Been in a relationship with this girl for about 6 months now. I made it clear when we started the relationship that socializing or talking with exes or people you've f*cked is not ok. You can do it, but if you do you're not gonna be with me.
As far as I can tell she's cut them out of her lives about as much as she can. Deleted them off Facebook, deleted their numbers from her phone, doesn't talk to them anymore as far as I can tell.
She's also seemed to be pretty trustworthy, at least as trustworthy as a female can be. She's been straight forward and honest with me on just about everything. She's not a girl that tries to impress you or imbelish what she says, she just says what it is.
I've asked her about her sexual past a couple of times and she's always said she doesn't want to tell me her number, and she doesn't want to know mine. Smart chick right? Well this was ok with me at first, until it started to eat away at me to the point where I would prod her about who she's f*cked.
If she said she was going out, or she talked to so and so and they happened to be a dude, I'd ask what her past relationship with them was like. If she talked about ex boyfriends or old guy friends that got in touch with her, I'd always ask what their relationship was and if they'd f*cked.
So long story short, I found out that one of the dudes she told me was a guy she had only kissed, and had "slept on her couch" but nothing else, she had actually f*cked. Likewise for another friend she told me had been completely plutonic.
It was one of those situations where I found out about one, and I told her I wanted to know about all of the guys in her life she had been lying to me about f*cking.
So she came out with it and it turns out there's at least one other guy that she used to be really "good friends" with that she f*cked.
She was crying the whole time she was telling me, saying she had just omitted the information because she didn't want it to change how I look at her. She said if she could take back sleeping with them she would, and she's super happy with me and doesn't want to be with anyone else, etc etc.
So my question/concerns are this: for one, yes I know, it's better not to ask about the past. I did, sue me. Two, she lied to me about sleeping with them, but I believe she did so because like she said she didn't want to make me think different of her.
How acceptable is this? Should I be concerned about her lying about sleeping with these guys? It's in her past, and I know I have no right to hold it against her and I won't, but why wouldn't you just be up front with me the first time I asked? I've been completely honest with her about my past up to this point. I don't volunteer info on girls I've f*cked, but if she specifically asks, I don't lie or "omit" it as she put it.
Thoughts?
As far as I can tell she's cut them out of her lives about as much as she can. Deleted them off Facebook, deleted their numbers from her phone, doesn't talk to them anymore as far as I can tell.
She's also seemed to be pretty trustworthy, at least as trustworthy as a female can be. She's been straight forward and honest with me on just about everything. She's not a girl that tries to impress you or imbelish what she says, she just says what it is.
I've asked her about her sexual past a couple of times and she's always said she doesn't want to tell me her number, and she doesn't want to know mine. Smart chick right? Well this was ok with me at first, until it started to eat away at me to the point where I would prod her about who she's f*cked.
If she said she was going out, or she talked to so and so and they happened to be a dude, I'd ask what her past relationship with them was like. If she talked about ex boyfriends or old guy friends that got in touch with her, I'd always ask what their relationship was and if they'd f*cked.
So long story short, I found out that one of the dudes she told me was a guy she had only kissed, and had "slept on her couch" but nothing else, she had actually f*cked. Likewise for another friend she told me had been completely plutonic.
It was one of those situations where I found out about one, and I told her I wanted to know about all of the guys in her life she had been lying to me about f*cking.
So she came out with it and it turns out there's at least one other guy that she used to be really "good friends" with that she f*cked.
She was crying the whole time she was telling me, saying she had just omitted the information because she didn't want it to change how I look at her. She said if she could take back sleeping with them she would, and she's super happy with me and doesn't want to be with anyone else, etc etc.
So my question/concerns are this: for one, yes I know, it's better not to ask about the past. I did, sue me. Two, she lied to me about sleeping with them, but I believe she did so because like she said she didn't want to make me think different of her.
How acceptable is this? Should I be concerned about her lying about sleeping with these guys? It's in her past, and I know I have no right to hold it against her and I won't, but why wouldn't you just be up front with me the first time I asked? I've been completely honest with her about my past up to this point. I don't volunteer info on girls I've f*cked, but if she specifically asks, I don't lie or "omit" it as she put it.
Thoughts?