Damn, it has really been a long time since I posted here.
I wanted to pass on some info that I learned as of late.
Maybe this is already well-known info.....
Just recently started getting to know this girl.
We had gone out a few times and she called and told me that Saturday she was going out with a friend and wanted me to come along.
Despite my gut-feeling, I said yes. She drives us out to a club--and I already know this is going to be interesting.
It's generally a bad idea to meet up with a bunch of people you don't know when you haven't established enough rapport with someone. You can't really suggest leaving, you can't really do ANYTHING, because you just met and are trying to be a good sport about it all.
I'll spare the details.
Basically, you have guys you have to compete with. You can't really talk. All her girl friends are sizing you up. Other guy friends come along and you have no idea the history or dynamics of any of the relationships. You try and get in the conversations and it's just awkward.
Alcohol and hormones are involved. Everyone is drinking, so you have to deal with all that stuff. Personally, I drink but can handle it. But, you have the other drunk people to deal with.
It's not a great way to get to know someone even better.
Either you are too passive, or you are too smothering. It's really a no-win situation. You can have fun, but being judged by all her friends in that environment is not good. Things can only get confusing and misinterpreted.
It's better to have more history before you go out with a large group. You have to be at the point where you can tell your girl, hey, this sucks, lets get out of here. And she will agree with you. You can't pull that out when you are just getting to know her.
From now on when a woman asks me to go out with a large group and I don't know her so well, I am going to say I am busy.
Just a heads-up and an affirmation that it really isn't a good idea to do this.
I wanted to pass on some info that I learned as of late.
Maybe this is already well-known info.....
Just recently started getting to know this girl.
We had gone out a few times and she called and told me that Saturday she was going out with a friend and wanted me to come along.
Despite my gut-feeling, I said yes. She drives us out to a club--and I already know this is going to be interesting.
It's generally a bad idea to meet up with a bunch of people you don't know when you haven't established enough rapport with someone. You can't really suggest leaving, you can't really do ANYTHING, because you just met and are trying to be a good sport about it all.
I'll spare the details.
Basically, you have guys you have to compete with. You can't really talk. All her girl friends are sizing you up. Other guy friends come along and you have no idea the history or dynamics of any of the relationships. You try and get in the conversations and it's just awkward.
Alcohol and hormones are involved. Everyone is drinking, so you have to deal with all that stuff. Personally, I drink but can handle it. But, you have the other drunk people to deal with.
It's not a great way to get to know someone even better.
Either you are too passive, or you are too smothering. It's really a no-win situation. You can have fun, but being judged by all her friends in that environment is not good. Things can only get confusing and misinterpreted.
It's better to have more history before you go out with a large group. You have to be at the point where you can tell your girl, hey, this sucks, lets get out of here. And she will agree with you. You can't pull that out when you are just getting to know her.
From now on when a woman asks me to go out with a large group and I don't know her so well, I am going to say I am busy.
Just a heads-up and an affirmation that it really isn't a good idea to do this.