insanity
Master Don Juan
i have been married for almost 5 years. i got my goals in sight and i'm ready to blast off but things are starting to get rocky. the cause isn't between me and my wife. there is no jealousy or fighting over stupid things and there is no drama(thank god). the main problem we have is, my wife's family are very pessimistic. they always complain and they never see the good in anything. if you tell them your plans, they just shoot it down and say were foolish. it's very mentally exhausting.
for the last few years i changed my outlook from negative to positive because not only does it feel good but good things also come from this form of thought. i stopped hanging out with people who did nothing but complain and i started hanging with people who wanted to do things in their life and were motivated.
the problem i am having is that misery is very infectious. i can't avoid my family in-laws because i now have a baby boy and my wife wants me to go up to her house and be with her. but there house isn't that big and i can't avoid talking to these people.
anyways, lately i have been making alot of excuses not to go up to her house because i just don't want to be around them because they either shoot anything you say down or belittle you in other ways. i told her that i am slowly losing my patience and i am going to explode because i can't listen to their crap anymore, so today i told her that i am not going up there for a long while. she was mad and left...she also said your just making excuses not to come up to my house and i said "why would i want to put up with that crap anymore. i deserve to be treated with respect." i am not wasting time and energy there anymore....then she left in a flash.....she also tried the tears.
right now i am at that stage in my life, that i need all the positive reinforcement that i can get because my goals have no room for negativity. i can't have doubt. i have to believe in myself and what i am built to do.
me and my wife came home for the summer so the whole families could see are child and what a mistake that was( i mean the coming home part....i love my kid). i am now in the process of getting us out of here. i hope i will not be to late
in-laws can be a pain.... or am i just being to critical?
for the last few years i changed my outlook from negative to positive because not only does it feel good but good things also come from this form of thought. i stopped hanging out with people who did nothing but complain and i started hanging with people who wanted to do things in their life and were motivated.
the problem i am having is that misery is very infectious. i can't avoid my family in-laws because i now have a baby boy and my wife wants me to go up to her house and be with her. but there house isn't that big and i can't avoid talking to these people.
anyways, lately i have been making alot of excuses not to go up to her house because i just don't want to be around them because they either shoot anything you say down or belittle you in other ways. i told her that i am slowly losing my patience and i am going to explode because i can't listen to their crap anymore, so today i told her that i am not going up there for a long while. she was mad and left...she also said your just making excuses not to come up to my house and i said "why would i want to put up with that crap anymore. i deserve to be treated with respect." i am not wasting time and energy there anymore....then she left in a flash.....she also tried the tears.
right now i am at that stage in my life, that i need all the positive reinforcement that i can get because my goals have no room for negativity. i can't have doubt. i have to believe in myself and what i am built to do.
me and my wife came home for the summer so the whole families could see are child and what a mistake that was( i mean the coming home part....i love my kid). i am now in the process of getting us out of here. i hope i will not be to late
in-laws can be a pain.... or am i just being to critical?