I teach math at university where I am studying, and my students are always complaining about how the class is too hard or whatever. I give them a little speech that I will also share with you. The people who are most succesful in life are not the people who complain how they got the short end of the stick or how things are too hard. The succesful people in life are those who accepted who they are and the way life is and decided that they are going to make the most out of what they have. There is always going to be someone smarter/ stronger/better than you so deal with it. In fact in what you want to do chances are you will have average natural ability. So now that you know you are probably average what are you to do, you are to go and do the best you can. Focus on what it is you need to do, if you need to work twice as hard as your friend should you be jealous, if you want, but that will only waste time. When I took this class I easily spent 20 hours a week in it. Was I jealous of my friends that only spent 5, yes I was, but did I worry about it, no. I was just much happier come test time when I got an A and they didn't. I was not always as good at math as I am now. I used to get c's and d's in math, it was only when I focused that I did well. That is what you need to do, focus. Always remember, the harder you work to acheive knowledge the harder it is to lose it. My classmates might have always caught on quicker, but it left there brain as quickly as it came to them, I remembered things better. How can we adjust this philosophy to dj'ing, simple. Fact is some guys are just going to be better at getting girls than you are, that is just how it is. Girls are going to be attracted to them easier and you are going to sometimes feel down about yourself over it. Some guys are going to see improvement much faster than others, it might take five days, five months or five years. The fact of the matter is though, the harder you work to acheive success the harder it is going to be to forget the things that made you succesful. I have had small successes, numbers, and dates in the last 10 month's since I started coming here. I will admit though I have not acheived the level that I want to yet though. I see complete chumps pull the girls I wanted. Do I get down about it, sometimes, but I never let it show or last any negligible period of time. When the time comes I know that I will be pulling most of the women I want and the relationships will be on my terms. That is what being a dj is really about, not accepting any relationship that is not acceptable to you. ------------------ The very first step to becoming what you want to be is to accept all responsibility for the situation you are in. in short: quit whining!!!!!!!!!