Kino makes all the difference

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  1. trickynick

    trickynick Master Don Juan

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    I have made what I consider to be a remarkable breakthrough in my development as a DJ. For the longest time I underestimated the importance of what we call kino. I made some attempts at it, but didn't make it much of a priority. After my experience on a date yesterday not only is kino a priority now, it is THE priority.

    I had set up a brief, low-key first date for drinks with a girl I had met at a dance club quite some time ago. We had had some phone conversations by then but hadn't seen each other since we met. As far as conversation goes, it was like most dates of this type for me. One of my main problems on dates in the past has been gaging the interest level. I was able to do it this time with some really simple kino techniques.

    When a pause came up in the conversation I slowly reached across the table and clasped my hand around hers. I stroked her palm from underneath as I complemented a ring she was wearing. She seemed quite welcoming me touching her hand, I took this as a sign of a good interest level.

    As the date continued I was thinking "the hair is next, I got to get my hands in her hair somehow!" We were at a non-smoking bar, so when the date was getting ready to end she asked if I would like to come have a cigarette with her which I did. I stood pretty close to her while we were smoking and I reached up by her temple and preened her hair back around her ear and said "that's a really nice earing." The thanked me for the compliment and again seemed to like the touch. Not long after that we said good bye. Her pupils were a little dialated and she initiated a hug turning her face against mine. I kept the hug brief as I said goodbye.

    This kino stuff is not nearly as complicated as I made it out to be in my head and so incredibly effective in gaging interest level and turning her on. I guess I just had to start doing it. Now I know that it's all about kino.

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  2. Take No Dirt

    Take No Dirt Master Don Juan

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    trickynick, you made a good point there! Kino is a tool we DJs don't place too much emphasis on sometimes. I've used Kino when there had been a lull in the conversation. Girls love to be touched in non-threatening sexual way. It makes them feel good that you desire them that way.
     
  3. Pro

    Pro Master Don Juan

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    Very good post man! Like dj bible worthy if you ask me, this really helped me (well it will help me if I let it, [​IMG] )

    But the part about you mentioning your "into" this girl or whatever... well dont make a mistake and make that too evident to her... if you were pretty damn "nice" the whole time you might wanna try a few subtle neg hits on your next date.
    You have to focus on other areas as well so you dont go chump and mess it up with a stupid mistake (as in right after it happens your booting yourself in the anuz)

    Hope I helped you as much as me.

    Now that I think of it, you were the one that said you couldnt really implement neg hits. maybe you should figure that out as well as you have this "kino" thing and I think youll find it pretty rewarding when properly used!

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  4. bartender

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    You are absolutely right!
    Learned not much long ago that that was the thing I did unconciously on people I like.
     
  5. trickynick

    trickynick Master Don Juan

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    Pro,

    I am very interested in learning more about neg-hits which I mentioned before are a largely undeveloped part of my game at this point. Maybe you could post me some advice in that neg-hit topic that is up there now. It's a little off-topic for this thread.

    I am really glad you got so much out of my post and thanks for your offer to help me.

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  6. bartender

    bartender Master Don Juan

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    Not that you've asked me but I used something that is much extremer than a neg-hit.

    I was drunk (yes stupid to engage in conversation) when I was trying to seduce someone and I flattered her with maybe just too many compliments (because I thought I had to undo all the neg-hits I had used before.)

    I realized I did something stupid so the next time I saw her I said (with kino) "hey did I make it up with all that bull**** I said? (referring to the excessive use of compliments.)" and she was shocked, probably not knowing what to think of me.

    If I can think of neg-hits I'll post them too.

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  7. trickynick

    trickynick Master Don Juan

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    hmmm...you have me a bit confused with that one.


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  8. Don the Legend

    Don the Legend Master Don Juan

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    Very Well Done Trickynick!

    I agree with you wholeheartedly, in that you have to have some kino on the first date to establish yourself with a girl as a sexual being. I don't know if you kissed her on the first date or not. If you didn't, great. She has something to look forward to on your second date. It seems that things are going well. Just remember not to get to ahead of yourself with this girl. You don't want to put on blinders thinking this girl is the one until she proves herself to you. I wish you well.

    Take Care,

    Legend


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  9. SoSuave.com

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  10. Ashlee Angel

    Ashlee Angel Master Don Juan

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    Thanks for the tip Nick.

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  11. trickynick

    trickynick Master Don Juan

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    Old post, my first one in the bible. Man, that was quite the deal when it first happened for me, brings back memories. So much has happened since then. I did not anticpate this would be added to the bible, so I later on took the closing AFC sentiment out of the end of it so that it would not confuse the newbies.

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  12. De La Soul

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    Very true trickynick, one of my early problems in my Don Juaning development was forcing myself to establish myself as a SEXUAL guy. Because even if you have charm, wit, intellect and looks you still need the confidence to initiate contact and make her think of you as more than just a nice guy friend .

    Once you have mastered kino, you add so much more to your DJ weaponary, and I am reaping the benefits of it, just like you.



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  13. Nicholas Hill

    Nicholas Hill Master Don Juan

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  14. Pimp-sicle

    Pimp-sicle Master Don Juan

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    Tricky: Yeah I think your over doing it with the compliments. Although they were not the typical AFC ones like "Your Hot" etc. Let me do my best to give you a few Neg Hits that I've collected from various sites and sources:

    "Did you bleach your hair? I really like it like that, but why are the roots brown?"

    "I like your nails......(thanks) are they real??"

    "That dress fits you very well.....yeah I saw 3 girls wearing it at a party last week."

    "That shirt looks great on you, it must be your favorite....yeah cause I saw you wearing that last week too."


    YOu get the idea right? Its all about a compliment followed by calling her out on sh1t. Work extremely well on super HB's, but don't even think about dishing neg hits to 6-7's. They will get insulted and give you the cold shoulder.
     
  15. KeepitKINO

    KeepitKINO Don Juan

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    The name says it all!
     
  16. djtdot

    djtdot Senior Don Juan

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    Today I was listening to an Indian Tamil song from a movie from 1964. Its lyrics goes like

    "kangal padamal kai gal thodamal kadhal varuvadhuilaye"

    Basically means that if eyes don't clash, if hands don't touch love does not arise. Damn that's what they say on this forum, eyecontact + kino.

    I have been hearing this song for about 5 years now, but I have never listened to this song, damn people knew exactly what to do in those days. I have decided to stop watching new movies as they are too friggin afc and watch and listen to what movies/songs from the olden days say. They have a wealth of information. This one was like doh!!! I guess people in old days they had no fancy names for these yet scored left and right. It was so obvious.
     
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