This is a topic I think is more relevant to those around the 30+ age group. I think part of having the DJ mindset includes having a robust social life. Not that it's technically necessary to have such to approach women, but put it this way, I've never known a DJ that hasn't had a healthy social life. Now I don't want to get into the chicken-egg question of whether his DJ personality created his robust social life or whether his social life made him the DJ, it's not my point.
I find that at age 31, it becomes harder to make friends. It's not that I don't meet new people, but it seems at this age, it's hard to get past the casual acquaintance stage and forge any true friendships. These people tend to be around when they need you for something and as soon as they don't, they'll never be heard from again. I have true friends, but all of them without exception are people I met a very long time ago, and even some of them I am starting to feel not a close to anymore as everyone becomes more focused on their careers, relationships and such. It's not so hard at a younger age, but becomes increasingly harder with age.
All this has got me thinking heavily about what makes people true friends, why do some people progress to the level of true loyal friends, and why do some become nothing more than occasional activity partners that eventually disappear from the scene completely? What happens between two people that takes them from acquaintance to the level of true friend? All my true friends were at one time merely casual acquaintances I didn't care all that much about but somehow become very close friends over time. These are people I kept in touch with even when I moved to the other side of the country. I try to figure out what circumstances led to the formation of a true friendship that withstands the test of time and distance. It's all still a mystery to me. I feel like if I can figure out what caused such deep friendships, it may be possible to use that knowledge to help form more friendships in the future.
So why all this rambling? I am on the beginning of my quest to become a DJ. The more friends and the more active your social life is, the more interesting you become to women. When you don't have to sit there on Thursday night and wonder what the hell you're going to do the next night or Saturday night. Don't get me wrong, I do get to go out, but I'd say the majority of my weekend nights are spend at home alone. That has to change, but where to get started on rebuilding my social life to where I want it to be, I am not sure.
I find that at age 31, it becomes harder to make friends. It's not that I don't meet new people, but it seems at this age, it's hard to get past the casual acquaintance stage and forge any true friendships. These people tend to be around when they need you for something and as soon as they don't, they'll never be heard from again. I have true friends, but all of them without exception are people I met a very long time ago, and even some of them I am starting to feel not a close to anymore as everyone becomes more focused on their careers, relationships and such. It's not so hard at a younger age, but becomes increasingly harder with age.
All this has got me thinking heavily about what makes people true friends, why do some people progress to the level of true loyal friends, and why do some become nothing more than occasional activity partners that eventually disappear from the scene completely? What happens between two people that takes them from acquaintance to the level of true friend? All my true friends were at one time merely casual acquaintances I didn't care all that much about but somehow become very close friends over time. These are people I kept in touch with even when I moved to the other side of the country. I try to figure out what circumstances led to the formation of a true friendship that withstands the test of time and distance. It's all still a mystery to me. I feel like if I can figure out what caused such deep friendships, it may be possible to use that knowledge to help form more friendships in the future.
So why all this rambling? I am on the beginning of my quest to become a DJ. The more friends and the more active your social life is, the more interesting you become to women. When you don't have to sit there on Thursday night and wonder what the hell you're going to do the next night or Saturday night. Don't get me wrong, I do get to go out, but I'd say the majority of my weekend nights are spend at home alone. That has to change, but where to get started on rebuilding my social life to where I want it to be, I am not sure.