Scaring women

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  1. AspiringDonJuan

    AspiringDonJuan Don Juan

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    This post relates to an experience while at university. I lived on campus for two years. Now, a lot of people did quite well for themselves while living on campus, whereas some did not, unfortunately, I fit into the latter category. This story confirms some of the things I have read here.

    I have always been a pretty nice guy, and as you know, nice guys don't get women. I have always been social, had a lot of friends, etc. but also been reserved, especially around women.

    While I was living at college, it was the same old deal. I was mates with most of the guys there that I felt were worth being friends with (our 'dorm' - in Australia it is a slightly different system to the US - had around 330 people). I was also friends with a smaller group of women, but not as close to them. And then I had a group of my best friend with whom I always hung out. Anyway, I was always friendly and sociable, but I didn't initiate a lot of interaction with new people, it was usually started by them.

    Now one night, near the end of my second year, there was a large party. At this party, one of the girls from the dorm came and started talking to me. I don't like to be unkind, but basically she is one of the last women I would have chosen to talk to, but she did give me some valuable insight. It turns out we have a mutual friend. This friend had told her that I was actually a good bloke. This is where the story gets more interesting.

    It turns out that this girl and her friends had previously had a nickname for me. The 'axe-murderer.' What had I ever done to deserve such a cognomen? In my mind at that time, I had done nothing. If you asked my friends, I was one of the nicest guys they knew.

    However, upon reflection, I know more. Granted, I had a goatee and very short hair (shaved with #3 clippers) and do have a face that can look a bit threatening at times. However, I didn't dress in anything to suggest this attitude, I didn't have tattoos or any piercings and I was a friendly guy.

    But I didn't smile at them, I probably didn't smile enough in general. I didn't make small talk with them. I didn't walk up to them at parties and introduce myself. In general, I stuck to the friends I had and didn't make it obvious to strangers that I was a nice guy. So what happened? I still had other guys initiate conversations with me, but not many women. I know that these women in particular were afraid of me, and possibly so were others.

    So, I guess the point that I am trying to make is:

    People don't know you the way you know yourself, your appearance and actions speak volumes. I thought at times that I was just taking it easy, being friendly and cool. These women found me threatening and referred to me as the axe-murderer. I can assure you that I am not axe-murderer material. I just wasn't outwardly displaying my good mood or friendly intentions. Do as so much advice tells you, smile.

    Oh, and furthermore, take advantage of your time at college!
     
  2. PortugueseMeatball

    PortugueseMeatball Senior Don Juan

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    LOL [​IMG] You could have wacked her right then for revealing your true identity right then... HAHAHA!! [​IMG] Damn funny. I guess my nickname must the "The Butcher"... because of my (ahem) round shape.

    Anyway, good post, ADJ.
     
  3. Sir_Chancealot

    Sir_Chancealot Master Don Juan

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    Shoot, I think I would have played off the mystique.

    "What makes you think I'm NOT?!?"

    Could have been good for some serious mystery factor!
     
  4. Don Phenom

    Don Phenom Senior Don Juan

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    Now that's some freaky ****, I'd be pretty pised off if some people though I was an axe murderer.

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  5. lordclem*

    lordclem* Master Don Juan

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    Shoot, I think I would have played off the mystique.
    "What makes you think I'm NOT?!?"

    Could have been good for some serious mystery factor!

    Sir_Chancealot
    lol
    yep that would have been pretty cool and u could use lines like 'u sooo pretty i could eat u'
     
  6. AspiringDonJuan

    AspiringDonJuan Don Juan

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    I just have to add something for the guys saying they would have played off the mystery. With this particular girl, I can assure you that seduction would have been the furthest thing from your mind. In fact, I was tempted to act as if I were an axe murderer just to get rid of her!
     
  7. Sir_Chancealot

    Sir_Chancealot Master Don Juan

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    Ok, Since I have been doing a *LOT* of drinking today (and still am) I am going to give you young-uns' a tip. Listen closely.

    Skinny girls NEVER give good head. If you want GREAT head, always find a fat chick. I'm not talking whale size here, I'm talking about a chick a few pounds overweight. You may think I am crazy, but I am telling you the truth. Skinny girls don't know how to give good head, although you can teach them how to do it decently, the heavier girls know how to do it right. Yes, in case anyone is asking, I have had both. In my experience, the skinnier chicks just lack enthusiasm, and are just trying to "get it over with".

    Ok, back to your regularly scheduled program...........
     
  8. AspiringDonJuan

    AspiringDonJuan Don Juan

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    Well, I'll have to keep that in mind.

    Of course in this case, if it had ONLY been her weight that was a problem, then maybe your tip would be a good one.

    However, when a girl just doesn't measure up to what you are looking for in appearance, personality, intelligence, reputation, etc. (even the way she talked was annoying)... I doubt you would have been able to even get an erection (unless you were very drunk - which I was not).
     
  9. RockandRoll!

    RockandRoll! Don Juan

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    i know what you mean inspiringdonjuan---if i was in my ex girlfriends shoes i would have felt a little stupid to be facing off against me.1.usually when a girl gets naked most guys boomsticks just stand at attention right away....not me.she did'nt turn me on that way.i was used to the prettier ones from the past.2.she must of known down there stank and tasted bad because whenever she wanted me to go down on her i would say just a sec....and i went to the bathroom and brushed the sensations out of my tongue with tons of tooth paste.she was bad!
    geez i feel sorry for the next dude!
    but there was something i liked about that freak of nature???i still haven't found the answer!
     
  10. Don Phenom

    Don Phenom Senior Don Juan

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    hahahhahahhaaahhaah, you guy crack me up man, fat chick give good head huh, thatz something i didn't know. hmmmm, I must investigate. Anybody else have experience on this subject. Cause if I waste a couple days talking to some fat chic for some bad head, I'm gonna be pissed off.

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  11. Shadow

    Shadow Senior Don Juan

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    I feel you AspiringDonJuan! I have that problem too. I don't smile very much and only talk to the people I know. I don't smile cause I'm scared and nervous when I'm around a crowd of people I dont know. Today's my first day at my new college so I'm gonna try to rectify that problem by smiling and being outgoing.

    Girls are VERY easily scared creatures. I made the mistake a long time ago of memorizing a girl's phone number I liked instead of asking her for it and she accused me of stalking her. I wasn't stalking her, I was just too nervous to ask for her number[Now I know better].

    P>S>I don't think I could EVER have a fat chick go down on me [I gotta be attracted to her].......Eeeewwwwww just thinking about it gives me a reverse erection ;p

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    Tips forum.
     
  13. Sir_Chancealot

    Sir_Chancealot Master Don Juan

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    See, this is why you shouldn't drink and drive (the internet superhighway)! [​IMG]

    Seriously, I will stand behind my statement.
    Your time will NOT be wasted. I just wouldn't want to (shudder) return the favor.
     
  14. Neophyte

    Neophyte Master Don Juan

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    Couldn't agree more. people don't know you as you know yourself. They don't have the same view on you unless you give them a chance to have one....meaning you have to interact with them!

    Great point ADJ !

    Cya,
    Neo
     

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