Ok I'm a 2nd yr university student and I've made very few approaches or even really attempts to get laid or get a gf. It's not that I don't want to, but I find that I might be overthinking situations or something. I've read enough about body language to be fairly sure when a girl is interested in me, but I have really faulty beliefs or something that prevent me from taking action. An example is the other day I was waiting in line to get some coffee from the main campus coffee spot, and there was a girl in front of me that was showing some (imo) good body language towards me. Basically she was never fully faced forward like she maybe should have been and was resting on the wall so that she wasn't fully faced forward, but not fully facing the side of the line either. Anyways her body language was different from the regular body language you'd expect from someone who was just waiting to get coffee. For one thing she was wearing a thing around her hair so it wasn't flowing freely but scrunched up or whatever, and she took it off and let her hair flow freely down her face. Then she started playing with her hair alot, while still not really facing forward or to the side, she'd also look back in my direction every now and then, but not make eye contact or look at me, and I also noticed that she didn't care that I looked at her face a couple of times. Finally I noticed that she was slightly leaning down to de-emphasize her height in relation to mine (I'm only about 5'9 so I'm not really tall) I've read this also indicates attraction.
In short I did nothing. Thinking back on it I've come to realize at the time the following types of thoughts were going through my head
-What if she doesn't really like me...
-What should I say....
-What if I'm wrong and she rejects me in this line or I look stupid for talking to her
-If I talk to her people will know I'm trying to hit on her
-Blah blah blah
basically stupid thoughts like that. Another similar instance I can think of was when I a girl sat a seat away from me in a lecture and periodically kinda looked in my direction, and might have been showing some other BL signs (cant remember for sure), but I was too afraid to talk because it was close to the front of the lecture hall and again thoughts like the above incident were going through my head.
So basically how do I get it around my head to stop thinking like this? I've had a couple similar type situations here at this school, but I keep throwing them away because of this way of thinking. How do I stop this way of thinking?
In short I did nothing. Thinking back on it I've come to realize at the time the following types of thoughts were going through my head
-What if she doesn't really like me...
-What should I say....
-What if I'm wrong and she rejects me in this line or I look stupid for talking to her
-If I talk to her people will know I'm trying to hit on her
-Blah blah blah
basically stupid thoughts like that. Another similar instance I can think of was when I a girl sat a seat away from me in a lecture and periodically kinda looked in my direction, and might have been showing some other BL signs (cant remember for sure), but I was too afraid to talk because it was close to the front of the lecture hall and again thoughts like the above incident were going through my head.
So basically how do I get it around my head to stop thinking like this? I've had a couple similar type situations here at this school, but I keep throwing them away because of this way of thinking. How do I stop this way of thinking?
