WayTooReal
Don Juan
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I moved this to the Mature Man forum because I thought maybe I might get advice from other people who might have dealt with or are dealing with similar things.
I posted a bit about the situation I find myself in here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/i-screwed-everything-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do.248604/
Basically what has happened is I met a person who is the love of my life and i of hers, one who wants to marry me and has made me feel more loved, cared for, respected and admired than anyone I ever met. She talked about marrying me and spending our lives together but the issue is I am married with kids. I've been seeing her for 15 months and in that time she has never been to my house or met my family. Now its at the point where she wants to move forward or she feels like I am toying with her. I am not at all...i love her woth all my being I just dont know how to get out of the situation I've put us in. I am caring for my sick Mom which has been the reason im using as an excuse and she has accpeted it begrudgingly for several months...we had a few talks about this previously and she told me she is not happy with this but she will stay...now its at the point where i think she cant be happy anymore with this and she cant see a way to move forward so she is seemingly going to give up on me...although she loves me and wants to marry me still...
I think its like some midlife crisis im having thats behind this. Like im not happy with the life im living completely and want more and i found it with her but now I'm trapped because I cant have it ultimately without her finding out the truth eventually if i leave. And that isnt an option because I still love my wife and kids too. I literally want both options but i know i cant have them.
Guys I need help on how to deal with this. I ultimately want to be happy in life and I'm sort of happy but not as happy as i want to be. But i dont knoe of that is because of the current situation im in or just becauee im going through this midlife crisis I seem to be in...
Any help would be appreciated...please no "scumbag" comments. I know what i have done isnt right but it was never supposed to get this far.
I posted a bit about the situation I find myself in here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/i-screwed-everything-up-and-dont-know-what-to-do.248604/
Basically what has happened is I met a person who is the love of my life and i of hers, one who wants to marry me and has made me feel more loved, cared for, respected and admired than anyone I ever met. She talked about marrying me and spending our lives together but the issue is I am married with kids. I've been seeing her for 15 months and in that time she has never been to my house or met my family. Now its at the point where she wants to move forward or she feels like I am toying with her. I am not at all...i love her woth all my being I just dont know how to get out of the situation I've put us in. I am caring for my sick Mom which has been the reason im using as an excuse and she has accpeted it begrudgingly for several months...we had a few talks about this previously and she told me she is not happy with this but she will stay...now its at the point where i think she cant be happy anymore with this and she cant see a way to move forward so she is seemingly going to give up on me...although she loves me and wants to marry me still...
I think its like some midlife crisis im having thats behind this. Like im not happy with the life im living completely and want more and i found it with her but now I'm trapped because I cant have it ultimately without her finding out the truth eventually if i leave. And that isnt an option because I still love my wife and kids too. I literally want both options but i know i cant have them.
Guys I need help on how to deal with this. I ultimately want to be happy in life and I'm sort of happy but not as happy as i want to be. But i dont knoe of that is because of the current situation im in or just becauee im going through this midlife crisis I seem to be in...
Any help would be appreciated...please no "scumbag" comments. I know what i have done isnt right but it was never supposed to get this far.