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So last Friday I went to meet this 28 year old girl on POF. She doesn't have any kids as the previous 2 POF girls did. We had talked on the phone a few times over the past few weeks, and texted here and there. She lives about 40 minutes from me, but I was doing some work near her area so I suggested we meet at a bar lounge place nearby. Now in the pictures this girl had up, she looked very attractive... And from talking to her on the phone she sounded like she was very picky. She said most of the guys she met she just didn't feel the spark or chemistry with... So I actually was thinking that this girl would be a waste of my time and most likely she'd dismiss me when she saw me.. but I did DHV myself with job to her and used some pre selection techniques to get her interest up... So since I had a free Friday evening I figured, what the hell I'll meet up with her for some drinks... you never know right?

So we both get to the parking lot of this place and she pulls up in a BMW coupe and parks behind me diagonally. I wanted her to grab a seat at the bar but she didn't want to walk in alone. She said the area was ghetto, which is bs but whatever. I walk up to her car and try to get her attention but she is texting or doing something on her phone. I then tap glass and she gets scared. She gets out of the car and I give her a hug. She gives me a decent 2 hand hug. Her body looks pretty good but her face definitely doesn't look as good as the picture. Her face seemed like it had a lot of acne but was covered up. She clearly photo shopped a lot of her pics. But that being said she really wasn't that bad overall... just not as good as her pictures.

So whatever we go in there, there weren't any seats at the bar, so we grabbed a little table that was open in the corner. I told her I could go grab some drinks at the bar, which i did. We both chatted and maintained eye contact. A few times I maintained the eye contact a littte longer than I normally do, and I think she got a little shy or awkward, but I interjected some conversation to change the subject. So we both acknowledged how the place sucked and I teased her that she should have her birthday her. She said even though the placed sucked, the company was good. She had very long hair, and after a bit I ask her if it's real and if she uses hair extensions. She is like its all real, and makes me touch it and tells me to tug it. Then after a little more talking about our jobs or whatever bs, she says something like "I should have just had you come to my place" I said like yeah or something then talked about something else. Then after a bit after saying how much this place sucked, she said do you want to just come over to my place, I have wine. I said "sure, you're not far right" She was like only 15 mins. So we both get up, I walk in front of her and we leave. The plan is for me to follow her.

Now here's my mindset right now... half of me wanted to just leave and go home. I wasn't really that attracted to her, plus I had plans with my girlfriend the next day so I figured I should probably go back and get a good night's rest. But then the other half of me was thinking that she wasn't bad looking, I really had no other plans, so going to check out her place and hang out would be cool. So I end up doing that and going to her place.

So she lives in a nice 3 level condo which she purchased within the past year. She gives me a tour of her place, then asks me if I want red or white wine. I tell her red so she gets a new bottle, gets some cheese and some buffalo flavored pretzels (so good btw) and we end up drinking and talking. There is like a counter in the middle of her kitchen. At first I stand next to her and talk. She asks me if I want to sit down, and I told her I was fine. After a few mins of talking she goes to the other side of the counter and sits down. So now we are across from each other and I can't really kino... Cause honestly as I am drinking this wine I am starting to get horny and she starts looking a hella of a lot better lol. So she has a dog that keeps being annoying, so she goes to get it's collar in another room, during this time I sit down in the seat next to where she was sitting. When she comes back, she sits back down again, and now I'm back in good kino position :)

So we continue talking, at some point I touch her hair again saying it's beautiful and I can't believe its real or some bs... She then is like ok I have to tell you something "I'm getting a nose job, so I'm going to look different in a few weeks" I tell her I don't care and she scared me as I thought she was going to say something bad. I then ask her if she had any other sugery or whatever, and she said just lip injections.. but everything else is real... She has amazing boobs, so I asked her about those and she said all real (I ended up touching them soon after so its true). So long story short eventually I make a move and start kissing her...She said she is so happy I'm a good kisser.. I eventually go for her neck and she is a little self conscious and says I have exema or something like that? Whatever... I then start rubbing my hands on her, making out, I obviouisly go over her boobs... She then says "you can touch me...." so I put my hands on her boobs and feel her up some more. She says I can sleep over so don't worry about drinking wine (I'm about 4 glasses in by now)

Now for the drama.... So she then said something like this "listen I don't have sex right away, but do you have any stds?" I tell her I do not and then ask "do you?" She says "I have herpes... I got it when I was 23 from this 43 year old guy... I saw something red on him and asked him what it was and he lied and said it was from a motorcycle accident". She then was like I only get 2 outbreaks a year.. She then said she was with her ex boyfriend for a year and he never used a condom and he never got anything. She said by law she had to tell me this though. I told her I respected her a lot for being honest, and that I had an experience where a girl told me this after we had sex. I told her I know several people with it and it was ok. She said when she feels an outbreak she just calls her doctor and picks up valtrex. I told her I know people that take medicine all the time and asked why she doesn't, but she said those people get frequent outbreaks. She said she felt so embarassed and started crying. I gave her a hug and told her how awesome I thought she was. She then told me how she had an abortion also, because she found out the guy she was sleeping with was married. She said she wanted me to stay over and cuddle in her bed. I told her I had to go cause I had work early, but she said she wouldn't let me and she'd call the police since I was drinking. So I lied and said I had to get something from my car, then took off... But stupid me forgot something important at her place. She texted me the next day that no guy had ever done what I done and then she didnt want to hear from me again. I told her I was drunk and didnt know what I was doing... I ended up getting my item yesterday, pretending I wanted to see her today, but then just basically AFCd myself out of it... saying she was too pretty for me, and she didn't answer my text fast enough and I am insecure etc... She said "that doesn't make any sense but good luck"

That's that.
 

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That's... intersting.... why didn't you just tap it?

I never get women like this on the first date and you get them every time... I must be doing something wrong.
 

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That's... intersting.... why didn't you just tap it?

I never get women like this on the first date and you get them every time... I must be doing something wrong.
I don't know.. I think the plastic stuff, abortion, and not being ready for herpes made me want to eject. It's funny how we both look at my dates different.. seems like all girls I've met had issues or done something to turn me off. Almost like God doesn't want me to bang a sidepiece.
 

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I don't know.. I think the plastic stuff, abortion, and not being ready for herpes made me want to eject. It's funny how we both look at my dates different.. seems like all girls I've met had issues or done something to turn me off. Almost like God doesn't want me to bang a sidepiece.
Get off POF... and go meet girls in real life.
 

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Get off POF... and go meet girls in real life.
I do both, but lately with the gf it's easier for me to go online. My time to go out is limited but I should try some approaches soon.
 

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I would have been out with the herpes. Why take chances? There are plenty of std free girls in the world.
 

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You got a girlfriend bro. If she asked for your excluivity and you agreed be a man of your word.
 

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I would have been out with the herpes. Why take chances? There are plenty of std free girls in the world.
I actually respect her a lot for telling me. I had a girl tell me she had it after banging her, I've never felt so wronged by someone. Herpes is quite common, I have several friends that have it and there's several people on this board that are open. After going through what I did with the last girl, I did a lot of research on it and I think the first outbreak is the worst and that's really the only thing I fear. You're more likely to pick it up from someone who wouldn't tell you or doesn't know that they have it. It's most contagious when someone is first infected.

You got a girlfriend bro. If she asked for your excluivity and you agreed be a man of your word.
Unfortunately life isn't that simple.
 

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Many things in life ARE simple, we just complicate them trying to twist things so we can justify the unjustifiable.
Can you please direct me to the reference which shows you are the authority on what is justifiable please?
 

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what is so complicated about your relationship with your girlfriend? Either she's meeting your criteria and is worth keeping. Or she doesn't and isn't. Only 2 choices. Fear of losing easy sex doesn't complicate anything. IF you think you can do better? Do it
 

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You pretty much described the bpd/npd fruit loop that bought me to this site!! The description of her and the feeling you had on the first date.. I could have written that myself.. scary... yeah run!
 

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You pretty much described the bpd/npd fruit loop that bought me to this site!! The description of her and the feeling you had on the first date.. I could have written that myself.. scary... yeah run!
Except now I have to deal with prude game playing chicks lol.. Sometimes it feels like you can't win.
 

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why am I not the least bit surprised. pof is teeming with trash.

It's literally a virtual dive bar/ abortion clinic/std clinic/drug rehab/mental ward/baby momma/halfway house/escorts without the title/ trailer trash/ hood rat vending machine. Take your pick.

And like I've always said: There's a reason each and every chick is on pof. And it's not good at all.

Your story is far from the first and far from the last O.P.
 
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