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Stick to Lower east side bars. All those spots you listed above will be an expensive waste of time
I agree & prefer LES and EV or WV but from Harlem it's a schlep if he wants to bring back a new friend.

PhD is decent if you get in early enough although more likely than not, you need to buy a ticket beforehand to get into the event they are likely having. Meatpacking is only good if you do some daygame or streetgame in the area, the clubs are a hassle to get into.

Your best bets are the following:

1. Go to West Village and hit up the bars there. Galway Hooker, Spaniard, and Fiddlesticks are some good ones.

2. LES is your best bet after that but I would stick to street game if anything, lines at the bars will be too long. Grayson and 1 on 1 are super loud, you cannot hear a thing. Fool's Gold should be worth checking out.

3. Bowery can also be good, check out Phebes and The Wren, street game around there should be good as well.

You want to get going at 10 PM. If I had to pick a venue to try to end the night at, go with PhD and stick to the outdoor area where you can hear people. If that does not work, straight to West Village or Bowery depending on which is closer by.
Phebe's - fun place, interesting cross section of people.

On the LES there was a bar called Iggy's that could be a real blast (not sure anymore, these things change). I think on Ludlow.

2A (Ave A and 2nd) was fun too.

Far WV there is a bar called Kaña, has salsa dancing some nights. It's on West Spring, practically on the river, there's a nice stretch of bars there.

I'm several years removed so my info may be out of date.
 

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Is there any sort of dress code? Are these fancy button-down kinda places or would getting away with tees/long sleeves work just the same?
There will be lots of people inside wearing polo shirts and plain dress shirts so it's nothing crazy.

But of course you should dress like you're trying to get into the club and attract girls.
 
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Alright so little update and some last minute suggestions if anybody could offer them.

The guys who were with me last night are calling it in tonight, so it's just gonna be me and my brother tonight. We spent a SH**LOAD at Somewhere Nowhere last night. It was fun sure, but the girls weren't crazy hot or anything, and yeah, the drinks were super expensive.

Anyway, trying to figure out where to go tonight.

The Nebula recommendation doesn't look too bad, I'm seeing tickets online for $30 right now.

The Blond wasn't on my radar, but I met a girl at SW NW last night. We hit it off, made out a little, but she was there for her birthday too and stayed out with her friends. Texted me today asking if I was still planning to go. I looked it up and see it's more of a bar than a club. Not sure if that's a good spot to go.

Le Bain is an option my friends suggested. It's right across from where my friend's office was where we pregamed the other day. Thoughts on that?

Somewhere like Slate or The DL are on the table, because I've visited them before, but again, unsure if they're any good.

Outside of that I see a lot of recommendations for phD. No clue about that spot.

@devilkingx2 @Jesse Pinkman @Divorced w 3 care to give me some last-minute suggestions here?

Tinder is fire, Bumble is terrible, and Hinge is even worse. I would LIKE to get laid out here, but that also comes down to the girls. Before I made out with the girl last night I had this other hot one dancing with me feeling me, but she was way too drunk and even got escorted out by the bouncer later.

So yeah...please advise. Got about an hour or 2 before I gotta make an executive decision here.
 

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Alright so little update and some last minute suggestions if anybody could offer them.

The guys who were with me last night are calling it in tonight, so it's just gonna be me and my brother tonight. We spent a SH**LOAD at Somewhere Nowhere last night. It was fun sure, but the girls weren't crazy hot or anything, and yeah, the drinks were super expensive.

Anyway, trying to figure out where to go tonight.

The Nebula recommendation doesn't look too bad, I'm seeing tickets online for $30 right now.

The Blond wasn't on my radar, but I met a girl at SW NW last night. We hit it off, made out a little, but she was there for her birthday too and stayed out with her friends. Texted me today asking if I was still planning to go. I looked it up and see it's more of a bar than a club. Not sure if that's a good spot to go.

Le Bain is an option my friends suggested. It's right across from where my friend's office was where we pregamed the other day. Thoughts on that?

Somewhere like Slate or The DL are on the table, because I've visited them before, but again, unsure if they're any good.

Outside of that I see a lot of recommendations for phD. No clue about that spot.

@devilkingx2 @Jesse Pinkman @Divorced w 3 care to give me some last-minute suggestions here?

Tinder is fire, Bumble is terrible, and Hinge is even worse. I would LIKE to get laid out here, but that also comes down to the girls. Before I made out with the girl last night I had this other hot one dancing with me feeling me, but she was way too drunk and even got escorted out by the bouncer later.

So yeah...please advise. Got about an hour or 2 before I gotta make an executive decision here.
I like bars. Can’t speak to where the blond where your girl is going but you can’t go wrong in a New York bar. Only issue with lower east side is the logistics of coming from Harlem. If you want to hook up with the girl you have nowhere to bring her back also essentially. I would say for your purposes stay upper west side at this point. Good scene and can pivot back home if you get lucky relatively easily. Keep us posted
 

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You gonna tell us how it went?
Pretty sh** if I'm being honest. I was gonna make an update anyway but since you asked I thought I'd quote you directly.

Night 1

Drove up after work and the gym, and got to my brother's around 8:30. He lives in Spanish Harlem and the plan was to pregame at my friend's office since he has 24/7 access and a really nice view of the water over in Meatpacking near the Rolex store. I was originally kinda pissed because I held off on buying my ticket since one of my friends had a promoter friend that I thought was going to hook it up - turns out he wanted at least $500 to get me a table and send over some girls, asking what our budget was...I told my friend "bruh I just want tickets", and I don't think the promoter friend liked that because apparently, he stopped replying. So I bought my ticket late enough that the price updated WHILE I WAS CHECKING THEM OUT and ended up spending $100 on that.

We went to Somewhere Nowhere, got there early like everybody was advising, and it was super dead at the start. It picked up after a while, everybody was having a good time and we were all quite sloshed, but it was really painful buying $25 drinks each time.

One of my friends bowed out kinda early because he got booty called by his main squeeze right now, so it was me, my brother, and my other buddy with the promoter friend. I met one hot chick pretty early because she stepped on my shoe and apologized. She and her friends ended up dancing with us for a little while, but she was obviously hammered so I let her be her friends' responsibility - she ended up being escorted out of the club by a bouncer later on.

I talked to some other hot chicks, but they were mostly in the little VIP section or there with their boyfriends/husbands. Ended up being introduced by this girl I ended making out with later on because it was her birthday too. She was from the area and there with friends, so she wasn't willing to leave with me that night, but gave me her number and told me where she would be the next night, ended up texting Saturday to confirm too.

Not too long afterward we decided to leave...all the good-looking girls were in VIP and we were getting tired of emptying our bank accounts on drink refills.

Night 2

My friends from the first night were originally planning to come out again on Saturday, but the hangovers caught up with them and they decided to stay in. So it was just going to be me and my brother.

The girl from the night before told me she was going to The Blond at around midnight, but I wasn't going to go out of my way to this place on the off-chance this girl shows up and is down (she was cute but nothing crazy enough for me to plan my night around). Bought tickets to Nebula, showed up nice and early, and got in a quick pregame at my brother's apartment.

Again, super dead for the first hour or so. Started to fill in, but it was more of the same as Somewhere Nowhere; any attractive girls were pretty much exclusively found in the VIP sections and the drinks were small and very expensive. Ended up just drinking with my brother and taking turns buying the rounds.

The highlight here was that I ended up meeting this hot Thai chick who told me I was handsome. My brother left and she and I had a conversation - told her it was my birthday, found out she was from LA, and we hit it off. Ended up spending most of the night dancing with some light make-outs here and there. I will say I had a legitimate concern that she was a ladyboy...she had fake boobs and when talking dirty she specifically told me to f*** her a**. Knowing Thai has a reputation for ladyboys I legitimately asked her to be sure, and thankfully she said she was not.

However, none of that matters because she ended up taking an ecstasy tablet, got really high, went back to her VIP section, and at some point left the club. We were messing around probably close to 1ish, and she wanted to stay till around 3, so when I saw she had left I texted her but didn't hear back. She would end up texting me at about 5 in the morning apologizing that she got too high and only then got back to her hotel.

Probably around 1:30 or so my brother gets hit up by his girl for a booty call, so he tells me he's going to head back and to let him know when I leave. Basically after talking to this Thai girl I was just hanging around the bars...I didn't want to keep buying drinks, the girls NOT in VIP weren't that cute, and I couldn't sit anywhere without being bothered by the bouncers...there was one other girl I talked to, but apparently the dude with her wasn't her man, but rather a bodyguard, so he ended up pulling her away soon after I started talking to her. I got her number, but not much more than that.

I ended up leaving around 3, got back to my brother's around 3:30 after he had finished seeing his girl, and went to sleep soon afterward.

While there, I decided to splurge on Tinder Gold and a boost to see what it was like up here. Basically, Tinder had a bunch of good-looking girls, Bumble and Hinge not so much.

While in line for Nebula, I decided to screw actually looking at who I swiped on and just right swipe everybody...I kid you not, not a SINGLE girl I matched with was cute enough for me to not immediately unmatch her. It was so bad. The only girl worth mentioning was one who matched me on Hinge but ended up staying in Saturday night because she was hungover from Friday...like it was REALLY bad. There are hot girls on these apps from what I'm seeing, and I'm an attractive guy...but holy hell, I will never buy Tinder Gold again.

Conclusion

The highlight of this trip was seeing my brother and friends and having fun pregaming with them and going out to the club the first night. That said, I do not understand why people like New York...it costs an inordinate amount of money to have an extremely average night...the girls aren't much better than what I've seen anywhere else, but the drinks cost 5x as much and you're partying on a 500sq ft dancefloor that they call a "club".

As a cherry on top, I was treated with a $115 parking ticket for improper street parking, despite the fact that there were other cars doing the same thing, which is what led me to park there in the first place.

I don't even want to think about how much I spent...I don't understand the appeal of this state...I would rather go to somewhere warm and beachy where people care about their appearance and don't charge me $100 to get into places.

It had been more than a year since I'd gone up to visit my brother and go out, and I anticipate it will be much longer than that before I bother again.
 

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Ouch I’m sorry. The highlight was and should be seeing your bro. As for the nightlife, I always stick to bars. Don’t hit clubs if you don’t have the connect, either through someone there or a friend with massively deep pockets. If you just stick to the neighborhood and hit local bars you’re gonna be fine. Don’t measure success on your pull rate measure it in memories created with the ones you care about. Give New York another shot bc of your bro and stick to the neighborhood watering holes you’ll do just fine.
 

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Ouch I’m sorry. The highlight was and should be seeing your bro. As for the nightlife, I always stick to bars. Don’t hit clubs if you don’t have the connect, either through someone there or a friend with massively deep pockets. If you just stick to the neighborhood and hit local bars you’re gonna be fine. Don’t measure success on your pull rate measure it in memories created with the ones you care about. Give New York another shot bc of your bro and stick to the neighborhood watering holes you’ll do just fine.
Yeah maybe in retrospect I should've gone to The Blond. Thought clubs would be the move because I enjoy dancing and figured the girls there would be more down to leave that same night.
 

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Yeah maybe in retrospect I should've gone to The Blond. Thought clubs would be the move because I enjoy dancing and figured the girls there would be more down to leave that same night.
That place as well is the type of spot I would attend on business or for a nice occasion. New York is the world capital of the local watering hole / dive bar. You can absolutely pull in more reasonable spots than that. If you like that type of scene that’s fine but it’s by no means necessary. I could have got you in and out under $100 for the night. Frankly I could have gotten in and out of a local bar without paying a cent and I have plenty of times.
 

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You should try Toronto next. Demographic wise, it is more multicultural, the women are better looking and less ghetto. The city looks closer to Chicago than New York but it like the "same thing". Currency wise you will get- more bang for your buck due to the currency exchange.
 

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You should try Toronto next. Demographic wise, it is more multicultural, the women are better looking and less ghetto. The city looks closer to Chicago than New York but it like the "same thing". Currency wise you will get- more bang for your buck due to the currency exchange.
Toronto is a mating environment craphole. I also don't think some guy from Delaware is going to randomly go to Toronto.
 

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Toronto is a mating environment craphole. I also don't think some guy from Delaware is going to randomly go to Toronto.
Why do you say that? I would say it is better than all the cities from North East. I have only been to Boston and New York I imagine all the cities in the East coast dirty and ghetto.
 

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Why do you say that? I would say it is better than all the cities from North East. I have only been to Boston and New York but all the cities I imagine all the cities in the East coast look like I am in The Wire or Shameless.
Every Canadian chick I've met has seemed kinda easy (in a good way).
 

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figured the girls there would be more down to leave that same night
No lol. Not those clubs. Said it was gonna be an expensive waste of time but you didnt listen. If you were looking for girls that are down to fvck that same night you got to go to the right bars. Namely LES/EV.
 

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No lol. Not those clubs. Said it was gonna be an expensive waste of time but you didnt listen. If you were looking for girls that are down to fvck that same night you got to go to the right bars. Namely LES/EV.
I didn't ignore your input, but as @Divorced w 3 stated, the cost of getting there was a consideration.

Maybe something I can do next time, but the first night we planned this out with my buddies so I'm not too mad about that ticket cost, and the second night at Nebula was only $30 to get in. The painful part was the cost for the drinks and how small (especially at Nebula) they were.
 

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Sounds like a great weekend to me. You met multiple girls and made out with them and got their numbers.


I would rather go to somewhere warm and beachy where people care about their appearance and don't charge me $100 to get into places.
Are clubs in Miami/Vegas/LA any cheaper? I haven’t been but as far as I know they’re the same or worse.
 

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Sounds like a great weekend to me. You met multiple girls and made out with them and got their numbers.




Are clubs in Miami/Vegas/LA any cheaper? I haven’t been but as far as I know they’re the same or worse.
Making out is nothing special, it was my 30th birthday, would've liked to get laid.

I don't know if the clubs are any cheaper out there, I'm just I'd imagine those areas have prettier people in general walking around since it's warm and they're incentivized to not look homeless when it's above 70 degrees.
 
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