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Master Don Juan
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- Nov 15, 2005
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PK has been gone for a while. One time I PM him almost exactly a year ago about my first plate post-divorce that had been giving me a ton of hot/cold signals in and out of the bedroom. I allowed my ex-wife to strip away my confidence and self-esteem after many years. I was a shell of a man. I had to learn to gain back my all the self-respect I had given up. I didn't know how to steer the ship in the direction I wanted to. I lost frame quick and subsequently, my plate jumped to another branch during my confusion.
That said, here's some of the advice he shared that I wanted to pass on to you guys:
- Women can sense insecurity and neediness in men and it scares them away.
- Women don't want to be your security blanket or therapist.
- A woman's job is to please a man sexually, not the other way around.
- Caring too much of how a woman thinks of you is very unattractive to women.
- The mindset needs to be: "This is who I am and this is what I want.. take it or leave it".
- You should always be bringing women into YOUR world... not going into theirs.
- There is ALWAYS time to spin plates (a reference to my crazy work/school schedule).
One of the central themes of PK's posts was he always redirecting us men to reframe
Think of all the negs, sh!t tests, hot/cold signals, flakiness, radio silence, breadcrumbs as offenses to the man. Almost always Indicators of disIinterest.
A man with abundance or high value doesn't sit there and over-analyze every single little detail. He guides and leads the behavior and rewards her with attention and affection when warranted. However, he can just as much withdraw it if she starts acting up consistently and disrespecting him.
After repeated warnings, he may bump her down from main plate status or drop plate altogether.
That said, here's some of the advice he shared that I wanted to pass on to you guys:
- Women can sense insecurity and neediness in men and it scares them away.
- Women don't want to be your security blanket or therapist.
- A woman's job is to please a man sexually, not the other way around.
- Caring too much of how a woman thinks of you is very unattractive to women.
- The mindset needs to be: "This is who I am and this is what I want.. take it or leave it".
- You should always be bringing women into YOUR world... not going into theirs.
- There is ALWAYS time to spin plates (a reference to my crazy work/school schedule).
One of the central themes of PK's posts was he always redirecting us men to reframe
Think of all the negs, sh!t tests, hot/cold signals, flakiness, radio silence, breadcrumbs as offenses to the man. Almost always Indicators of disIinterest.
A man with abundance or high value doesn't sit there and over-analyze every single little detail. He guides and leads the behavior and rewards her with attention and affection when warranted. However, he can just as much withdraw it if she starts acting up consistently and disrespecting him.
After repeated warnings, he may bump her down from main plate status or drop plate altogether.
