot of great information here. but its way too easy to get caught up in over-analyzing every little detail. take a look around, read some of the excellent literature to get motivated... then GO OUT AND DO SOMETHING!
experience life, overcome challenges... build yourself. become successful in life... and among other things, getting women will seem so much easier than you used to think.
-SLB
