Make it Automatic

Discussion in 'Don Juan Tips' started by krakhed, Jul 13, 2001.

  1. krakhed

    krakhed Don Juan

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    I recently returned to these boards after a six month hiatus. I've noticed a lot of posts from guys that are wondering if the girl likes them and what they should do next. "Should I go for it?"

    This is NOT a legitimate question for a DJer.

    The answer is always YES. If you don't go for the phone number close, then you're still a rank amateur.

    MAKE IT AUTOMATIC. Everytime you meet a little hottie. Make nice, make your move, go for the phone number.

    Every time. If you don't, then you blew it. You should ask for her number the FIRST time you meet her. Then you don't have to waste time wondering if you "should go for it."

    MAKE IT AUTOMATIC. Every time. Get the phone number.

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  2. gekkoca

    gekkoca Don Juan

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    I dont understand! When I get the phone number only.....the interest is way less than if I confidently give them my number first.It is unique....they dont expect it.Therefore it demonstrates that you are UNIQUE and INTERESTING.
    IT RADIATES CONFIDENCE.IT makes them come to you and shows them that you are not desparate
    because it leaves it up to her.She thinks...hey he has Nads..
     
  3. spank

    spank Don Juan

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    Two thumbs up for gekkoca ! ! !
     
  4. DonJoey

    DonJoey Master Don Juan

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    I dont agree with gekkoca.
    Giving your number out being a sign of confidence...its actually a sign of weakness and fear.
    The reason being that instead of playing the game you quickly put the ball in her court and wait for the next move....its a quick way out, its minimalist and 90% of the time you'll come across as arrogant (and they wont call).
    It takes balls to ask for a woman's home number.

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  5. gekkoca

    gekkoca Don Juan

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    IT doesnt take balls to ask a woman for her number!Guys do it ALL the time.I work with a lot of them!In the last week I gave my number to 4 women....guess what..they all called me...I guess it doesnt work eh!Dont knock it till YOU TRY IT!P.s,,,I gave the girls my number...two of the 4 even recipicated by writing down theirs!I never called them first!...I am no stud either
     
  6. krakhed

    krakhed Don Juan

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    Dammit, how many times do we have to go over this?

    You want to avoid giving a woman your number for as long as possible.

    You are the pursuer.

    You never want to be waiting for a call.

    You want to make it so she cannot call you to cancel a date.

    Getting her HOME PHONE NUMBER is an excellent test of preliminary interest.

    Now don't run around giving out your number. That's for the girls.

    It doesn't show that you are confident. It shows that you are weak and desperate "Here's my number. Please call me."

    Lame.

    You want to remain mysterious.

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  7. gekkoca

    gekkoca Don Juan

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    AHH hello!
    You do not make a date with her!That is DESPARATE!That is saying to her ...hey I ah will call you so that you can make an excuse not to go out.When I give out my number its with no reaction..like I dont care if she calls or not because it will be her loss if she doesnt.I dont wait around!Besides I am so busy that I never call them back right away..ITS NOT ...HERE is my number I am desparate.Its heres my number B@$$% ...call me or its your loss!They get my machine and end up leaving me their phone number as I am a challenge!
     
  8. krakhed

    krakhed Don Juan

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    "ITS NOT ...HERE is my number I am desparate.Its heres my number B@$$% ...call me or its your loss!"
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    Of course, they both sound the same. Either way, you're making her into the pursuer and yourself into the woman. Why do so many guys on this board feel more comfortable when they reverse gender roles?

    It seems bizarre to me that you want the relationship to start off as a game of phone tag. Why not call her, ask her to meet you, and then continue from there. This game-playing nonsense is not the stuff that the great DJs are made of.
     
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    gekkoca Don Juan

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    How to catch a KITTY....
    Let them chase you out of curiosity....
    Never let them catch you ...
    You need to stop thinking its a game.Its not.
    Its just what works.If thats a game by your definition...so be it.I am only interested in results.What works for me works for me.Until otherwise proven ineffective!D.J ing
    is strategy...to obtain an end result or goal.WE will have to agree to disagree and thats the end of that! [​IMG] LOL...
     
  10. krakhed

    krakhed Don Juan

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    I have read some of your other posts and I guess this strategy works for you. I don't like it and I think most others on this board would agree with me.

    I do not subscribe to your strategy, but if you believe it is working for you, keep on doing it. It may depend on age. Read my thread I'm about to start.

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  11. LuisGarcia10

    LuisGarcia10 Senior Don Juan

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    I don't think going for a home phone number is any different than a mobile really.

    Mobile's are after all more personal, I rarely use my home phone for example.

    As long as you get a number there's not really that much difference.

    Quite right about not giving your number out, I personally would say it's far better to have the guts to ask a woman for her number, they usually say yes anyway.
     
  12. Omega

    Omega Master Don Juan

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    Grak, your method may work for you however it is quite flawed. It depends on your age and the attractiveness of the girls your persuing. You'll find after a while that your method may work some of the time but it is not garunteed, unlike time tested methods such as being what you are, a man.
     
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    Ladiesssman Don Juan

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    I never get any result either way. Wouldn't be whatever works. Your goal is to get the girls or am I wrong?
     
  14. Hanz

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    Wait? Having girls call you because they are the needy ones in a relationship reverses the gender roles? It isn't like he is playing with dolls and staying home to clean the house or anything.

    Having a woman call you, and not NEEDING to communicate with her yourself keeps you in control of the relationship. You cannot come off as a AFC when she has to call you.
     
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    and make sure to clean your ears real well so you can hear her sexy voice more clearly.
     
  16. Microphone Fiend

    Microphone Fiend Master Don Juan

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    wordaaaaaage yo
     
  17. MisterMcGee

    MisterMcGee Master Don Juan

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    I guess being approached by a woman reeks of fear and lack of confidence on your part.


    Honestly though, the whole "I gotta go, here's my number" thing should be looked at a little closer.

    To me, phone number closing (you getting her number, or giving her yours) is a little silly either way, as you're following the motions and, to both parties, I think it feels contrived. I don't see the appeal in dating "normally" however, and I've got a lack of interest in making plans with a random hottie for an entire night. Perhaps this will change when/if I become more needy emotionally and sexually.
     
  18. Daydream Engineer

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    I always ask for their number and dial it on my phone... and i call them in front of them, so they can get my number. Simple.
     
  19. lalahaha

    lalahaha Don Juan

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    Daydream's is method is easy and helps weed out fake numbers as well

    But in the other debate I find if I give my number, girls will go "ooh a confident guy I have to call him" and they probably will for most people, except they will call more when they have nothing to do and/bored.

    When I take their number its more like "when is he going to call me *tears hair out*" and they end up thinking about you a little more and building you up in their head.

    Of course its for the guy to live up to those expectations that matter ;)
     
  20. aforabi

    aforabi Don Juan

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    haha, nice post.

    Last time, I asked for a number to this "inexperienced girl" and she says, "Why do guys always ask for a number? Why do guys always flirt with girls?"

    Wow, how should a guy show his interest level? By waiting her to make the first move? Haha, it's never going to happen. I was doubting over my intention last time. I thought by going after the number, I was being desperate. But this post, which I agree, is what I was looking for. Asking a girl's number has to be AUTOMATIC ... we should go for it. So what if that stupid chick doesn't want to give me her phone number, I realized that she was NOT interested in my anyway. Why waste my precious time with someone uninterested ... there are so many cuties out there waiting for a PRINCE CHARMING like me ;)
     
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