TOneThousand
Don Juan
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From reading in other threads I had a realization of a bad habit I have with texting. The advice I've seen is while texting you shouldn't give the woman the opportunity to be passive. So you should prompt her for a response, with a question etc. One thing I hear is that almost every text should end with a simple question, prompting her for a response and for her investment. Then that allows you to escalate. And then after that you escalate... sounds cool but...
The thing is that my texting habits are on the other side of the spectrum. I tend to use questions sparingly and much of what I text is definitely passive. For ex I'll text girls with something like this piece of poetry all the time
"Hey I'm going to be at abc venue tomorrow at around 8 if you're free and want to come by"
Guess that's not the most engaging invite ha. I can see why prompting is important. There are three reasons I've gotten into the minimalist habit
1) I try to be as non-needy and outcome independent as possible. If she joins at the venue, nice we'll have a great time. If she doesn't, I'll still have a great time. Either way I'm not dependent on her presence
2) I've read a lot of articles that push the notion that a really high value man will not waste a lot of time texting and will keep it to a minimum. Texting back and forth all day is something she does with her girlfriends, etc, etc
3) I think I got a lot of this from following Brent Smith's game. From what I picked up from him, he basically says open the door for the woman and let her know it's open but then allow her walk through it if that's what she wants. In some ways I rely on that approach a lot. Projecting the attitude that everything is good with me despite what happens with the girl
Don't want to oversimplify either way but seems clear I need to work on leading the interaction, escalating and getting investment more when texting. All those come more naturally in person. Figured I'd share observations and interested to hear what others think.
Side note: I need to start breaking question marks out more too
-T1K
The thing is that my texting habits are on the other side of the spectrum. I tend to use questions sparingly and much of what I text is definitely passive. For ex I'll text girls with something like this piece of poetry all the time
"Hey I'm going to be at abc venue tomorrow at around 8 if you're free and want to come by"
Guess that's not the most engaging invite ha. I can see why prompting is important. There are three reasons I've gotten into the minimalist habit
1) I try to be as non-needy and outcome independent as possible. If she joins at the venue, nice we'll have a great time. If she doesn't, I'll still have a great time. Either way I'm not dependent on her presence
2) I've read a lot of articles that push the notion that a really high value man will not waste a lot of time texting and will keep it to a minimum. Texting back and forth all day is something she does with her girlfriends, etc, etc
3) I think I got a lot of this from following Brent Smith's game. From what I picked up from him, he basically says open the door for the woman and let her know it's open but then allow her walk through it if that's what she wants. In some ways I rely on that approach a lot. Projecting the attitude that everything is good with me despite what happens with the girl
Don't want to oversimplify either way but seems clear I need to work on leading the interaction, escalating and getting investment more when texting. All those come more naturally in person. Figured I'd share observations and interested to hear what others think.
Side note: I need to start breaking question marks out more too
-T1K
